There are times when you need to ignore a loved one, whether it's because he broke up or he's just being annoying. However, ignoring someone is not easy, especially if you love them or live with them. However, you can apply the following tips to avoid it, for example by keeping your distance or doing various tips when you meet him at school or work. If the two of you recently split up or had a fight, but you can't ignore it, try to suppress the urge to talk to him.
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Method 1 of 3: Keeping Your Distance While Outdoors
Step 1. Avoid the locations he used to visit
Don't come to his favorite restaurants and malls, let alone his office. It's easier to ignore someone if you don't meet them. Take the time to visit new locations and seek new experiences.
You may find it difficult to keep your distance if you are both schoolmates or coworkers. If so, change your routine so you don't run into him, such as taking another route to class or going to his locker while he's still in class
Step 2. Don't make eye contact or show an indifferent attitude when you pass her
Looking elsewhere is a sign that you don't want to talk to him. Besides, it's as if you don't see it. Alternatively, lower your chin and don't look at him so that you seem unapproachable. Cross your arms in front of your chest to make him feel neglected.
- Cross your legs if you are sitting.
- Look straight ahead while still walking towards the goal. If you run into him, look down or sideways or pretend to check your phone.
- If necessary, make a pouting or angry face to let him know that you don't want to talk to him.
Step 3. Avoid interactions by pretending to be busy or listening to music
Stare at the phone screen as if there is a very important message. Do PR. Check again the draft letter for the client. Listening to songs using earphones while walking down the hall or seriously working is a way of limiting interaction with other people, including people who want to be ignored. If someone else is near you, have a chat with them. You have reasons to keep your distance when you're busy.
- Wear earphones, but don't play songs if you don't like listening to music while working or studying. It doesn't know you're wearing earphones just to ignore it.
- When walking down the school hallway, hold the phone to your ear as if you were on a call or pretending to be looking for something in your backpack. If you're sitting in class, copy notes or write the schedule on the agenda.
- At work, work seriously and do not linger in the rest area.
Step 4. Try to stay away from it
When you cross paths at a restaurant or mall, try to maintain physical distance with him, for example by walking away, moving to another place, or leaving him depending on the current situation.
- At school, go to the restroom or the library. If the two of you are taking the same lessons or extracurricular activities, avoid interaction by inviting friends to chat or come into class when class is almost starting.
- In the office, discuss the progress of the project by meeting a coworker at his desk or in his room.
Step 5. Respond to what he says by being formal if he asks you to talk
Don't just ignore it because you seem immature if you act like this. Instead, respond calmly and politely. Say a short sentence then say goodbye.
Give a short response with a neutral tone of voice. For example, tell him, "This weekend I want to study. I have class in a minute." then walk away
Step 6. Move to another location if you are sitting next to him in class or at the office
At school, ask the teacher for permission to change seats. Find an empty seat next to a close friend to let them know that you want to keep your distance. In the office, ask your boss for permission to move your desk or adjust the position of the desk so you have some privacy.
- Before the lesson begins, tell the teacher that you are not paying attention if you sit at the back and then ask permission to sit in the first row.
- If you can't change seats in class, create a barrier at the table, for example by placing an orderner or study equipment on the table on the side closest to it.
- If you can't move your desk, place a partition in front of or next to your desk so he can't interact with you.
Step 7. Find a new place to eat so you don't run into him
Lunch is awkward when the two of you usually eat together. Change your routine before lunch so you can ignore him, especially if he keeps on starting the conversation. If you have to have lunch with him, invite a coworker to accompany you.
- During lunch in the cafeteria, choose a table away from his desk, finish the meal, then read a book in the library or ask for a wrapped meal.
- If the two of you usually eat lunch in the break room at the office, for now, you should eat at a restaurant, in a private car, or at work.
Step 8. Talk to him as necessary when attending an event hosted by a mutual friend or relative
If the person you want to ignore is a sibling or lover, there's a good chance you'll both be invited to a party or taken out for a night. If he initiates a conversation, respond because you are passive-aggressive if you pretend not to hear. However, don't have a long chat with him. Have another friend or relative talk to end the conversation with him.
- If necessary, ask a close friend or close relative to mediate between you and the person you wish to ignore. For example, say to the mediator, "I'm still annoyed with Teti, but I think she came to the late night party. If Teti asks me to talk, you call me, okay, so I have a reason to go."
