Being a polite and respectable man can make a good impression on those around you as well as be attractive to women. To be such a man, you must first practice to look, dress and speak in a respectable and classy manner. Gradually, all this new stuff will become a habit, and you will really see yourself as a gentleman. Keep reading this guide to learn the habits you need to develop.
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Part 1 of 3: Look Respectful
Step 1. Dress in a classy style
An important part of being a gentleman is appearance. In general, wear the best clothes for each situation and choose clothes that are cut and sized to suit your body.
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If you don't know which outfit will make a classy look, ask someone else for advice. You can ask other men who you know do have a classy appearance, but asking a woman is a more appropriate way. A woman always knows which clothes will make a man look classy because of the woman's point of view.
If there aren't any women you can turn to for advice, you can browse the menswear sections on the Internet, which are usually written by women. One example is the blog "Style Girlfriend" (https://stylegirlfriend.com)
Step 2. Wear the right clothes for the right atmosphere
If you want to look classy, you need to know when to look presentable and when to look relaxed. Dressing too formally can ruin your effort to look classy.
- A suit is not suitable for monthly shopping, but will be very suitable to be worn for dinner at an expensive restaurant.
- In situations where the appropriate clothes are jeans and t-shirts, make sure that the clothes you wear are really clean and not wrinkled or torn. Clothing of the right size and cut and in excellent condition can be very attractive even if it looks informal like a suit and tie.
Step 3. Find a style icon
If you're not sure about this classy style of dress, learn from the experts. Think of a man you think is classy and observe how he dresses.
- Choosing a style icon from the modern era can help you determine what clothes are considered trendy for men. If you can't figure out what to wear, you can look through magazines or blogs, for example “GQ Style” (https://www.gq.com/style/blogs/the-gq-eye), “D'Marge” (https://www.dmarge.com/), or “Inventory” (https://www.inventorymagazine.com/updates/).
- You can also look at past trends for inspiration on classy dress styles. Although today is a very stylish era for men, not all types of men's clothing that exist today have a classy style. Many male characters from the '40s and '50s display a very classy style. In addition, you can also observe these male characters as examples of classy dress and demeanor.
Step 4. Define your own style
You can imitate other people's styles, but in the end you need to develop your own ability to dress. This will make you feel more confident in your appearance, so you will also emit a classy aura.
Step 5. Pay attention to every detail
Many men think that accessories belong to women, but a classy gentleman knows how to choose the right accessories to enhance his appearance. Small details can give a special touch and enhance your whole look.
- In particular, take advantage of the use of ties, hats, men's scarves, jackets or blazers, and shoes.
- If you dare to be different, you can also try wearing something vintage like a pocket watch or handkerchief.
Step 6. Keep yourself clean
You can't look classy if you look (or smell) like you haven't showered in a week or haven't brushed your teeth for a month. Maintained personal hygiene is the touch that makes your classy look shine.
- Keep hair and fur neatly trimmed. The hair on your head and the hair on your face should always be neat. You don't have to shave perfectly, but if you have hair growing on your face, you should shave regularly. Otherwise, you will look messy even if your body is clean.
- Use fragrance. This is of course optional, and the right fragrance really depends on the situation. For example, a little spray of perfume before going out on a date will do the trick. Just make sure that you use only a small amount of the spray, not all over your body, because too much fragrance will drive people away.
Part 2 of 3: Respectful Style
Step 1. Master the right way of smiling
A timely smile can work wonders. Keep your smile as natural as possible, and use it to convey confidence and show appreciation to the person you're with.
- Smiling is very important if you want to make a good impression on women. Usually, men have more physical strength than women. Most women know this and they will stay away from you if they think you are dangerous or can be violent. Smiling is a great way to convey the message that you are not a threat to them.
- However, make sure that you are smiling, not grinning. A slight smile that bared his teeth for a moment was enough. If you're constantly looking at a woman with a big smile on her face, you're going to look scary instead of classy.
Step 2. Display exposed body language
Indeed sometimes a man who acts cold can look attractive, but cold and classy attitude is not suitable to be combined. If you want to be a classy gentleman, you must use body language that radiates warmth and openness, so that others feel comfortable around you.
- One example of closed body language is crossing your arms. It's like putting a barrier between you and the other person you're talking to. Similarly, a body or head that is pointing at a point opposite to the position of the person you are talking to conveys the message that your attention is being distracted, divided, or that you are not paying attention at all.
