Arousing women's passion is an art. To do it right, you need to have the perfect balance between being aggressive and being shy. You have to know how to touch a woman's body to understand what she wants---and when she wants it. If you want to know how to heat things up and stimulate a woman, follow these steps.
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Method 1 of 3: Set the Mood
Step 1. Create a sexy atmosphere
If you create a sexy atmosphere, your girl will be aroused before your first kiss. You have to make sure that the lighting, smells and sounds in your home are set in such a way as to be suitable for a romantic atmosphere. Here's how to do it:
- Create a soft and sexy lighting. When you walk into your apartment, the lighting should be set to dim--bright enough for your girlfriend to see you, but not so bright that she feels inferior. Light some candles.
- Own an apartment that smells sexy. If you know that a woman is coming to your place on a certain night, open your apartment window during the day and let some fresh air in. Potpourri with masculine scents can also help keep your apartment fresh. When your loved one arrives, light some incense casually, or make sure that the candle you lit in the previous step is a scented candle.
- Play sexy music. Your lover will be more aroused when you turn on the right music. Jazz can make him feel classy, and R&B music can make him feel sexy. Whatever music you choose, make sure you play it slow and play it slowly.
Step 2. Have sexy furniture
Your home should be pre-prepared for a sexy atmosphere, so that the atmosphere can stay hot and you can avoid any distractions. Here are some key items you should always have on hand:
- Drink. Always have red and white wine on hand and any other type of drink your lover may want. It could be that you've come home from drinking together on a sexy dinner date, and to continue, you should always have an extra drink on hand just in case.
- Food. If you need more time to warm up before heading to bed, sharing a snack session can help set the mood. Prepare sexy foods such as grapes, strawberries, cheese and crackers, or chocolate. Avoid eating any greasy or fried foods that can cause you to pass gas, which of course won't be exciting.
- Stuff to clean up. If you are planning to have sex, prepare a clean towel and new soap for your lover, so you don't make him lose his appetite by giving him a wet and moldy towel.
Step 3. Have a sexy home
Work as hard as you can so that you can have a home that can immediately excite women. Your home should look so chic that your lover will want to go further into the bedroom. Here's how to have a sexy home:
- Have a clean house. This is the most important part of setting the mood. Hide your dirty laundry, clean all surfaces in your home, and really make sure that your bathroom doesn't get dirty. Your boyfriend needs to be as comfortable as possible before he's ready to hook up with you.
- Be fashionable. Your house doesn't have to cost millions of dollars or billions of rupiah to excite women. Decorate your home with classy wood or leather furniture, some beautiful paintings, and a great stereo system to show your loved one that you care about your surroundings. Avoid having lots of pictures of yourself with your ex-girlfriends.
- Have a sexy bed. Clean your sheets and blankets, provide nice soft pillows, and a clean bedside table. It's time for you to get rid of photos of you with your mother as far as possible. Your loved one will feel comfortable snuggled in your blanket waiting to be ready for your body.
Method 2 of 3: Have Incredible Foreplay
Step 1. Make him feel comfortable
Once you've set the right mood, you should start stimulating your boyfriend by making him feel right at home. When he feels relaxed, he is more likely to connect with you. Here's how to do it:
- Hang up his coat and make him take off his shoes. He'll feel more relaxed once he's done.
- Offer him a drink. Don't force him to drink, but pour him a glass of wine if he wants. If he's drinking, you should drink too so he doesn't feel embarrassed.
- Praise him. Make your boyfriend feel good by letting him know how much you like him. Tell her how beautiful she is, how much fun you spent with her, or how much you love the way she laughs.
Step 2. Touch him sexy
When your boyfriend is relaxed, he will want you to approach him. Don't be shy -- move to his side and start gently touching him to initiate foreplay. Here's how to do it:
- Sit next to him and let your thighs touch him. Embrace him with your hands. If he really likes it, start playing with his hair.
- If she's wearing dangling earrings, hold one of them gently and tell her how much you like the look of the earring while running your fingers through her hair toward her earlobe.
- Let your hands touch, and even hold hers and stroke her fingers if she wants you to.
- Give him a sensual massage. Massage his shoulders, lower back, or even his upper arms. This move will definitely excite him and help him get aroused.
Step 3. Kiss him passionately
Kissing is the first big gesture you'll make, and you need to get it right if you want your night to be even more intimate. To be the perfect kisser, you have to find a kissing style that is very seductive. Here's how to do it:
- Do it gently. At first kiss him gently, without using too much tongue. Gently touch your lips with him, and slowly touch the tip of your tongue to his. When he accepts, move your tongue deeper into his mouth, but slowly.
- Let him want more. Stop kissing to look her in the eye, stroke her hair back, or to start kissing her gently on her neck or shoulder. Don't just kiss for hours. He will feel bored or will just be exhausted.
- Be more aggressive with your touch. When you kiss her, move your hand down her body to gently touch her waist, chest, or inner thighs. Make sure he's comfortable with your new moves.
