Do you want to make the relationship with your partner interesting again? While each partner has a different approach, there are some things you can do that are guaranteed to make your relationship rekindle. Read the guide below to learn more.
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Part 1 of 3: Small Actions with Big Impact
Step 1. Compliment your partner
In long-standing relationships, you usually take things for granted, so you forget to say or do the sweet things you used to love to do or say to your partner at the beginning of the relationship. Complimenting your partner can show that you still love and care for them, and can increase their self-esteem as an individual.
- Give specific compliments, not cheap compliments that you can say to anyone like "You look beautiful today".
- Compliment your partner in public or in front of other people. This will make your compliment sound more genuine and make your partner really feel special.
Step 2. Make physical contact every day
Skin to skin contact will create the hormone oxytocin which increases intimate feelings in the long run. This hormone is especially important if you live together. Give a kiss before leaving for work every morning, hug when you get home from work, or give your partner a massage to make him more relaxed.
Step 3. Make small changes to make your sex life more interesting
This can be done by women by buying and using underwear or lingerie that is a little challenging and makes you feel more attractive in front of your partner. If you live together, get rid of distractions in your room such as toys (if you have kids), paperwork, and clothes lying on the floor. Change your bed sheets, and do various other things that can make your room more comfortable to be used as a place to have sex.
- Take care of your body condition and cleanliness. Many people become lazy to have sex because they feel unattractive or less attractive. It then makes your partner feel unwanted, and ends up being an endless cycle. If you feel overweight, start to maintain a healthy diet and exercise regularly. Apart from saving your relationship, it can also save your life as you prevent diseases such as heart disease, diabetes, and some cancers, and of course make you more confident when in public.
- If you and your partner are both feeling unattractive or less attractive, then start improving yourself together. Sign up at the gym, or go hiking together, or get into the habit of jogging together every day.
Step 4. Send a seductive short message
It may sound cliché, but sending short texts that flirt with your partner can actually be an effective way.
Step 5. Make your partner laugh
Being able to laugh and enjoy good humor can take the pressure off your relationship and help you deal with the relationship twists that are bound to arise.
Tickling, pretending to wrestle, watching a comedy show, playing a game with friends, or watching a comedy movie can all be great options for a laugh together
Part 2 of 3: Long Term Improvement
Step 1. Practice forgiveness
Holding a grudge is the most effective way to destroy a relationship. If you and your partner have unresolved issues and continue to harass and ruin your relationship, it's time to forgive each other and move on.
It's not that you'll never fight again, but addressing issues that arise as soon as possible is important so they don't eat away at your relationship
Step 2. Spend time alone separately
Just because you're in a serious relationship doesn't mean you have to spend time alone together. Occasionally spending alone time apart can actually relieve boredom, maintain your relationship with friends, and feel more relaxed, all of which can lead to a better quality of relationship. Get together with your friends once in a while, or engage in relaxing activities like a spa or massage.
Spending time with each other every now and then can make your relationship more interesting because you'll be waiting for the time to get back together after being apart for a while
Step 3. Come up with an interesting date idea
Stop having regular dates and things like dinner and movies. In a long term relationship, it's important to do new things to keep your relationship interesting. If you do end up having dinner, try going to a restaurant you've never been to and try to make yourself look different and cooler, especially if you usually only wear t-shirts and jeans on dates. If you're struggling to come up with ideas, try the following ideas:
- Dance
- Having a party
- Stroll on the beach
- Ice skating
- Sauna or hot shower
- Watching sports matches
- Play board games at home
- Karaoke
- Learn to cook
Step 4. Take a trip together
Write down a list of places the two of you have never been to, and choose one that you really want to visit. If you don't have the money, cut back or sell things you don't need so you get what you need. Start researching flights and accommodations that are cost-effective, and plan the activities you will do there. Or, if you want your trip to be more interesting, try something completely spontaneous. Finally, create new memories by taking photos or videos to watch back later.
Part 3 of 3: Keep on Keeping Your Love
Step 1. Manage your stress
Stress is a part of your life, but chronic stress will significantly increase your cortisol levels. Cortisol is a hormone that can make you feel reluctant to have intimacy with other people. This can certainly damage your relationship in the long run.
- Eliminate sources of stress from your life as much as possible. Fight your stress by exercising regularly, doing yoga, and meditation. Invite your partner to do the same if he is also having trouble managing stress.
- Manage your time well to prevent stress caused by tight deadlines. Handle each of your tasks and work long before the deadline and don't wait for it to pile up. If you feel the need, set a daily schedule to make your days more purposeful.
- Always make time to do what you love. Your life must be balanced. Take time to play and relax at least one day.
Step 2. Don't overanalyze your relationship
Sometimes, the best thing you can do for your relationship is to stop overanalyzing things and enjoy the situation. Remember that everyone and every relationship has flaws, but what matters most is how you and your partner feel about each other and how each one respects the other. Relax, and enjoy your relationship.
