Life's fast-paced and rushed will eventually harm your health and good relationships with others. You want to live simply and peacefully, avoiding unrealistic goals and pressures to be the perfect person. You can achieve that kind of life by setting your schedule, rethinking your priorities, and changing your physical environment.
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Method 1 of 3: Setting a Schedule
Step 1. Live slowly
You may be so used to living in a hurry that you don't realize how fast your life is now. Read the phrase "live slowly" so you can pause your pace of life and become aware of what's around you. This step was mentioned at the beginning so you can keep thinking about it after reading this article.
- Avoid doing many things at once. Multi-tasking is so popular and cliché. Research shows that at some point, the quality of work will decline if you focus on too many things at one time. Just because everyone is doing different things at the same time, doesn't mean you need to do the same thing.
- Consider how much work you can do at one time. Once you get to a point, everything you do decreases in quality. Your goal is: to do well so that you feel good about your accomplishments.
- Treat not doing something the same as doing something. Not doing something is an art. Many people find it uncomfortable to pause and rethink. Even if you only have five minutes to do something, do it.
Step 2. Reduce your commitment
If you currently have commitments to complete, complete them first. However, after that, reduce the commitments you make. It may be difficult at first, but focus on your intention to simplify life. You will feel calmer. Keep in mind your goal (which is to achieve simplicity); make it a motivation and guilt reliever.
- Reduce the number of commitments you have by keeping track of the number of times you say "Yes" on a calendar. First, determine how much work you can do at one time. Then, stick to that number. No one can always say "Yes" to all the commitments offered.
- When you are asked to participate in an event, don't answer right away. Pause for a moment, then consider whether the event will enrich your life. If not, say: "Thanks for inviting me, but I can't come."
- Develop the ability to say "no" by saying what you want to do. Sometimes people will reject a "no" answer, but you can reply back by giving reasons why you said no. For example, "Thank you for considering me to join this event. However, I need to focus on some things that are very important to me and my family and health. I have had to decline your invitation." The person concerned will be more likely to accept your decision.
Step 3. Get rid of anything superfluous
Are you consuming too much stuff? Are you spending too much or wasting money to show your social status to others? In order to live simply, you need to get rid of all that is superfluous. The goal is to cut extra expenses so that you are not held back by financial burdens.
- Consider whether you really need a third iPad or that new electronic device. In fact, consider whether or not you really need a twice-a-day visit to that expensive cafe. You just say "no" to yourself and say "yes" to your goal of living simply and peacefully. Whenever you are faced with a choice, you can make the right choice.
- You can find happiness in the simple things in life, like spending time with friends, being outdoors, or building something with your own two hands. These simple things contain intrinsic satisfaction, which will increase your motivation and overall life satisfaction.
Step 4. Tidy up your residence
Humans create their world in the environment and fill it with various objects. If you want to simplify your life, pay attention to your surroundings and tidy things up. A tidy home is a healthy home. Set aside extra items that you no longer use or need. In this way, you will tidy up your home, feelings, and thoughts. When the environment around you is tidy, the environment in your heart will follow.
- Every day, take 10 minutes to tidy up your surroundings.
- On weekends or holidays, take the time to do bigger cleaning projects, such as cleaning cupboards, drawers, and the garage.
- Make three classifications for your objects, namely "Save"; "Donate"; "Waste". By donating items that are still usable to humanitarian organizations, you are giving others the opportunity to enjoy what you have. In addition, you also provide work for the workers who take care of your donations. You are helping others with every donation you make. This will increase your self-confidence.
Method 2 of 3: Rethink Your Life Priorities
Step 1. Define your values
Consider the various qualities or things that are valuable to you that influence your behavior and ultimately improve who you are. This property or thing is called value. Your values are a guide in decision making. It's hard to pinpoint the values you've held so far, but the results will be worth it.
- To find your worth, think about the experiences when you were happiest, proudest, and most satisfied. Make a list and determine what you value in these situations. Perhaps you value the creativity, adventure, fidelity, or work ethic that comes with these situations. Perhaps you will realize that the most important thing to you is your family. These things are guides in everything you do.
- If you want to live simply and peacefully, you may value serenity, ingenuity, stability, and health.
Step 2. Align your activities with values
Get involved in activities that align with your values and desire for simplicity. You can know this harmony by listening to your heart. If you are in tune, you will feel satisfied and happy. However, otherwise, you will feel unfulfilled and sad.
- Turn down invitations that go against your intention to live simply.
- Decide to live by your values. To do this, you certainly need discipline and focus, which can be trained with yoga and exercise.
Step 3. Make a plan and stick to it
You can create changes in a structured way with problem solving methods. You have determined your desire to live simply and peacefully. Now you need to set clear goals, carry out those goals, make changes as needed, and watch your progress.
- Set clear goals, such as making a schedule and keeping track of your efforts to simplify life. You can make real change by taking care of yourself.
- Choose a date for your plan, then get started. Don't put off what you can't procrastinate. Get started as soon as possible.
- Be aware of your progress and reward yourself. If you are successful in achieving your daily, weekly, or monthly goals, celebrate that success. Maybe you could go to the movies, attend a sporting event, or plant a tree in the name of someone you admire. Positive self-esteem will be a motivation for you to continue the plan you have set.
