Do you like a guy? Safe. By acknowledging that, you've passed the first step, although it's actually a lot harder to tell him. This article will help you through the process of approaching, getting to know him, and telling him how you feel! Be brave!
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Part 1 of 3: Expressing Your Feelings for Him
Step 1. Find out if he likes you or not
If so, be confident because you have nothing to lose! If not, don't despair, you have a chance to change his mind. If in reality he has a crush on someone else, you have to move on, at least for now. However, if he doesn't have feelings for you yet, there's still plenty of room to be friendly and approach him. Here are some ways to study a guy before you approach him:
- Look for information about him. If you're shy, ask a good friend of yours to see if he likes you or is signaling you. If you know he likes you, you can be a little more daring.
- Look for the clues it gives. If a guy likes you, he tends to make an effort to be with you. (This isn't always true, but it's often a good indicator.) He'll find excuses to sit next to you, be at activities you participate in, and maybe start hanging out with your friends. Watch carefully!
- If you catch him looking at you, look him in the eye and try to make eye contact for a few seconds. If he keeps eye contact, then you know he likes you. If he averts his gaze, it could be that he likes you but is shy. Be warned, there are many reasons why people look at each other. Maybe one of the reasons is because you have spinach stuck in your teeth!
Step 2. Try to start a simple conversation with him
In order to tell a guy you like him, you first need to do an assessment. This means being in a friendly relationship, getting to know each other a little, and starting to build a closer relationship. This is also a great opportunity to learn more about a guy. This new information may influence your decision whether to tell him if you like him or not. Here are some ways to start a friendly conversation:
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You may want to start a conversation about something that will flatter him. A good conversation starter is something that makes him feel good about himself. Try some of the following conversations:
- “The football game you played last Friday was great. I watched in the stands with my friends. How long have you been playing football?”
- “You always rank first in your class on English exams. You can read every teacher's mind, can't you? or only Madam/Sir….[English teacher's name]?”
- "I like your hairstyle. You just got a haircut, didn't you?"
Step 3. Talk about the similarities between you and him
A good conversation starter is to talk about things you can do together (not that you have to share the same interests as her, she might end up liking it if you do it with you). That way, both of you will feel more comfortable.
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Here are some examples of conversation starters:
- “Hey, you know math homework? I left my notebook in class. I don't remember the homework."
- "Your sister goes to Gunn, doesn't she? According to my sister, she seems to be in the same class as your sister."
- "I see you have a Schwinn bike, don't you? Why do you like that bike? I'm planning on asking my parents to buy me a bike like that this Christmas."
- It seems obvious, but this point needs to be reiterated: don't tell him you like him, unless you're already on good terms with him. If you surprise someone you don't know well by publicly showing your interest, you may actually scare them off. At the very least, it will affect your next friendship or approach.
Step 4. Try to approach him
Usually, guys aren't too smart to notice if a girl is approaching him. This is true. The internet has tons of clues for guys trying to find the answer, “is he approaching me?” But that doesn't mean you have to be more active in approaching him. This means you have to be aware that he may not approach you, even if he likes you.
- When he is talking to you, play with your hair. This method is quite natural for most people who do not want to appear aggressive. However, if he says something while you're playing with your hair, it means he's watching you. This is an easy-to-use approach.
- Ask him for help. This is cute, but it can backfire for a number of reasons: he may not want to help you in front of his friends or your friends because he's shy. Ask for simple help like:
- Ask him to bring your backpack to class. You can tell that your bag is very heavy and you need someone strong to help you.
- Invite him to do your homework with you, even if you don't really need help. This is the perfect excuse to be close to him and also a good indicator of how patient he is.
- Most importantly, try not to look troubled. Don't try to make him feel sorry for you or anything like that.
- Smile, show your eyes, and be open. Show him everything that makes you look attractive. Give your beautiful smile, show your charming eyes, and be by his side when he is near you. He'll start to notice you right away!
Step 5. Make physical contact
Begin to show that you are interested in him by touching him in safe but impressive body parts. Try these methods for consideration:
- Hold or lean on his shoulder. Pretend that you're bored and want to rest your head on his shoulder. Or rest your arm on his shoulder. Give him a gentle look if he looks at you.
- If he's teasing you, "hit" him lightly on the shoulder. Girls often do this when the boys are flirting with them. You can pretend to be angry or laugh.
- Find an excuse to touch it. If he has really big hands, hold his hand and say something like “Wow, your hands are really big. Compare your big hands to mine!” Stick your hand with his.
Step 6. If you're ready to tell it, know that there are several ways to do it
If you dare, just say so. You have to meet him without his friends and at the right time. Try to appear confident (better yet, be confident). Start a casual conversation and wait for a break to tell him.
