We live in a fast-paced era: what you want must be right now and right now! This principle has even entered the realm of love. Even though the love you get may not last “forever”, you can find a lover quickly and bring him to his knees within a week.
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Part 1 of 3: Selecting a Target
Step 1. Think about who you want to be
First, decide who you want to partner with and write down the names of the “candidates”. Use this list to narrow your search and focus on guys you feel like you're going to get along with.
- Make a list of men who are clearly single and find attractive.
- Think of all the positives and negatives of every man. For example, one of the candidates may be attractive and adorable, but you don't have much in common with them. Don't get hung up on appearances; think about who you might be compatible with and want as a lover.
- Feel free to include the names of guys who are already friends with you, but who might be interested in being your boyfriend. Who knows he also feels the same way as you, but you never know because you don't open the door and give him a chance.
- If you want someone you don't know, think about the personality, physical appearance, and level of intelligence you want. That way, you know who you're looking for when meeting new people, and can gauge whether someone could be your potential lover.
Step 2. Leave where you live and start searching
Go to places where the type of guy you like usually goes, like a coffee shop, library, gym, or beach.
- Make sure you appear open and friendly. Don't hide your face behind a book when you're at a coffee shop, for example, or too busy chatting with friends.
- Visit these places alone, wear interesting clothes, and try to meet someone's gaze with a smile.
Step 3. Use a dating site on the internet (if you are over 18 years old)
Some dating sites on the internet give new members a free trial period of 7 days so you can use it to find a potential lover.
- Create an account on (at least) 3 sites so you get a more diverse selection of men.
- Find 5 guys you're interested in and match your age, place of residence, personality, or other “prerequisites” you specify, and email them. By selecting 5 people, you have a greater chance of making friends or interacting with (at least) one of them and having a romantic relationship at the end of the 7 day trial period.
Step 4. Visit a singles gathering
Another great way to meet a potential lover in a short amount of time is to join a singles-themed activity or group gathering on the weekends. Apart from meeting lots of potentially attractive single men, you can also enjoy the same hobbies as them.
Step 5. Increase your potential through speed dating (if you are over 18)
Speed dating is becoming an increasingly popular way to get into a romantic relationship and find a lover quickly.
- Find information on speed date nights held in your city from the internet and register.
- Usually, you can "date" several guys for 30-60 seconds in one night.
- Maybe you can find someone you want to see again after trying to find a partner that night!
Part 2 of 3: Raising Interest
Step 1. Exit the "friend zone" or friend zone
In simple terms, this zone refers to a mismatch of romantic feelings. For example, someone wants to date you, while you just want to be friends with them. It's best if you're already friends with a guy you're interested in, but you need to get into "dating" territory by spreading the flames of romance and making yourself more attractive than just a friend.
- Wear clothes that fit your body shape, in colors that match the color of your skin, eyes, and/or hair.
- Accentuate your best body parts with additional makeup or hairdos.
- You don't have to be too flashy, but at least put more effort into improving your appearance while trying to catch his attention during the week.
Step 2. Build an attractive attitude and personality
Appearance is not the only aspect that builds interest. Your behavior and attitude also determine whether you are an attractive person or not.
- Show confidence. Reflect courage and start a chat with a guy you like. Confidence is an attractive aspect, and he can get hints about your attraction if you put in the effort to pay him attention.
- Act more calmly. Don't appear pushy or aggressive when interacting with him, especially if your crush is a slightly shy person.
- Make him feel happy and comfortable when interacting by talking about interesting things and building an open atmosphere so that he too can take steps to approach you.
- Make sure you compliment him often so he feels confident when he's with you.
Step 3. Show good body language
Body posture and gestures have a significant impact on showing that you are single and interested in making your male friend a lover.
- Occasionally play with your hair while talking. This gesture shows openness and draws attention to your beautiful hair.
- Steal his gaze from the corner of the room and maintain eye contact when you talk to him.
- Every now and then, touch his arm during a chat to grab his attention and show that you feel safe, open, and physically comfortable when you're with him.
Part 3 of 3: Taking the Next Step
Step 1. Send Facebook friend requests to people you meet
Do not worry! This will not necessarily make you stuck in the friend zone. In fact, this is an important step, especially if you've just met him. Friend requests show initiative and reflect your interest in them while building avenues for further communication.
Step 2. Look for opportunities to run into him
The more often you pass each other, the more time you have to meet face to face and the better chance you have of winning her heart.
- Visit places he frequents at school, work, restaurants, or other places in town. Of course, you shouldn't sound like you're stalking him and waiting for him everywhere. However, make a strategic plan to run into him once a day for the next 7 days.
- Join a club or activity he's interested in. You can show him that you have the same interests. On the other hand, you can also meet more often if you are involved in the same activities.
Step 3. Ask her out on a date
Don't wait for him to invite you first! You can take the initiative as a modern, empowered woman and ask her out in person.
- Make it clear how you feel by letting him know that you are interested in dating and would like to date him on the weekends.
- If he accepts you, congratulations! You've got a date and (most likely) a lover.
- If he rejects you, don't be discouraged. If he's not really interested in you, it's definitely not going to be fun to date him. Find someone else. There are a lot of guys out there, and there's at least one guy who will like you.
Tips
- Remember that it doesn't matter if you don't have a boyfriend! Being single is still exciting and gives you plenty of time to yourself. Most importantly, do not despair excessively to get a lover. Desperation is not something interesting.
- Remember that someone won't like you right away on the first day. Love takes time to develop. Make sure he has the right personality and deserves your time and effort.
