Many people want to exist and be “part of the group”. If you want to be a leader and stand out from the crowd, then this article is for you. It's great to know that you are unique and genuine.
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Part 1 of 3: Knowing Yourself
Step 1. Realize that you are unique
For starters, know that you are already different from everyone else on this planet. Of course, there are people who are more different than others, but we all have experiences and characters that make us different from everyone else on Earth. No one else has the same brain as you, thinks the same as you, and reacts the same way as you. You are different from just being a human.
Having a stamp is useless. Even trying to be different is something that is not really achievable. Cultural changes indicate from the outset that people will function differently. Try to accept that you are unique and improve yourself. Who are you?
Step 2. Be yourself
In order for you to be different, you have to be you -- not a duplicate of someone else. This process can be scary if you don't know yourself. To be yourself, you need to find the real you. Do you know what you like? How are you really? Who are you when no one else is?
It is very important to love yourself. If you don't like yourself, you'll end up being someone else – or becoming someone you're not to please others
Step 3. Take some time alone
It's perfectly normal these days to be bombarded with stimuli -- be it on screens or the people around us. To really know who you are and what makes you different, take some time alone. Take it all off. What's the rest? Ponder what is important to you.
We are always told what to wear, what to eat, what to say, what to look like, how to behave, what to read, what to watch… you know. Alone and suddenly you have no direction. You will have a strange feeling, sitting there, thinking about what you wouldn't miss if you didn't have to wear/eat/talk/do/read/watch that again. Think about the things in your environment that are presented to you and which you openly accept
Step 4. Know what you want
Be careful with wanting to be different. Maybe you're with a mismatched group of friends and the voices in your head are being misinterpreted. Does it mean any different to you?
What do you know as normal? What are the things about people that make you think they are “the same”? Everyone's understanding of "different" is actually different. What are their appearances? Their behavior? Talk to them? Their dreams?
Step 5. Know how you want to be different
When you determine what “different” means to you, “how” do you want to achieve it? If you're in a circle of friends who eat only Swedish protein bars and wear pink every Wednesday, how do you stand out on your own? Do you want to be a mathematician or do you just want to hit the ground running in purple? You can be different in a variety of ways.
Part 2 of 3: Finding Your Uniqueness
Step 1. Pay attention to your surroundings
A Japanese shaking hand instead of bowing would be different in the culture, but normal in the west. Reading Thoreau for fun is normal for certain groups, while "normal" for others is reading Cosmopolitan magazine. To know how to be different, you need to consider your environment. Think of three words to describe your environment. Now, what is the opposite?
We're back to the movie "Mean Girls." Three words to describe his surroundings? Shallow. Big head. And surprisingly, evil. Want to be different from “the Plastics”? You need to be a serious thinker, and dislike looks, and be a good person. However, being a good person in other environments is normal (and expected). How is your circle?
Step 2. Pay attention
Take a step back from your surroundings for a moment, and pay attention. How do people behave? How do they interact with each other (friends, strangers, cashiers, lovers)? What assumptions did they take? How do they dress? If you enter into it, how can you not enter into that form?
- Obviously there is a very extreme spectrum in this. Something casual, like wearing a brightly colored shirt, can make you stand out from the crowd in a cafe on a gloomy day.
- You can make small changes to your behavior -- when the cashier at the cafe asks what you'd like to order, you can say, “Hmm. Do not know. How was your day?"
- You can go in the wrong direction – get loud, throw things, start dancing on the table – it definitely sets you apart from common etiquette. But it will also get you kicked out.
Step 3. Do what you like
Honestly, you're going to enjoy some things that are trendy and things that aren't. It does not matter! As long as you do what you love, you will have a unique combination just for you. Maybe you like baking bread, jiujitsu martial arts, and frugal shopping. If you like it, it will feel right.
It doesn't matter what other people think or do. Would you like to sing a song by Jekyll & Hyde at a karaoke in German? Cool. Do. Would you like to buy a bag from Abercrombie & Fitch? If it makes you happy, do it. Just make sure someone else isn't telling you to do that
Step 4. Try something new
We are used to being raised as part of a group. Therefore, we are introduced to things that have been agreed upon by our group beforehand. This is great – it opens us up to things we don't know – but it's also important for us to try new things that no one else knows. Otherwise, how do we know what we like and what we don't?
Step 5. Color outside the stripes
From childhood, we are like brainwashed to enter society. We wear clothes, eat with cutlery, go to school, do things according to our gender, etc. and so on. It's hard to imagine you could get out of the box like this. You can color outside of the existing lines. We just haven't realized this yet.
Think about how you would react if you wore a dinosaur costume. Suddenly you burst into the room and wave your little hand and sneak peeks at people just because you can do that. You can do this in real life. You just choose not to…why?
