Older women are much more experienced, wise, mature, and confident. So how do you get the attention of a grown woman? Attracting older girls is hard enough, but you have plenty of opportunities if you're a teenage boy trying to impress adults. However, if you exude confidence, develop insight, and show the woman that you are the fresh air she needs, you will immediately attract her attention. If you want to know how to attract a grown woman's attention, follow the steps below.
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Method 1 of 3: Make Him Want You
Step 1. Be confident
If you want to attract the attention of a grown woman, self-confidence is key. If you're a teenager, you're probably still figuring out who you are, as well as finding out who your friends are, what you want to do, and how to fit in. That's okay, but when you see or walk around with a grown woman, those things shouldn't come to the surface. Instead, you should show the positive thoughts you have about yourself. Hey, you may still be searching for who you are, but love yourself for who you are. You like to hang out with other people and you like to have fun.
- If he knows that you're watching him, stand tall and be proud.
- Show the woman that you are comfortable with yourself rather than trying to fit in with your surroundings all the time.
- You have to speak clearly, make eye contact, and act like you know what you're talking about-even if you don't.
- Having insecurity is natural, and when you get to know an older woman or girl, you can talk about it, but you have to look strong.
- Keep in mind your opponents-adult men who are in college or starting their careers. If the woman sees that you are still struggling to find yourself, she will look for another man.
Step 2. Be assertive
Being assertive is part of being confident. Being assertive means that you are comfortable enough with yourself to know what you want, and are willing to tell others what you want. Instead of being wishy-washy or unsure, you need to be clear about what you need – whether it's a desire to get to know him better, to take him out for a walk, or have a great idea for a date. While you should respect his age and authority, don't bow down to him all the time just because he's older, because he'll start to feel that you don't really contribute much to the relationship.
- Once you see a woman you like, let her know that you care about her. Don't feel ashamed. You can even smile or approach him if the time is right.
- Don't tremble in the corner. Just approach him even if just to say hello.
- If you want to be assertive, you have to say what you think and think what you say. Speak clearly even if just to introduce yourself.
- It's okay if you feel nervous, but try to reduce fidgeting, talk sloppy, and don't look down too much because she's so pretty.
Step 3. Gain experience
It might be hard to gain experience when you're 16, but all the little things you do mean a lot. This doesn't mean you have to kiss as many girls as you can or explore the continent of Europe to understand the meaning of life. This means that you have to do whatever you can to develop your knowledge, so that the grown woman will see that you have an understanding of something and you can teach her too. If he constantly feels like he knows everything and has to "train" you to be mature, your romance will quickly wither. Here are some ways to gain experience:
- Take a walk. Spend the school holidays traveling to new places, whether to Costa Rica to do social services or visiting neighboring countries. The more places you visit, the more people you meet, and the more you will understand that the world is much bigger than your yard or hometown.
- Dating. You shouldn't date a lot of girls just to gain experience, but dating one or two girls can help you understand how to deal with women, and can help you gain experience when it comes to kissing. Mature women are less likely to date you if it's obvious you've never dated, because that can be a heavy burden on her.
- Get busy in various activities. You may love baseball, but if you only know and love baseball, you will run out of topics to talk to that woman. Spend your weekends volunteering, following a French culture club or the school newspaper, or just doing a few things that can help develop your interest in various subjects.
Step 4. Be mature
Again, even though it's hard to feel or act mature when you're a teenager, you have to do your best to impress the woman. Women do mature faster than men, and the difference in maturity levels will be more noticeable if you are a few years-or much-younger than them. You should try to control your mood, have a moderate reaction when faced with upsetting and bad situations, and reduce vulgar language and fart jokes and other loud noises that are appropriate to share with your friends on the soccer team.
- Part of being an adult is being able to control your feelings. Let the woman see that you don't get angry or upset easily, because she will think you're acting up.
- Another part of being an adult is not complaining about every little thing. If you complain quietly about the little things that bother you, the woman will think that you don't appreciate the amazing things in your life.
- Don't gossip about your friends or other people the woman knows. He may also like to gossip, but try not to do it too often, especially in the beginning, because he'll think you're not mature enough to appreciate people you're not with.
- Be polite to everyone you meet. If you ask her out, be polite to waiters and other people you meet. This is a big sign of maturity.
Method 2 of 3: Keeping Her Captivated
Step 1. Keep things fun
You should try to develop a personality that will make you stand out to a grown woman, but you shouldn't forget to keep things fun. There's got to be one thing she enjoys being with you or even dating a younger guy – for one thing, younger guys usually have less workload than older guys, and less worries about college, work, or whatever else is male. his age usually think.
- There is a difference between being immature and joking. Every woman likes to joke around once in a while, so feel free to show the goofy side of your personality.
- Make him laugh. If your sense of humor is one of your best traits, don't hide it because you're afraid you'll look immature when you try to make her laugh. As long as you pick relatively smart jokes, you'll make a great boyfriend.
- Keep the relationship light. While you should show your deep understanding, you don't need to talk about the most serious thing you thought about last night before meeting him. Have fun in the beginning-there will be times to get serious.
Step 2. Take advantage of your age
Don't think your youth is a barrier-in fact, youth should be something that appeals to the woman. Your handsome young looks, great dance moves, and your witty jokes could be something he likes about you. Don't say, "I know I'm 17, but…". Instead, act like you like your 17-year-old status and take the opportunity.
- Maybe you haven't done much, but you can impress the woman by talking about the things you're about to do, and your passion in this world.