Step 7. If you're afraid to hear the answer, ask her out
This is a great method to try because you're not publicly showing your interest, only the possibility of further interest. The question you should ask is if he wants to go out with you. If he responds favorably to your approach and when conversing, there's no reason for him to refuse! Try something like:
- “Hey, I'm going to the movies on Saturday with my friends. If he doesn't leave, will you go with me?"
- “I almost fainted going to that haunted house on Main Street and I haven't met anyone brave enough. You dare?"
- “My parents and I always go to the fair every year. Don't ask why, it's a long story. They wanted to know if I wanted to invite a schoolmate. Do you want to come along?"
Step 8. If you want to express it indirectly, you can use notes to tell it
You can provide the notes yourself or ask a trusted friend for help.
- Write a sweet note that says “I like you” and stick it in her locker.
- Write “I like you” on a piece of paper, making sure who the letter is addressed to and “not” from whom. Ask some of your friends to pass it around and give it to them "at random". If he reads the note and looks around expectantly, you can either signal that you wrote it or let him guess on his own.
Step 9. Whatever the answer, you have to be confident
If he says yes, you have to be confident that he likes you for who you are and that you're a really nice person. Don't question his reaction. You've been acting stupid if you said "true?" if he says he likes you too. You have reason to be confident.
If he doesn't like you, ignore him by saying something like, “Oh, okay. It does not matter." Then, move on with your life! Remember, "no" doesn't mean he thinks you're a bad girl. The motivations may vary. Think with confidence that his tastes just don't suit yours and there are plenty of guys out there who would be lucky to have you. Bear in mind that
Step 10. If you're brave, send an SMS that says “Oh my gosh, (insert name) so cool
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then send another SMS that says "Uh, sorry, that text was for (insert your friend's name.)" If he likes you, then there's no reason for him not to ask you out.
Part 2 of 3: Mental Preparation
Step 1. Determine how you feel about the person you like
Romantic feelings can be confusing! Give yourself at least a few days to determine how you feel and follow some of the suggestions in this article. If you act too quickly, your feelings for him may change over time.
- Ask yourself the following questions: “Do I have real romantic feelings for this guy or am I just infatuated? “What things do I like about this guy?” “What goal do I want?” If you can't answer these questions, try to get to know them better before continuing.
- Only you know if you really like someone. However, if you feel brave to take a risk, you can try filling out an online quiz and interpreting the results as you see fit.
Step 2. Don't overthink it
No matter how attractive a guy you like, he is still a human! He may be anxious when talking about a girl he likes as much as you. Even though it's not visible yet, it may have a lot of flaws. Don't get too emotionally involved in a relationship that hasn't even started yet!
If you're having trouble erasing the perfect image of a guy you like, try imagining things about him that, even if they're small, will make him look silly or stupid! Did he pronounce the word “epitome” to “ep-it-tom”?” Knowing that everyone has flaws will make even the most attractive guy a lot easier to approach
Step 3. Watch his behavior
Does it seem like he pays special attention to you? Does he smile a lot when he's around you? Or conversely, does he tease you and pretend to ignore you? These are all signs that a guy might like you. If you can identify any signs of attraction, you'll have an easier time telling him you like him because you already know how he feels!
A guy's body language can reveal the emotions in him. Does he position his chest and shoulders towards you, even if his attention is momentarily distracted by something else? Does he often look you in the eye? He's probably thinking of a way to tell a girl he likes her
Step 4. Realize that negative responses are no big deal
Even if you try your best, he may not respond to your interest. Realize this as a possibility and don't worry about it. If he says no, it doesn't mean he hates you. He just doesn't want to date you. This attitude could be for a number of reasons. Here are some reasons:
- He may still be shaken by the painful heartbreak.
- Emotionally, he may feel that it is too soon to get into a relationship.
- He may feel happy living without a partner.
Step 5. Ignore the notion that guys have to take the initiative first
In the past, it was considered unnatural for a girl to ask a guy out. Now, the stigma has disappeared. However, many girls are still hesitant to ask a guy out. A study conducted on people who were in college in 2011 found that 93 percent of girls would rather be asked out by guys. Be proactive! If you're confident enough to approach the guy first, you'll be dating a lot.
Part 3 of 3: After He Says Yes
Step 1. Plan a date
Keep this momentum. Don't let the attraction go away because you're both too scared to plan a date. You don't have to start dating right away when you find out that you like each other. Try to plan a date in a week or two. By dating, the two of you will get to know each other better and you will learn to know if you are a romantic partner or not.
- The best time to plan a date is on the weekends after you find out you like each other.
