Love sickness often hits people whose love is unrequited, heartbroken, or in love. This can lead to a wide variety of physical and emotional problems, such as insomnia, loss of appetite, anxiety, and depression. If you experience these complaints, this article explains how to resolve them. Over time, love sickness will go away on its own, but feelings of sadness and disappointment subside faster if you apply the following tips.
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Method 1 of 3: Coping With Physical Complaints
Step 1. Implement a nightly sleep schedule consistently so that you are more easy to fall asleep.
Many people who are in love complain of not being able to sleep. If you experience it, apply the following instructions so that you quickly fall asleep and sleep soundly throughout the night.
- Get into the habit of going to bed at the same time and getting up at the same time every day, including weekends.
- Turn off electronic devices whose screens emit light, such as TVs, computers and cell phones, at least 30 minutes before going to bed.
- Don't drink caffeinated drinks after lunch until just before bedtime.
- Prepare a cool, dark, and quiet room so you can sleep soundly. Use the bedroom only to relax and sleep. Don't work, eat, or do financial transactions in the bedroom.
Step 2. If you lose your appetite, eat smaller meals, but more often than usual
Weight loss due to loss of appetite is a common complaint when you are in love. To prevent this, eat your favorite foods more often than usual, but reduce the portion at each meal. That way, you stay energized because your food intake doesn't decrease.
See a doctor for advice if you have lost a lot of weight due to loss of appetite. Usually, doctors ask you to undergo tests to find out the cause because there is a possibility, this complaint is triggered by a health problem
Step 3. Drink a cup of ginger tea if you are nauseous
Some people experience nausea and vomiting due to love sickness. Ginger is an effective natural antiemetic because it is efficacious in relieving nausea and preventing vomiting. Ginger tea can be made yourself by brewing packaged ginger tea or a piece of fresh ginger.
- To make ginger tea using fresh ginger, take a piece of ginger 2-3 cm wide, then finely chop or mash it until it crumbles. Put the ginger in a glass, then brew it with 250 milliliters of warm water. Wait for 10 minutes, then take a sip of ginger tea.
- If you don't have time to make ginger tea, chew on a small piece of fresh, peeled ginger.
Step 4. Make time to exercise for 30 minutes a day
Regular cardio is a great way to relieve stress and channel accumulated energy. Anxiety and restlessness are common when you are in love. This complaint can be overcome by exercising regularly. Choose sports activities that you enjoy so that you train consistently.
- Take time to walk around the house, cycle in the hills, do cardio at the gym, or take a dip in the nearby pool.
- If you can't exercise for 30 minutes at a time, break it up into short sessions, such as 10 minutes 3 times a day or 15 minutes 2 times a day.
Step 5. Consult a doctor if you experience chest pain
Some people who experience love sickness complain of chest discomfort. You should see a doctor as this may be due to a panic attack or a medical condition.
Warning: Seek medical attention immediately if chest or arm feels tight, stiff, cramped, or pain radiates to the neck, back, or lower jaw. This complaint is a symptom of a heart attack.
Method 2 of 3: Coping With Emotional Distractions
Step 1. Share how you feel with those closest to you
This step can ease the negative emotions of a love sickness because you feel connected to the other person. Invite a close friend or family member to chat to lighten the load and explain why.
For example, "Sis, I just broke up with _. It's really sad. If you're not busy, I want to vent."
Step 2. Cope with anxiety by relaxing for at least 15 minutes a day
Stress and anxiety are symptoms to deal with if you are in love. For that, practice calming your mind by applying relaxation techniques, for example:
- Practice yoga
- meditate
- Doing progressive muscle relaxation
- Breathe deeply
Step 3. Don't numb your feelings by consuming alcohol or drugs
If you're having trouble dealing with upset feelings or negative emotions, such as sadness or disappointment, avoid alcohol and drugs, as they can have a negative effect on your mood. If you are addicted to alcohol or drugs, see a doctor or mental health professional immediately. He can help you solve this problem.
Step 4. Apply the Pomodoro technique if you have trouble concentrating
This complaint is often experienced by people who are drunk on love. The Pomodoro Technique is a way of managing time using a schedule called a "pom". Each "pom" consists of 25 minutes. After working/studying for 25 minutes, take a 5 minute break. After completing 4 poms, take a longer break, say 20 minutes. You stay focused and more productive at work or study if you apply this method.
- Use an alarm in the kitchen or set a cell phone alarm to ring every 25 minutes (1 pom).
- Log each time you complete 1 pom to monitor how long you've been working/studying.
Step 5. Write down everything you feel in a journal or diary
In addition to relieving stress, this step helps you free yourself from the burden of thoughts and feelings. Take at least 10 minutes a day to jot down the positive and negative emotions you feel and their triggers so you can get rid of your love sickness.