- Many people tend to display closed body language because it feels safer and reduces the risk of rejection. To appear classy, you must expect and invite others to accept you, through open body language.
Step 3. Make eye contact
Eye contact indicates that you are listening and paying attention to those around you. Also, focusing on making eye contact can help you avoid looking at any other point that you might not otherwise be paying attention to.
- Direct eye contact can make you look more attractive to women. This produces a physical response that makes the brain feel attracted, and as a result, you appear more attractive.
- Don't overdo good things. If you keep staring at a woman without blinking or looking away, you're going to scare her off.
- One sign that you are doing the right thing is when a woman returns your eye contact. If he also keeps looking at you, this is a good sign. Also if he smiles shyly while looking away and occasionally stealing glances at you again. On the other hand, if he looks like he wants to walk away or he looks away and still doesn't look back at you, this is a bad sign.
Step 4. Nod your head
Mastering the respectful nod takes time, and it may feel far-fetched at first. However, a quick, firm nod of the head is a classy touch to your verbal responses.
- Nodding is one of the most subtle gestures of body language. If you're enjoying the conversation, give it a small nod every now and then. If you don't like the conversation, stop nodding. Most people, especially women, will pick up on these polite non-verbal cues.
- In many situations, you'll also notice that people, especially women, tend to be more willing to dive deeper into the conversation when you start nodding. This is a kind of signal to them that you are interested in what they have to say, and this subtle body language makes you appear respectful.
Step 5. Stand closer
When talking to the person you want to make an impression of respectability, stay closer to each other to reinforce that impression. These little extra personal touches can greatly amplify the impression of your behavior.
If you're standing, take a step or two closer. If you are sitting, move your body forward. If neither is a good choice for the situation at hand, you can convey the same message simply by tilting your head toward the person you're talking to
Step 6. Learn the power of touch
A light, warm touch can be a great way to show the confidence and warmth you need to make a classy feel.
- Most people in our society tend to keep their distance from people they don't really know. Because of this, we use very little physical touch on a daily basis. Slight touch on appropriate areas of the body, such as the hands or shoulders, can make a woman who is thirsty for touch crave more closeness.
- Pay attention to your body language. If you touch a woman and she seems tense or trying to move away, it means she is uncomfortable with your touch. If he seems relaxed and receptive to your touch, this means you've done the right thing.
Step 7. Show your confidence
When all else fails, remember that you must remain confident in order to give the people around you a sense of honor and class. Your body language and behavior should always radiate confidence. But be careful, don't let yourself look too self-admiring.
While carrying out all the suggestions mentioned above, you should have a confident posture. This means, you should not display a lazy posture. Your back and shoulders should stay straight
Step 8. Be a gentle manly man
One of the key factors to being a gentleman and classy is to be both manly and gentle. Never force or trick others to get your wishes accepted, and always treat others with respect. There is nothing more effective in conveying an impression of respect than a man who knows how to treat himself and others properly.
Part 3 of 3: Respectfully Speak
Step 1. Expand your vocabulary
If you want to improve yourself, work on expanding your vocabulary and becoming a better speaker. A wide vocabulary creates the impression that you have intelligence and insight, which are very attractive qualities.
- A natural way to increase your vocabulary is to read a lot. In addition, your insight and knowledge will increase as your vocabulary increases.
- Speaking in everyday words that tend to be harsh is not recommended. This kind of speaking style is practical, but to be a gentleman, you have to be different from the average person.
Step 2. Speak naturally
While a broad vocabulary can be a great quality, you shouldn't force it. If you force yourself to use words that don't feel natural, this will become obvious. Instead, you need to use a more natural and polite way of speaking.
As a first rule, if you've never heard a word or a sentence, don't say it
Step 3. Be careful using affectionate calls
You might think that affectionate calling would be cute, but many people think otherwise, that affectionate calling is rude. Wait until you really have a special personal relationship with someone before starting to use affectionate nicknames, especially with women.
Even after getting to know a girl, you still have to be careful when using affectionate nicknames. Try doing it just once first. If he reacts positively, you can continue to do so. However, keep mentioning his real name once in a while. If he reacts negatively, you should continue to call him by his real name at all times
Step 4. Keep the conversation flowing smoothly
Being someone who can speak fluently means that you also have to display confidence and intelligence. A man who is able to keep the conversation flowing smoothly will appear more attractive and fun in his environment.
