Envy is an emotion that arises when a person wants to have the advantages that other people have, but he does not want to admit that that person is better, for example in terms of personality, success, or possessions.
Step
Step 1. Stay away from people who envy you
Jealous people usually don't want to admit their feelings. So stay away until he confesses and apologizes. If not shunned, he will continue to disturb your peace. People like this don't deserve to be friends.
Step 2. Watch his behavior
Observe his actions, his words, or his demeanor. Be prepared if he responds to you with certain facial expressions.
Step 3. If you want to do something and it says:
“You definitely can't”, “You can't afford to…” or “You're bound to fail”, these are expressions of envy. For example, when you want to sing, he forbids you because you can't sing, even though other people say you have a good voice. This indicates that something is wrong with it.
Step 4. Help him solve the problem
Explain your feelings to him. If that doesn't work, don't be friends with him anymore.
Step 5. Share your experience with others
Maybe you're still unsure whether your friend is jealous. If you tell this to someone else, they may know the truth.
Step 6. Envy people will talk about you with other people
Step 7. Find out why he is jealous
Maybe you've done something that made him feel offended and want revenge. Maybe because he was angry. People who are easily irritated will usually try to make others feel excluded.
Tips
- Talk about general things with people you don't know well. Don't talk too much about who you are.
- Be friends with everyone, but try to fit in so that other people don't get jealous and want to bring you down.
- Ask people who know the two of you if they ever talk about you. If so, did he say something bad or good. You will not know the truth if you do not seek information.
Warning
- Be wary when you meet someone who is jealous because he or she can be hostile to you and try to deny it. He may make it worse by trying to convince the other person that you're the one who's jealous of him. Focus on your accomplishments and don't get caught up in competition because he will brag when he meets you. Just ignore it and be tactful if you have to meet him.
- Deal with jealous friends very carefully. If he becomes jealous of you, even the slightest reaction to his words or actions sparked by jealousy will make him even more angry, even attacking you. (Remember that friends like this know how to make you angry. So stay away to keep yourself calm.)
- You can be influenced when you listen to what an envious person has to say. Don't let yourself lose confidence and feel helpless.
- Know the difference between admiration, envy, and jealousy. People who admire you will like certain aspects of you and feel inspired, but don't expect you to lose them (good friends have and SHOW the same). An envious person likes what you have (and tries to show you the same by imitating or worse, says he already has it), but wishes you didn't have it (e.g. by belittling your success or questioning the qualities he wants you to have). Jealousy arises when someone has something and is afraid to lose it. So make sure you recognize someone's attitude correctly. Remember that someone who is jealous of you is actually admiring you in a self-defeating way. If he is belittling you, recognize that he is acting this way out of low self-esteem.
- Remember that good friends can envy you too, not just enemies. Don't care about jealous people, even if they are your best friends.