For example, if you are feeling sad because of a breakup, share your sadness in a journal, when you started feeling sad, and how to deal with it
Tip: Use the phone app to remind yourself to keep a journal every day.
Step 6. Ask your doctor about taking antidepressants if you have depression
At times, severe love sickness causes depression so that you feel hopeless, sad, confused, or easily irritated. In fact, you are reluctant to do activities that have been popular. Antidepressants can help you deal with negative emotions and shorten the recovery period.
- Tell your doctor about any medications you are taking.
- Find out what side effects may occur if you take antidepressants.
Method 3 of 3: Overcoming a Love Sick
Step 1. Approach your crush if you are ready to open your heart
If you like someone and they don't have a boyfriend yet, meet up for a casual chat to let them know that you want to be friends with them and get to know them better.
- For example, say to him, "Hey, when are we going to talk again? If you have free time, let's have a coffee together!"
- If you want to meet a new friend, have a chat with him. For example, if the two of you often see each other in the school cafeteria, tell him, "I want to try a new menu, but I'm not sure which one to choose. What's your favorite dish here?"
Step 2. Begin to open your heart to forget your ex-lover
If you're heartbroken by a breakup, find a new lover. Even if you get rejected on a date, it's a helpful experience for overcoming a love hangover. Find a suitable new lover by often socializing, doing activities with friends, and getting to know new friends!
- For example, open a conversation with a college friend or coworker, then invite him to drink coffee together. Another example, an old friend wants to introduce you to someone. Don't turn down this opportunity!
- If you're in love with a troubled relationship, consider breaking up so you can live a quiet life. You will be stuck in the same situation over and over again if you expect others to change.
Step 3. Try to remember your ex's flaws so you can accept reality
If you're still disappointed that you got rejected on a date, focus on the flaws instead of remembering what made you like them. Write down the things you're lacking, then read them whenever you start to feel sad.
For example, if he has bad habits, such as biting his nails, pulling his hair, or getting angry quickly when in conflict, use this as a reminder
Step 4. Try to understand why the relationship ended
Although difficult, an effective way to deal with love sickness is to find out why relationships are problematic. Find out why the two of you are not a good match, then think about this when you feel sad or disappointed.
- For example, remember that the two of you will often fight if you stay together because he is against your political choices.
- Another example, he often lied because he had an affair. This issue will trigger prolonged drama and heartache as long as you are still with him.
Step 5. Get used to being grateful to trigger positive emotions
Gratitude can eliminate the negative emotions caused by love sickness so that you feel calm. To do so, write down things you're grateful for, verbally say thank you, or send a message to someone who helped you.
You can be grateful every chance you get, whether it's during your daily activities or when someone is kind to you. For example, say thank you when you enjoy a hot cup of coffee, ride a friend's car to work, or get a compliment
Step 6. Take time to socialize and interact with other people
Hanging out with family members and friends is an effective way of distracting and forging fruitful relationships. This step makes you free from love sickness. Make a schedule for activities together, such as walking in the park, drinking coffee, or just chatting over the phone.
Tip: Spend time with fun people. Avoid people who make you upset and stressed.
Step 7. Organize the house or bedroom if there are still many objects that hold memories
If you have lots of objects in your bedroom or home that remind you of your ex-lover or loved ones, it's best to throw them away or keep them in a closed place. Sell or donate items that cannot be returned to their owners, such as clothes, books, etc. If you want to keep it, put it in a box, then place it in a cupboard so it's not visible.
- Choose 1 or 2 items as souvenirs. Don't keep all the things that make it difficult for you to get over your ex or crush.
- Also deal with other trash that needs to be removed, such as emails, text messages, and photos that make you sad and disappointed.
Step 8. Define the goal you want to achieve as a way of changing focus
If you're stuck in sadness, try to motivate yourself and overcome your love sickness by focusing on your goals. Decide what you dream of, then try to make it come true. Make sure you set useful goals, such as earning a bachelor's degree, winning a marathon, or becoming proficient in a foreign language. Develop a detailed plan and set targets that are easy to achieve in order to realize the things you want.
- For example, if you dream of winning a marathon, follow the 5-kilometer training program to completion, then enter the 5K race.
- Another example, if you aspire to get a bachelor's degree, the first step is to register to study at the desired university.
Warning
- If you are unable to cope or are suicidal, see a doctor or mental health professional for consultation. Although it can be overcome on your own, it's a good idea to ask other people for advice, especially those who have experienced love sickness. Find someone who is ready to listen to you talk with understanding and compassion.
- Love sickness can have bad effects on physical and mental health. Researchers have shown that severe anxiety due to troubled relationships can lead to cardiovascular health problems.
