Cupid's arrow (god of love in common legend) has shot one more time, but there is a different feeling this time. This difference may seem exciting and scary at the same time, but what really matters is whether you ever thought that the person you are seeing right now is the right person for you. To answer this question, you must look back at yourself and your relationship.
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Method 1 of 3: Part one: Check Yourself
Step 1. Stop chasing your dream dream
Ask yourself if you're happy in this relationship or if you're thinking, “Everything would be perfect if…” If you need a change in your relationship before you feel happy, then your relationship may not be the right relationship.
- Every relationship has its own problems. Even if one problem is solved, sooner or later other problems will also arise.
- Looking for the "right person" doesn't mean looking for a trouble-free relationship. Instead, it means looking for a relationship that makes you feel happy even when you're beset by problems.
Step 2. Let yourself be loved for who you really are
Let your partner see the real you instead of having to play with a fake mask. You have to believe that your partner will accept who you really are if you want this relationship to last.
- Part of this requirement depends on your partner as well. You should be with someone who loves who you really are and never asks you to change for their sake.
- Similarly, you must also be able to love your partner for the real him.
Step 3. Make your partner feel happy
A good sign that you've found the “right person” is when you can prioritize your partner's happiness even above your own. Everything has its limits, but in general, you should be able to put in the time and effort to keep her happy without feeling uncomfortable doing this.
- Apart from wanting to make your partner feel happy, you should also have an idea of how to do it. Think of little things like, food and activities that can make your partner feel happy all day. And also think about big things, like being able to get your partner to open up about their worries and dreams.
- As always, your partner should be able to show the same interest in your happiness as you have in him.
Step 4. Re-evaluate your values
Consider whether you have shifted your priorities since starting this relationship. You should place more importance on things that can affect your relationship over your selfishness.
For example, consider your views on monogamy. If you previously had no intention of getting married and settling down but now you hope to do so with your current partner, then this person is special enough or important enough for you to be able to change your beliefs
Step 5. Consider your appearance
It's a good sign that you care enough for your partner to put more effort into your appearance, but you should also still feel comfortable letting him see you in short shorts and messy hair.
Appearance has more to do with attraction than love, but if you truly love your partner, then naturally you will want to look better in his eyes
Method 2 of 3: Part two: Examine Your Relationship from the Inside
Step 1. Fix the discord but throw away the drama
Everyone will argue with those closest to them. Strong relationships involve partners arguing but also thinking about solutions. If you don't argue at all, then this is a bad sign. But if even a small argument can turn into a long drama, then this is also a bad sign.
- When couples don't fight, it usually indicates that one or both of them are not being very honest. When needs, wants, and difficulties are not discussed and addressed then these relationships will remain weak.
- A sound argument is usually free from violence of any kind, verbal or physical. The fights that take place are fair, and neither side tries to manipulate the other.
Step 2. Laugh
You two should be able to laugh together as well as laugh at each other. Of course, a serious relationship requires room for seriousness, but you also have to balance that with a healthy dose of humour.
The jokes between the two of you should also be gentle and pleasant. If one of you cries regularly, then you have done something wrong
Step 3. Enjoy simplicity and custom
If your relationship continues to require chatter and fun to last, then this may be a sign that your relationship is not going well, or it may mean that your relationship is still too early to predict the future.
- Enjoying simplicity means that you are willing to learn the small details about your partner's past and present life.
- Enjoying simplicity also means feeling the meaning of sitting and enjoying the evening together. If you always crave excitement, this is natural, but you should be able to enjoy your partner's presence during boring times too.
Step 4. Get in touch
The two of you need to connect in both a small and a big way. Look for common interests and habits. You should also ask yourself if you have the same priorities and goals.
- If you both have different goals, then your life will certainly also have different directions. For example, if you want to settle down, get married, and have children, but your partner has a goal to travel the world and is not interested in having children, then the things you want in life will definitely work out differently.
- Goals are far more important than daily hobbies and hobbies, but you should still pay attention to them. Having a passion or two in common will make it easier for you to spend time together. The weirder or less obvious the preferences are, the better.
Step 5. Mutual respect
Strong relationships are built with respect and commitment. You need to be able to respect your partner, but you also need a partner who respects you with the same amount.
The respect that leads to a healthy relationship requires: commitment, trust, communication, and general satisfaction. Without respect, the above qualities will not develop
Step 6. Talk about the future
Think about your previous conversations about the future. When the discussion begins, both of you should feel comfortable, and be able to describe the other party as part of the future.
Your conversations about the future don't always have to be serious. If your relationship is still in its infancy, you may have to talk about things you need to do together “next month” or “next year.” However, as commitment develops, the two of you should be able to talk about the future and the rest of your life
Step 7. Divide everything
Your partner should be the one you always share everything with. “Everything” which means everything – tidbits, scares, that great coffee shop you just found and so on.
- Ask yourself, how often do you come up with interesting things that you want to share with your partner in the future. The more often this happens, the deeper this person grows in your mind. Strong connections signify a higher level of commitment.
- More importantly, honesty should also be felt by both of you naturally. If you feel like you're keeping a secret or know that your partner regularly keeps information from you, this is a bad sign.
Step 8. Look for fireworks
A committed relationship will definitely work better than just physical attraction. You don't always have to see fireworks in his eyes, but at least there should be occasional sparks.
Physical closeness and emotional closeness have a close relationship. You must juxtapose the two to form a romantic relationship
Step 9. Put "we" before "me
You two should be more interested in doing things together than on your own. You may have to put the well-being of your relationship above individual desires from time to time, and you both have to agree to that as well as the actual situation.
- Thinking of "we" as the main thing is a positive thing. Your thinking changes from "What am I going to do this weekend?" to "What are we going to do this weekend?"
- In the end, your thinking about "we" must be changed to something more important. For example, if you are offered a new job in a different location, you should think about how this will affect your future with your partner, rather than just thinking about how this will affect you individually.
Step 10. Live the relationship more than just talk about it
Ask yourself how much time you two spend together and how much time you two spend discussing different types of things and things that should happen. Being able to live in the “now” life is essential if you want to live together in the future.
Of course, you must be able to overcome the problems and desires that occur. If these issues preoccupy you too much, this is a sign that things are not flowing naturally between the two of you
Method 3 of 3: Part three: Examine Your Relationship from the Outside
Step 1. Ask for opinions
Ask your friends and family what they think of your relationship. You have to remember, not everyone can see the situation clearly. Overall, the people closest to you should approve of your relationship. They have a more objective view than you or your partner. So to some degree, they can see the real situation.
- If someone you trust asks you to break this relationship, you may want to take their request seriously.
- On the other hand, you should also pay attention to the source of the complaint. Someone who is dramatic or overly possessive of you may not be a good judge. However, someone who really wants you to be happy and is never a source of trouble can usually be trusted.
Step 2. Loving the social environment
You don't have to love all of your partner's family and friends, nor do you have to spend time hanging out with their best friend. The people around you are a reflection of your own nature. If you really can't tolerate much of your partner's social environment, you may need to reevaluate your partner and find out what their friends are saying about him or her.
For example, if you feel that all of your partner's friends are troublemakers, then you should ask yourself if your partner is really as good as he was when he was around you
Step 3. Spend time together and apart
You both should want to spend as much time together as possible without falling apart when one of you isn't around.
- Split up for a few days or weeks and gauge how it feels. If you are completely unable to work, then this is a bad sign. If you can still work but can't wait for the day the two of you can meet again, then this is a good sign.
- You should also have different friends and interests, but if you feel happier pursuing those things than when you are with your partner, then the relationship is starting to go bad.