- For a first date, try to make plans to at least have time to talk. For example, if you want to watch a movie, plan to have dinner too. A good first date is usually relaxed, unstressed, and truly "you."
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Dating doesn't have to be expensive. A sweet first date can be done with simple activities like doing homework and having a picnic in the park. Here are some cheap date ideas if you're having a hard time figuring out a date plan:
- Come to a carnival, fair, or amusement park in your area.
- Go roller skating or ice skating together. If one of you is not a good skater, you will both hold hands to keep from falling!
- Hiking. If you can reach or pretend to reach the top of a hill in your area, you will be taken to a place that has beautiful (and romantic) views.
Step 2. Don't worry yourself
The time between expressing interest and going on a date can be stressful, but try not to worry. A first date is an opportunity to get to know someone.
If you are really worried, tell your friends about it. They might be able to tell a funny first date story. At least they can remind you that first dates don't have to be stressful
Step 3. Keep in touch, but don't overdo it
Feel free to text the guy you like before the first date, but don't overdo it. It might be tempting to give him a compliment, especially if you both really like each other. Resist the temptation, actions that are too excessive and too fast can lead to disappointment, especially if the guy is less romantic than you. Some dating advice even recommends creating a mysterious sensation before the first date by doing "radio silence" (not answering the phone or texting back).
Step 4. Be yourself on a date
When you know someone likes you too, you might find it a little difficult not to change your behavior a little. But remember, he likes you just the way you are. There's no need to imitate a princess's made-up personality on a first date! Act normally when you're around him, use humor that you both understand, and at the same time tease him. If you are a great match, then that's usually what needs to be done.
Tips
- Try to act like you're confident or better yet, be confident. This attitude will make you appear calmer in his eyes and make you feel more comfortable with yourself.
- If he rejects you, don't be upset or ask why. However, don't ignore each other. Carry on with your life like nothing happened before. At least he knows now that you are interested in him and he will think about you more often.
- Guys have feelings too. If he hints that he's anxious or embarrassed, don't laugh and don't hurt or insult him. This can indeed be tempting especially if done playfully. However, you have to endure this attitude until you are really "acquainted" with him.
- If you're finally going to tell him you like him, say it slowly. Start with something you know/deem interesting to him, then give the cue.
- Don't say "I'm just kidding" or anything like that if he doesn't respond. If he doesn't respond, you're better off ignoring him than being childish.
- Ask yourself “Do I really want this relationship?” before you go too far.
- If you ask him if he likes you, do it when he's alone. When he is with his friends, he will be under pressure to appear calm in front of them and the answer tends to be "no" to cover up his true feelings.
- If you think he likes you, you can always stay close to him. Sitting next to him or walking with him might help.
- The worst place to express your feelings is at a party. You can ask him to speak privately, but he may leak and tell his friends what you have to say.
- Make funny stories that match the ongoing conversation. Guys like girls who are humorous.
- Be comfortable and candid when you're around him. You've probably heard this advice hundreds of times, but just be yourself. You have the right not to have to change for someone's sake just to get their approval. If a guy "really" likes you, he will accept you for who you are.
- The most important thing to remember is that if you're spending time with him, being friendly with him, paying attention to him, you don't have to say that you like him. Everything must be seen.
- Don't approach other men at the same time. At least don't let him see this. Focusing only on him shows that you like him.
- You might try to get him to come over to your house to study together. If you are going to express your feelings to him, you should be alone and in a calm state.
- Make friends with his friends, but don't get too close. When you hang out with him and his friends, he'll know that you share the same interests as his friends and you can get to know them well. If you can get along, then he knows you've been open.
- Before you express your feelings, be considerate of them. But don't be too obvious. Give him gifts but not too often. When you are on vacation, don't give him something, but give a gift to your friend in front of him. It's like a "hard to get" game, so he'll be more interested in you when you tell him how you feel.
- Don't tell her how you feel about her via email or text. Everyone will appreciate it more if you are brave enough to say it in private.
Warning
- If you tell him you like him, don't be surprised if he's a little surprised. He may never think that you like him.
- Don't always text the guy you like. This will make you look silly and obsessed with it. It's different if he always replies to your SMS, then you can continue to text him (for a reason).
- Be selective with who you tell if you like him, especially if you are in the same school. Words can spread quickly. The best way to keep this a secret is to keep it in your heart. If you have to tell someone, tell a friend who kept your last secret or better yet someone living far away from you who won't tell the guy you like (like a pen pal or a friend from a different school than you).
- Don't talk about her past (dating or casual conversation) if you know things about it. No one can control his past. More than likely, he will refuse to answer and ask you why talk about it. Worst case scenario, you'll look like you're looking for information about him.
