Did a girl just reject your love? Accepting rejection from the person you like is not a pleasant situation. For some people, the situation is even the biggest scourge that can disrupt their sanity. If you have recently experienced something similar, do not rush to feel down. Understand that you are not the only person in this world who has experienced rejection; even handsome men or beautiful women have experienced it, you know! Want to know how to deal with rejection with a positive and wise mind? Read on for this article!
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Part 1 of 3: Preparing to Ask the Woman of Your Dreams
Step 1. Recognize that rejection is a common reality
If you want to date someone, of course you have to be brave enough to ask them out, right? If you ask someone out, you have to be prepared to accept rejection. In fact, rejection is an unavoidable part of the dating process.
Step 2. Hit your expectations
Remember, he's not obligated to accept your declaration of love or date you. On the other hand, you have an obligation to convey your goals in a polite and civilized manner; surely, you too will receive an equally positive response.
Step 3. Be aware of the "too flowery" feeling of falling in love
Nobody is perfect; but most likely you will forget this jargon if your heart is blooming because of blind love. Constructing an ideal version of someone before getting to know them well is sure to lead to disappointment. As a result, your heart will be broken into pieces when your love is rejected by him. As a result, no other woman will be able to live up to your unreasonable expectations. Remember, no human is perfect; In other words, the woman you like must have flaws that you need to understand objectively. By having that perspective, you will undoubtedly have greater courage to ask him out and be able to respond to rejection more gracefully.
Step 4. Remember, the person you like is also a human being
If someone asks you out and you turn them down, does that mean you hate them? Most likely not, right? Like men, women also have complex emotions. Rejection is not an absolute indicator that he doesn't like you; Maybe he rejected you because he was in a bad mood. In other words, you asked him out at the wrong time. Always remember that the person you like is a living being with feelings.
Step 5. Have other options
Keep your friendship with those closest to you. Trust me, rejection will be easier to deal with if you have friends who are always willing to support you. You can also like more than one girl, you know! That way, when he rejects you, you can switch to another woman.
Part 2 of 3: Asking Your Dream Girl
Step 1. Don't procrastinate
Generally, someone tends to wait for the right time to ask the man/woman of his dreams on a date. But believe me, the right time will never come! If you wait too long, he's more likely to take it as a sign that you're not interested in him. Your emotional state will definitely be burdened by waiting too long for a response; As a result, your heart will feel more broken when you receive rejection from him. Try asking her out when you're both in a relaxed situation; surely you will find it easier to convey what you mean and not be too hurt when you receive a rejection.
Step 2. State your goal as clearly as possible
Why bother trying if in the end your words are misunderstood by him? Make sure he knows that you like him romantically, not as a friend; by doing so, you will surely receive an honest response from him. After all, he must accompany his response with an explanation that will provide valuable insight and experience for you. Read WikiHow's tips for asking girls out.
Step 3. Don't question the response
In other words, respect the decision, whatever it may be. If he accepts your date, don't make him think again by asking, "Seriously?". On the other hand, if he rejects you, don't show your desperation by asking, "Are you sure?". Remember, it's the final decision at that time. Learn to accept his decisions calmly and positively and show that you respect them; Surely, it will be easier for you to continue living after that.
Step 4. Listen to why
If he rejects you, try taking the opportunity to learn more about himself (or even you). After the rejection, it's more likely that you and he will be able to chat more honestly and openly. Therefore, listen carefully to his words and use the information you receive to achieve your goals in the future. Knowing the reason for the rejection will also help you get through times of heartbreak more easily (especially if the reason feels far-fetched or unrelated to your personality). Some examples of impersonal reasons are:
- He's too busy to date.
- He is experiencing personal and/or emotional problems.
- He already has a girlfriend.
- He prefers to be single.
Part 3 of 3: Moving On After Rejection
Step 1. Understand that rejection is not always personal
In many cases, rejection is not rooted in a person's character. If the girl you like rejects your love, it doesn't mean she hates you or thinks you are less attractive. Although the reasons behind each person's refusal are different, generally rejection occurs because of "the wrong time", not because of "who the person is".
Step 2. Accept the awkwardness that arises
If your ideal woman is someone you often meet in your daily life, it's only natural for the situation between you to become awkward after the rejection incident. Do not worry; let time work to normalize your relationship with him. Awkwardness can take many forms, such as:
- Silence
- Avoidance or neglect
- Feeling annoyed or annoyed
- Unnatural overly friendly behavior
Step 3. Keep yourself busy with the people around you
Change your perspective! View rejection as a positive blessing because after receiving it, you become motivated to find your happiness with the help of others. Take the opportunity to do social activities that you don't usually do; spend time with your closest friends, ask other girls out, go on blind dates, etc. Scientifically, positive interactions with other people are proven to increase one's happiness. What are you waiting for?
Step 4. Focus on your personal aspirations
After experiencing a broken heart, take as much time as possible to develop yourself and pursue your dreams. Trust me, doing so will make you look more attractive in the eyes of others; Over time, you will surely find other women who have similar interests to you.
Step 5. Consider trying again at an appropriate time
Remember, one rejection doesn't necessarily take away all your chances of dating her in the future. But that doesn't mean you can annoy him by asking him out every day, right! After accepting his refusal, detach yourself for a moment from him; give him time and opportunity to think, allow the situation between you to change before asking him out again.
