Breaking free from long-established everyday habits through life's routines requires a strong will, a plan, and a decision. You can save yourself by learning to recognize the bad situations and behaviors that are weighing you down as the first step to the important transformations that can and will save you. Read this article to learn how to save yourself and change your condition for the better.
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Method 1 of 3: Saving Yourself from a Bad Situation
Step 1. Identify the environment that must be changed
A bad situation can be difficult to deal with, even if you're not sure if something is wrong. If something doesn't feel right, start asking yourself questions while trying to identify your specific condition and environment. What's "problematic" in your life? What needs to be changed? Ask yourself these questions to find signs that you are in a bad situation and need to be saved.
- Are you worried about your safety? Are you constantly stressed about basic needs, eg where are you going to get your food again, will you be able to survive the whole day? If you are in a situation that is filled with violence or danger, you may need to take important steps to change your life.
- Do you feel happy in a relationship? Do you live with someone who is supportive and makes you feel good about yourself? Try to see if your love life is the cause of your problems. There is a better life out there.
- Are you happy with your job? Do you like your boss and coworkers? Do you like to spend time having fun or feeling stressed with work? Try to find out if your job is the source of the problems in your life.
Step 2. Stay away from negative people in your life
Allowing yourself to be surrounded by negative, violent, or self-destructive people is a fast track to getting into trouble. While it's hard to get away from friends and loved ones who can't take care of themselves, if this is affecting you to the point of crisis, you must learn to end the problem in time. Identify a relationship that is detrimental and hindering, then just end it. Save yourself from negative influences.
- Try to focus not on ending a bad relationship but on starting a new one. Spend time with people you like, people who will support and make you happy, who spend their time doing things that are constructive and positive.
- If you've tried to stop your dependence on addictive substances or drugs but still remain friends with those who are addicted, it will be difficult to maintain this relationship. Focus on making new friends who do more fun and positive things to fill their time.
Step 3. Try to find a new scene
In some cases, you may not be able to save yourself where you currently live. Maybe you're in a city that doesn't offer the career opportunities you want, a cruel neighbor that scares you all the time, or life in such a bad society that you have to run away, make a big faith decision and move. Leave everything.
- Go somewhere where you know there are people who can help you through the transition. Look for distant relatives or old school friends who may be able to welcome you over to their house for a few days while you look for a new job and a place of your own.
- Start saving now so you can put your plans into action. If you haven't been able to work on moving at this point, you can still start helping yourself. Even simply saving and doing research to determine your next steps can help you reduce the negativity that is holding you back.
Step 4. Work on changing your attitude
Every teenager who has ever lived in big cities wants nothing more than to pursue the glitter and luxury of life elsewhere. Everyone who works, with good conditions or without a future, experiences long days, stressful weeks, harsh reprimands from superiors. Learning to distinguish between the environment that must be changed and the need to change attitudes is an important step in developing oneself as a human being, becoming more mature, and learning to save oneself. Try to imagine a situation where the cause of all your problems is gone forever from your life. How is your life different? Is it possible? If so, make changes. If not, fix it yourself.
If you are moved to move, make sure first that the source of your problems is the place. Is the city you live in really as bad as you think? Would things really turn out well if you moved elsewhere? Or is the real problem somewhere else? Don't avoid your problems, otherwise you'll still run into the same problems no matter where you are
Step 5. Ask for help
No one should be alone when trying to free himself from a problematic situation. Perhaps dire circumstances such as breaking free from a painful relationship or complex matters such as enrolling in college, learning to cope with these conditions and experiencing better conditions will require the help of others. Surround yourself with positive people and ask for their help if you need it.
- If you live in a violent situation, seek protection immediately. Contact the nearest police station or legal aid agency that can help. You don't deserve to live in fear.
- Talk to family, friends, teachers, and people you respect and tell them that you need help changing your condition. Ask them for advice. Sometimes it can be difficult to identify what is the source of the problem if you are in it. Listen without defending yourself, and trust the wisdom of others.
Method 2 of 3: Saving Yourself from Yourself
Step 1. Recognize the tendency to self-destruct
If you are your own biggest enemy, it's time to start looking at reality. How do you manage to keep doing what you want? Before you start making plans to save yourself, you need to get a real feel for what really needs to change.
- Are you struggling with apathy? Has your Saturday afternoon filled with promises turned into a show of watching YouTube, playing online games, and napping? Maybe you need to get motivated.
- Are you struggling with addiction? If drugs or certain activities are controlling your life, you don't have to live with them or deal with them alone. Start overcoming addiction and take control of your own life.
- Are you struggling with low self-esteem? You have to be able to rely on yourself, don't be afraid of yourself, learn to be self-critical, and feel disappointed. If you're having trouble staying positive, you may need to reclaim your self-esteem.