Step 6. Be silly
If the dinosaur example isn't enough, instead of just coloring outside the lines, you don't need to use crayon drawings on parchment paper. If you want to wear headphones to school and dance like in Selena Gomez's music video, basically, "You can." If you want to wear a hat in the shape of the state of Texas and stand outside a Wal-Mart store all night, if you can find one, "you can." (Not that you have to, but you definitely can)
There will be people who don't like dinosaur costumes, public dancing, and oddly shaped hats. Know that if you want to push boundaries and step beyond boundaries, you're bound to run into resistance. If you can handle it, do it. Just remember there will be many people who do not like things that are not normal
Part 3 of 3: Doing It
Step 1. Shake your enemy's hand
It is a way of acting that is different from people's expectations. A good way of course! And see how it turns out – who knows, if you have to deal with a cop, shake his hand, ask him about him, and see if you can avoid getting a fine. You probably can.
One way to really be different is to be kind to everyone. How many people do you know who are friendly to everyone? Maybe not much. Hard work! We all end up judging the people around us and pointing at certain people around us. Instead, be friendly to people you wouldn't normally be friendly with. You will be different and learn a lot
Step 2. Dress for yourself
It's easy to get caught up in what society thinks is appropriate to wear and what looks good. While this is hard to avoid completely (without making your own clothes), go for a food court style dress -- take what you want and leave the rest. Do you like a certain trend? Good. Would you rather wear rain boots from 1972 than a pair of Uggs? Cool – maybe your mom has a pair in her closet.
Step 3. Don't get caught up in the game
It's hard to find examples that "everyone" does. You might say, for example, “listening to unpopular music”, but there are a lot of people who do that. However, one thing that is a common character is drama. We love him. If you want to be different, avoid it! Don't make it a part of your life. And don't start it either!
Because of how interacting with people works, we all end up playing a lot. A friend asks if we are angry and we say no to calm things down, even though we are. We do things to get attention, we trick people, we use tactics to get what we want, even if it's not the best. If you notice a desire like this, try to resist it. Being a true and honest person is a character to be proud of and makes us more unique
Step 4. Say what other people think
One of the games people play is not saying what we mean. We fear being different, making noise, hurting people's feelings, or being embarrassed. There were times when everyone in the room thought the same thing, but no one said it. The adage “there is an elephant in the room” exists for a reason! Be that person!
Most people get caught up in what they look like or the impression they give off, to actually do what they want to do. They are fettered by thinking of others and “not” being themselves to truly live on a genuine level. If you find yourself not doing something because of someone else, do it anyway! (Surely still within the limits of the law)
Step 5. Don't try to impress
In case you haven't noticed, there's a pattern here of how other people's opinions shouldn't matter. Since most people are busy with impressing people with them and how they are rated, try not to do that. Often we make the most impression when we are not trying to impress!
Have you ever heard that love will come when you stop looking? Just like this. Instead of presenting an image to the world, simply present yourself. Much better and unique
Step 6. Know that the world works in reverse
Nothing looks the way it is. Many people want to be different but end up looking the same! Being quiet means that when you speak, people will hear you loudly. When you don't try to attract a boy or girl, they will be attracted to you. So "trying" to be different may not get you anywhere.
Wearing a squirrel suit (or dinosaur costume) and entering a bar, for example, doesn't mean you're any different. On the one hand, it says, “Look at me!” just like wearing a miniskirt and high heels. So if you want to be different, think about what you are going to do first. Will the opposite happen?
Step 7. Know that you will bump into other heads
Society is not good at accepting what is not trendy. People are admired for her beauty and style -- few are admired for expanding our boundaries and coloring beyond boundaries. Such people may not accept Adana with open arms. And that's fine! You don't need them. But you need to know it will happen. That way, you'll be ready when it happens.
Aristotle said, "To avoid criticism do not speak, do nothing, be nothing." This was something he pronounced correctly. Criticism will be there when you get out of the box. Consider this a good thing! By accepting criticism, you do something. you are noticed. You show other people new things. Extraordinary! you are different
Tips
- Remember that self-discovery is an ongoing process. You at 15 are different from when you are 22, or 49, or 97! Our needs and interests change as we get older. The things that were important before, sometimes don't matter anymore. Wisdom will replace petty ambition as we learn to grow from ourselves.
- Be open minded, or at least try. Learn to see the world from a different perspective (and not just from a human perspective). Don't be afraid of those who challenge your prejudices and values.
- Try to be at peace with yourself. Being surprised when people don't like your quirks is plain stupidity on your part. If you don't want to accept other people's opinions or innuendo, you have no choice but to keep your weirdness to yourself.
- Do what you love and don't think about what people say.
- Do not act above those who are no different. Most of them like their style and the television shows they watch. Remember, things that are popular become popular for a reason. Don't ignore them, just as you might love them. You'll be surprised by the smarts on "The O. C."'s, or fall in love with The Plain White T's.
Warnings
- Don't brand yourself. Just because you think you're a gang member, or a “gangsta,” doesn't mean you won't like ballet.
- Remember that being weird isn't always better than "being normal." Everyone is weird in their own way, even if they follow the rules of society.
- Please note that if you ask people how to be different, you destroy your purpose. This means that if you ask other people how to be different, you will not be different because most of them will say the things they would do to be different. So asking other people how to be different is impossible because without realizing it, they will tell you how to be like them. It's a paradoxical puzzle, right?
- Acting carelessly to look different is often annoying and, again, very shallow. It won't help you see the world in a new or different way.