- If a strategy doesn't work for you, stop. Look for an alternative and incorporate that alternative into your plan. You don't have to think of this as a failure. View this as a correction in your steps towards achieving your goals.
- Gradually, your new behavior will become a regular thing. As this happens, you can cut back on sticking to your plans and still get positive results.
Step 4. Get used to living in the present
Avoid thinking too much about the past or the future. Thoughts that wander away are unhappy thoughts. To simplify your thoughts, you need to keep them quiet and focus on what you're doing right now.
- Use visualization exercises. Imagine that you are in a peaceful and stress-free environment. This will silence your mind.
- Talk to someone, or go for a workout. They are both effective ways to keep you in the present.
Step 5. Keep a diary of the things you are grateful for
Such a diary has many benefits, such as better sleep and increased health and happiness. All are factors that create a sense of peace in life. To get the best benefits, there are a few things you need to pay attention to:
- Start with the intention to be happier and more grateful.
- Write down the things you are grateful for in detail, not in short sentences.
- Be grateful for the presence or behavior of people, not possessions.
- Consider how your life would be different if something you are grateful for wasn't there. This will strengthen your gratitude.
- Include a variety of surprises that you did not expect before.
- Avoid forcing writing every day because it will only demoralize. Write once or twice a week.
Step 6. To create peace, practice empathy and compassion
You need to develop the skill of appreciating the struggles of others. For some people this is easy, but for others it may be difficult. You know exactly how you want to be treated; treat others as you would want others to treat you.
If you want to practice empathy and compassion, reach out to a family member or friend and help him out. You can do something for him, maybe something as easy as unloading his groceries or watering his plants. The goal is to give the other person the same feelings and actions you would appreciate when someone else did it for you
Step 7. To improve the relationship, change your feelings from hate to gratitude
A person's internal and external feelings of sadness usually arise from conflicts with other people. If you hold a grudge, it's tantamount to drinking poison while hoping that someone else will suffer. With gratitude, you will heal your heart and reduce hatred. When you start to feel resentful, stop and then ask yourself these questions:
- Do I feel comfortable when I think of this person?
- Are my negative feelings in my favor?
- Did my vengeful thoughts towards this person have any actual effect?
- The obvious answers are "no", "no", and "no". Then, change the statement into grateful statements, such as "I feel good when I let go of my hatred for this person; the reason I want to grow is to make me feel more comfortable; my focus is on improving the quality of my life and not destroying it." other people's lives."
Method 3 of 3: Changing Your Environment
Step 1. Change residence
If you live in an area with a high population density, you may feel stressed. A change in the environment, from being frenetic to peaceful, will ease your path to a simpler life. Your home is your temple.
- If you need to live near where you currently live, look for properties you can rent or buy. To make things easier, use property management services.
- If you want to make a big change, find out about areas that are far away but still give you what you want. You will feel more comfortable and more positive if you live near the sea, in the mountains, or on the top floor of a skyscraper.
Step 2. Buy a small house
A small house with everything you need. It has everything you need to live comfortably even in a very small room. You can build this house on a plot of land, connected to a water and sewer network, and you are ready to call it a house.
You can sell or mortgage your big house for a small, peaceful and eco-friendly house
Step 3. Make your transportation easier
There are many people who buy luxury cars at the same price as the price of a house. This is another case that shows that you can be free from financial burdens by not buying an item.
- You can buy a small car that is environmentally friendly. This car can take you anywhere you want to go. Environmentally friendly also means simpler.
- Buy a bicycle and take it to the office. Cycling is a fun sport. In addition, you do not have to bother looking for a parking space.
Step 4. Change jobs
There's nothing more annoying than a job you don't like but still have to do every day. If all your efforts to make the job more enjoyable have failed, change your job or career. If you're spending 80 hours per week hitting a sales quota that's stressing you out, it's time to switch to a simpler job.
- You may find that you don't really need a lot of money to live your new lifestyle. This will give you more flexibility in finding a job that is more aligned with your goals, values and interests.
- Contact a job counselor at the nearest college or private practice. You can find out what you can do and find out what you really want to do.
Step 5. Prioritize yourself and your health
This you need to do to achieve a simple and peaceful life. Develop your own lifestyle. Use schedules and routines to create a healthy balance between work, play, and rest.
- Including, creating a healthy eating plan that will refresh the body and give you energy to exercise. You may have to change your perspective on the sport, but you will get results.
- Meditate and rest. You will enjoy life more.
Step 6. Take responsibility for your own happiness
Be independent. Happiness is self-employment; You are responsible for your own happiness. Only you know the things that will make you happy. Take part in various activities that will make you feel happy. You will be better able to deal with difficult situations if you are full of positivity. Higher happiness will always lead to better situations and relationships.
Tips
- It's never too late to visit a therapist or psychiatrist, if you want of course.
- Change is not easy, but you can still do it if you try and find ways to deal with the various problems that arise.
- Be patient with yourself and this process of change.
- Friends and family will be of great help when you are trying to change your life. Accept their help.