- Are you taking too many risks that don't work out? If you're a gambler, excited by the prospect of danger, consequence, or failure, you'll probably feel deprived more often than not. While there's nothing wrong with having a little fun in your life, if you're taking the risk of harm affecting your safety, you may need to take action to save yourself from this habit.
Step 2. Identify your emotional triggers
What brought you down a self-destructive path? Whether it's the influence of a person, environment, or idea, try to identify what triggers your self-destructive behavior or creates a problem so you can start to stop it before it takes control of your life. Pay attention to times when you feel an urgent need and try to interrogate yourself in this moment. Take notes if needed.
Step 3. Remove and replace destructive stimulants
Once you recognize what triggers a negative emotional response from within you, replace it with positive behavior. Work on reprogramming your mental habits towards a positive and grateful attitude, as opposed to mental habits that are self-destructive and depressed. It's easier than what you think.
- If staying in a relationship with an emotionally abusive father makes you want to drink, beat yourself up. If you're starting to focus on your dad, go to the gym. Hit the big bag to practice boxing for a few hours. Release your anger.
- If you're struggling with apathy and self-esteem issues, start celebrating every little success and make an effort to build your self-esteem. Start exercising and take more risks. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated.
Step 4. Learn to rely on yourself
Take responsibility for yourself and start taking care of yourself. It's okay to rely on someone else for help for a while, but there are times when you have to pull yourself together and decide to go your own way. Start helping yourself.
- If you're still living at home at an age that's no longer the right age to live with, it may be time for you to be independent. While this can be a good way to save after college, it shouldn't be an excuse not to work. Make a decision and act mature.
- Don't ask for help with things you can do yourself. If your computer has a problem, you can call your friend crying and helpless, or you can try to fix it yourself. Respect yourself by solving your own problems.
Step 5. Control the criticism that arises from yourself
The kind cop, the criticizing watchdog, the blaming conscience, whatever you call it, try to control the inner voice that hurts you with negativity. Conscience is a key aspect of being a moral person, but it can also lead to feelings of guilt, self-pity, and self-hatred. Learn how to use it when needed and when to just let it go.
Try to anticipate what will make you feel guilty. You don't have to worry about your inner blaming voice when something happens if you listen to it first. If you're just going to feel guilty about texting, or using illegal drugs, don't do it
Step 6. Surround yourself with supportive people
You can't and shouldn't do anything alone. Try to be among people who will guide you, support you, strengthen the good in you and keep the bad things out of your life.
Stay away from relationships and things that can ruin your life. People who strengthen aspects of you that need healing should be shunned. Although difficult, developing healthier relationships can protect you from temptation
Method 3 of 3: Saving Your Soul
Step 1. Try to understand the big questions
If you feel a desire to deepen knowledge and seek satisfaction that is not easy to answer, perhaps you should turn to questions that can provide enlightenment. Whether you see yourself as a spiritual person or not, being aware of the big questions can lead many people to a new sense of purpose in life and happiness, which can help realign their priorities and perspectives. Why are we here? What does it mean to live a good life? Try to understand the complexity and mystery of these questions.
Step 2. Rely on the forces that guide you in matters of faith
Whether you call it "god" or not, learning to let go of your ego and try to understand the idea of a higher power can be an empowering experience for many. This method can save you.
If you're not interested in religion, it doesn't mean that you can't find a way to live a life of faith with a strong desire to achieve a goal. Physicists, artists, and people in various fields are serious about expressing the deep spirituality of knowledge. Give yourself a chance to understand completely new things and gain salvation from your hard work
Step 3. Try talking and learning from unbelievers
An important aspect of religious life is praying with people of the same faith. The way to learn more about the cause, custom, or religion you want to follow, is not through books or watching videos, but by interacting directly with people who do not share your faith. Try to join in when they worship and then ask your questions and thoughts. Dig through all your questions to learn more about beliefs and everyday habits that make you comfortable to accept them.
Spiritual practice should be a daily activity. Even if you only go to church once a week, or if you choose not to go to church at all, make a habit of making daily devotions into your life. Meditating for a few minutes each day will return you to the deep questions you want to know the answers to
Step 4. Consider embracing a recognized religion
If you want to develop yourself to achieve what you feel is a goal and fulfill your spiritual interests, it may be appropriate to devote yourself to a religious organization. Start learning as many ways to pray as you can and try to gain experience from different theological and philosophical schools to find which one works best for you and your beliefs. Make the decision to move on. Learn more about joining a particular religion to become:
- Followers of Buddhism
- Christians
- Followers of Judaism
- Muslim followers
- Become a member of the Quaker Organization