- If you don't want to see him at the party, but he's sure to come, politely decline the invitation. It's a good idea to keep the reason a secret so that the host doesn't feel confused about having to choose who to invite.
Step 9. Join supportive friends while socializing
It could be that you are forced to meet him while participating in other activities, such as during worship or exercising in the park. If you are reluctant to interact when you pass him, invite a relative or close friend to accompany you. This way, he can't engage you in a conversation or distract you from what's going on.
It's easier for you to escape by simply asking someone to accompany you. He feels reluctant to start a conversation when he sees you are having a serious conversation with someone else
Method 2 of 3: Keeping Your Distance at Home
Step 1. Spend more time in the room
Eat food, watch your favorite TV shows, and rest in your room. Before entering the room, remind him not to disturb or lock the bedroom door. When alone, take the time to do useful things, such as studying, enjoying a hobby, or reading a book.
- If the two of you share the same room, find a place to be alone for a while. For example, spend time cleaning the interior of the car in the garage, practicing yoga on the patio, or tending plants in the yard.
- Alternatively, take the time to do activities outside the home, such as walking in the park, playing games at a friend's house, or exercising at the gym.
Step 2. Use earphones to ignore it when you are in a public place
Put on earphones and play a song on your phone or watch a movie on your laptop so you can't hear what he's saying. Plus, closed ears are a good reason to ignore him without offending him.
Wear soundproof earplugs as an alternative. Prepare a novel, magazine, or textbook, then wear earplugs so you can move in peace
Step 3. Keep important conversations as concise as possible and without emotion
If the two of you live in the same house, conversation is hard to avoid. If he asks, give a short answer without explaining what you said. Don't show emotion even if it upsets you. Give a polite response and then be quiet so that the conversation ends quickly.
If he asks how you're doing, respond by saying, "Good news, but now I want to learn."
Step 4. Leave the house for a few days, if possible
Staying at a friend's or relative's house can be an opportunity to calm down if you've just had an argument with your parents, spouse, roommate, or sibling. It's easier for you to keep your distance if you don't see him all day. Consider staying over at a friend or relative's house until you're ready to talk to them again.
If you live in a parent or guardian's home, make sure you ask permission before leaving the house. For example, say to your parents, "I'm still upset because I made a fuss with my sister this morning. If I may, I'd like to stay at Grandma's house tomorrow."
Method 3 of 3: Suppress the urge to chat with her
Step 1. Unfollow or block his account on social media. Ignoring loved ones is not easy, but it becomes even more difficult if you monitor their daily lives on social media. Whether you're looking at photos of your ex with your new partner or a loved one traveling without you, your feelings will only get heavier if you keep checking on their status. Click unfollow so you don't see the upload or block the account so you stop monitoring it.
Try taking a break from social media for a few days. You don't see the status if you don't access social media
Step 2. Block his mobile number if you want to send a message
Ignoring an ex-boyfriend or loved one takes a lot of willpower, especially if you're used to texting. Ignoring annoying relatives is just as difficult. However, continuing to communicate with them is self-defeating! So don't message them even if you force them to block their phone number.
- Instead of blocking, change the name on your phone's contact list to "This number is not active" or another name.
- Alternatively, delete the cell phone number after it has been recorded on a piece of paper. That way, you'll still have the phone number saved, but it's not as easy as it used to be if you wanted to call or send a message.
Step 3. Find activities to keep yourself busy
To avoid contacting him, fill your daily routine with activities that will help you achieve success in your studies or career to prepare for an established future. Seek new experiences, enjoy a hobby, take a trip around town, or learn a new skill. Ignoring loved ones is not difficult if your daily life is filled with useful activities.
- Develop a new hobby, such as playing music, painting, or knitting.
- Audition to become a theater performer.
- Sell homemade products.
- Visit all the coffee shops in your city.
- Take online courses to develop new skills.
Step 4. Establish good relationships with other people
Take the time to interact with friends and relatives who have a positive impact on your life. Having healthy and fruitful relationships with them will enable you to ignore people who don't value you. Be proactive in interacting with others and making plans. Don't shut yourself off because you've been treated badly by your loved ones.