- Impress him with your energy and enthusiasm. You're probably a lot more energetic than guys your age-and that's a good thing.
Step 3. Avoid topics that make you look young
While you can't-or shouldn't-hide your age, you should avoid topics that make him realize that you're very young. If he's a student and you're still in high school, you shouldn't talk much about inter-class sports week (PORAK) at your school, math class, or when you were punished for fighting a teacher.
- You can't hide high school stuff from your life, but you can't emphasize it either. Talk about family, friendships, or current events-make him see you outside your high school alma mater.
- If you're both still in high school or college, but you're a classmate and he's your upperclassman, talk about things you want to do later in your studies, rather than how you felt being a new student at school. Chances are, he's grown from the time he entered to become a senior, and if you keep reminding him that you're still an onion, he'll realize that you need to mature.
Step 4. Be independent
Mature women will have more mature friendships, more diverse and intense interests, and busier schedules. Even if you just want to spend as much time as possible with the woman, you should make her see that you have your own friends, schedule, and needs.
- If you start dating him seriously, you may start spending time with him, but if you're just trying to get his attention, you shouldn't be spoiled because he'll drift away.
- If he's dating you, don't just say, "When can we see each other again?". Take it easy and ask for the next few days.
- Talk about your schedule. Let him see that you have a lot to do. If he thinks all you do is stay home and play video games and wait for a call from him, he won't be so excited to see you.
Method 3 of 3: Treating Them Right
Step 1. Be a gentleman
If you want to treat a grown woman right, you have to be a gentleman. This may still sound foreign to you, but the point of being a gentleman is to treat him like a lady of honor and give him kindness and respect. If you pick him up using your car, open the door for him, as well as when visiting restaurants or other locations. If he visits your house, take off his coat and hang it up. Here are some other ways to be a gentleman:
- Come on time, or even a little earlier. Let him see that he means a lot to you.
- Praise him always. Tell her that she looks amazing, beautiful, or whatever she looks like at the time. Don't be shy about expressing what you really think-it will win her heart as long as you don't do it too often.
- Don't spit, scratch, burp, or anything else that doesn't look like a gentleman.
- Always look good. Make an effort to shower, groom yourself, and wear clothes that don't wrinkle and fit well. This will show that you are thinking about him and trying to look good in front of him.
- Take her on a date to a nice place. Don't take her to Burger King. You may not have a lot of money, but you should try to do something romantic, even if it's just eating at a dimly lit sushi restaurant or strolling under the stars.
Step 2. Show your interest in him
Don't make her think that you only have a fetish for mature women and just being with her or talking to her makes you feel like you've won a big prize. Instead, you should ask about his interests, what he does on the weekends, and about the relationships that matter to him. As you get to know her better, you don't have to ask too many questions or interview her, but you do have to show that you want to get to know her-it's cool if she's four years older than you, but her age shouldn't be a defining characteristic of her.
- When you meet the woman, ask how she is. Simple.
- Ask his opinion on a variety of subjects, from his favorite band to a new political candidate.
Step 3. Have a fun conversation
Mature women tend to be more confident and have more experience than girls. This means that adult women can maintain a pleasant chat longer. While it's okay to rehash the football game for an hour with your friends, you should make an effort to read the newspapers, watch the news, and read interesting literature that will make you an insightful person. That way, not only will you expand your horizons, but you can have a lot of topics to talk about.
- If you read something interesting that day, talk to him about it and hear what he has to say.
- Talk about relationships. You can discuss your relationship with a sibling or your bond with a close friend-but don't talk about your ex.
- Talk about experiences when traveling. Even if all you do is vacation in a neighboring country, talk about interesting things from your trip.
- Keep the jokes funny and smart. If he says something funny, don't just laugh, but reply to the comment with another funny statement. This will show that you can balance it.
Step 4. Don't talk about your age difference all the time
While talking to a younger guy is fun for him at first, you don't have to keep joking about your young age, or how he looks more experienced. Unless you want to call you "junior" and think of you as a little brother, you shouldn't keep talking about this because he'll think you're obsessed-or worse, he'll start obsessing over your age difference too.
Don't bring it up in front of the others either. If you meet your friends or introduce them to your friends, don't talk about age. His friends probably won't notice that you're younger than him if you're good at acting
Step 5. Don't forget to be yourself
You may be so focused on trying to impress a grown woman and attract her attention that you forget who you are. You shouldn't act like a different person, because he'll notice. No woman wants to be with a man who has no identity. Remember that you are building your maturity and developing the qualities you desire that a woman can be attracted to-or any woman-but that doesn't mean you have to change into someone else.
- If you have a secret “silly” hobby, feel free to let him know if it means a lot to you.
- Let him see your best qualities that your friends see. Friends your age must like you for some reason, so don't hide your positive qualities.
Tips
- Take a shower and brush your teeth before seeing him.
- Be assertive and make sure he knows that you are attracted to him.
- Look him in the eye and listen carefully when he talks about himself.
- Wear clean clothes.
- Make him laugh, if he laughs at some of your badass jokes, he might like you too.
- Try to be mature.
- Learn proper grammar.
- Have him teach you something he likes or ask him to sing a song.
- Act like you're his age.
Warning
- Don't be afraid to ask.
- Don't show fear.
- Don't try to make him laugh too much. He will think you are annoying.
- Be careful with the second step. You're not stalking him. Protection warrant can limit true love.
- Don't ask her age, she'll tell you when she's ready.
