Your partner claims to need distance in the relationship? Don't be in a hurry to get hurt! Remember, every meaningful relationship requires a healthy distance. Read this article and find some simple tips to build a healthy distance in relationships!
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Step 1. Understand the fact that everyone needs distance, including your partner
This is normal, healthy, and will actually make your relationship more meaningful.
- If your relationship situation has reached its peak, try loosening the bonds that exist between you and your partner. Don't try to control your partner's decisions and force yourself to improve your relationship; trust me, when you are willing to loosen the knot (not let go!), surely things will get better on their own.
- Realize that tying up and restraining your partner can actually worsen your relationship.
Step 2. Ask your partner what happened
Without appearing paranoid or hysterical, ask why your partner needs distance, what he means by “need distance,” and how much time he needs. Make sure you keep your tone calm when asking questions.
- Don't think about the worst; if he still seems concerned and wants to see you, stay calm and don't worry too much. Maybe your partner is just stressed because of office work or schoolwork that is too piled up. Remember, there's a chance that the decision will have nothing to do with you at all.
- After he has stated his reasons honestly, respond to his honesty with trust. At this stage, you may also be forced to assess your motives in the relationship. If your motives are purely love, you should be able to appreciate his honesty and trust him. But if it turns out that your motives are related to security, money, self-confidence, etc., chances are that the opposite will happen; take some time to reassess your relationship with your partner.
Step 3. Find a solution with a cool head
Does he want to get away for a few days or a few weeks? Or does he just want a permanent schedule change, like spending his weekends alone indefinitely?
- Imagine yourself negotiating something that really makes sense and makes sense; after that, try to convey what you want without feeling overwhelmed.
- Don't beg him. Of course you can still occasionally ask her for help, take her on a trip, or ask for clarity about the direction of your relationship; but don't make yourself look childish by begging him.
- Whatever you do, don't leave the discussion process angry. Such a negative reaction will actually make the couple move away. Show him that his decision is perfectly normal, healthy and negotiable!
Step 4. Take advantage of the existing "space" for fun
If you feel confused and confused when your partner asks for distance, chances are that you need that distance as much as your partner needs it. Take the time to reflect on your emotional state and your life. Take this opportunity to transform yourself into a stronger, confident, and independent woman! Remember, the only person responsible for your happiness is yourself; Don't put your happiness and peace on someone else's shoulders.
- Plan fun activities like traveling with friends on the weekends.
- Enjoy various outdoor activities such as walking around the complex, mountain climbing, swimming, playing badminton, etc. Undoubtedly, your mood will improve more quickly.
- Find a new hobby or retrace your old ones.
- Call your old friends.
- Focus on advancing your career ladder!
- Change your hair color or dress style. Be a new and more positive person!
- Take care of your health and stamina; don't lament too much about the situation and stop taking care of yourself. Exercising is a very powerful way to clear your mind, release pent-up anger, and boost your self-confidence.
- Remember, someone who is confident and independent will look much more attractive in the eyes of others! Take advantage of the distance formed to remember your strengths and strengths as a woman.
Step 5. Fix your bad habits
If these bad habits are preventing you from recognizing your hidden potential, now is the time to change it!
Step 6. Be patient
If you want a successful relationship, make sure you also appreciate every opportunity to develop yourself that comes with the distance between you and your partner.
- Take advantage of the existing distance to find each other again. A healthy distance is effective in making a relationship feel fresher when it is re-lived by both parties involved in it.
- If you're willing to give him the distance he needs to think, do the things he loves, and spend time with those closest to him, he'll surely realize how much he loves and misses you.
Step 7. Respect her choice and freedom
If you are able to be a supportive and understanding person, chances are that your partner will also be able to develop into a better person over time.
- The more respect and freedom you give her, the more grateful she will be for being in a relationship with a woman like you.
- Make sure he also respects your choices and freedom. Remember, the purpose of distance is to balance the relationship, not make it more one-sided.
Step 8. Be his friend
Cultivating a relationship through healthy interactions can make both of you feel happier and more secure in your relationship.
- Listen when he speaks and don't interrupt his words. Make sure you always give a positive and supportive response.
- Keep your behavior relaxed and relaxed. If your behavior can make him relax, he will undoubtedly find it easier to convey what he is feeling and thinking.
- Men also need a sense of security.
- Again, make sure he's willing to do the same. Remember, friendship is also a reciprocal relationship!
Step 9. Don't turn the relationship into a game
If you haven't been willing to respect his wishes and privacy, it's only natural that he asks for it later.
On the other hand, if you feel like you're being played with by your partner, express your objections. If he's reluctant to act like an adult, consider giving him unlimited time and space
Step 10. Stay relaxed and be the woman he once fell in love with
Be a happy woman and know how to have fun. Learn to love yourself as much as you love your partner, and find positive ways to share things when you are apart from – even with – your partner. After finding that balance, surely you and your partner will no longer look back and are able to focus more on the future.