Step 4. Start taking off your clothes
Once your kisses have become hot and heavy, it's time for you to start taking off your clothes so you can have sex. Here's how to do it:
- Take off your lover's clothes first. Gently tuck your hands into his clothes and tuck the clothes loose over his head. If the garment he is wearing is a button-down shirt, slowly unbutton the shirt and take it off.
- Then, take off your own clothes. Don't take off all your clothes just yet. This will frighten a woman and will make her think you are too aggressive. Do it slowly.
- After both of your shirts have been removed, continue the kiss, but remove the girl's bra after a while. Find out if the bra's latch is in the front or back, and try to do it gently. Don't be clumsy and make jokes if you haven't done this in a long time, or how difficult it is to remove her bra. These things will only discourage him and make you look inexperienced.
- Gently, touch the girl on the panties. This will make him want you to take off his skirt or pants. If he's wearing pants, pull them off slowly. If she's wearing a skirt, push it off her feet.
- Take your pants off, or wait for him to take off your pants if he wants to. Now that you're both just wearing your underwear, when you're both ready, it's time to get ready to have sex.
Method 3 of 3: Take the Right Steps in the Bedroom
Step 1. Make it clear if you want to have sex
While you may want to immediately conclude that he's interested in dating you once you're both in your panties, it's important that you explain that the two of you will be having sex so things don't get awkward and there's no misunderstanding. Here's how to do it:
- Say, "Are you ready?" or "Do you want to do it?" Explain that you want to take your lovemaking sessions to the next level.
- If he agrees, be prepared with a condom. Wear the condom flexibly, and try to do it as efficiently as possible so you don't destroy the atmosphere that's been built.
Step 2. Stimulate your lover as much as possible before having sex
Guys are usually ready for sex before she's ready, and even if you've done some really good foreplay, you need to spend more time stimulating your lover's body before you start having sex. Here's what you should do:
- Caress and kisses his whole body. Kiss her neck, her shoulders, her breasts, her belly and the inside of her thighs.
- Tell him how much you like him. Whisper a few words about how sexy she is, or how much you love a certain part of her body.
- Touch his cock gently. You can flirt a little by touching him and then moving your hand somewhere else for a moment--this will make him want your touch even more. Once he is ready to have sex, you can do it.
Step 3. Find your sexual relationship style
There are many different ways to have great sex, and once you get started, you need to watch your boyfriend's reactions to see what he's comfortable with and what he likes. Here's how to find out which sexual style suits your new partner:
- Try different positions. Start by letting him sit on top of you and see if he likes to have sex by being on top of you or even having sex in a more daring way. Don't try anything too crazy just yet--get a good rhythm before you start thinking creatively.
- Find out if he likes to be gentle or aggressive. Try a few light bites or a firm touch to see if he reciprocates too. Some women want to be playful and aggressive but are waiting for you to get started. But if he likes to be gentle, then do it slowly and hold his hand gently.
- Try lewd words. Not everyone likes dirty talk, but if your boyfriend likes it, it can really help him to stimulate his passion. Tell him what you did to him, what you want to do to him and praise his body. If he doesn't respond well, reduce the lewd words.
Step 4. Finish it perfectly
Both partners need to be satisfied after the time you've spent together, and before you're done, you have to make sure your lover is enjoying it. Here are some ways to succeed with sex in the bedroom:
- Remember that many women don't have an orgasm from sex, so if she doesn't, touch her until she does.
- When you're done, don't immediately run out of your room or into the bathroom. Take the time to stay in bed and caress your lover and tell him how fulfilling your relationship was at that time.
- Do not be disappointed. If your boyfriend doesn't climax, or if you have a premature orgasm, don't be discouraged. This happens more often than you think, and dealing with it calmly will show him that you believe in yourself for who you are.
Step 5. Make him feel addicted
Once you've done all the things in the bedroom, there are a few things to do so your boyfriend will want to sleep with you again, whether that's later that same night, or later that week. Here's how to finish your date well:
- Offer to take a bath together to clean up. If he wants to, kiss him gently while both of you are in the shower.
- Don't change after you have sex. You need to give your sweetheart some space, but show that you're still the same wonderfully funny guy she was with just a few hours ago.
- Tell him you really enjoyed the time you spent with him and want to do it again in the near future. When he left, escort him out like a real gentleman. Put your coat on him, drive him home or call a taxi for him, and kiss him at the door.
- Do everything calmly. Don't say "When can we sleep together again?" Instead, simply say that you enjoyed the time you spent together and that you'll be calling him in the near future.
- Make him want to sleep with you. After he's gone, sending a sexy text every now and then will remind him of the hot events he's had in the bedroom. If you do this cleverly about this gentle reminder, he will want you sooner than you can imagine.
Tips
- Various means to care. Give your lover as much affection as he gives you. Focus on making him happy.
- If you ejaculate prematurely, don't act like a disgraced jerk. Respond like it's no big deal and apologize politely, but don't bring it up.
Warning
- Never force a woman to have sex with you. Let him make the decision. He shouldn't feel sorry for sleeping with you.
- Use condoms to prevent sexually transmitted diseases. You should always use a condom when you sleep with someone for the first time. Don't seduce a woman that sex will be more enjoyable without using a condom--this is obviously dangerous and can pass you on to illness.
