If you feel like everyone is ignoring you, remember that many famous and famous people also have doubts about people's care in their daily lives. This article explains how to deal with feelings of neglect and self-respect. If you feel inferior or unloved, work on changing your mindset and living a quality life.
Paul Chernyak, counselor, advises:
"Be proactive and join the community. Oftentimes, other people respond positively beyond expectations. Once you show someone you care, they pay attention to you in return."
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Part 1 of 2: Seeking Support and Respecting Yourself
Step 1. Learn to love yourself
In addition to making your life more enjoyable, you can see the positive side of other people if you are able to love yourself. Therefore, learn to love yourself by:
- Treat yourself like you would treat a child
- Practice focusing
- Remind yourself that you are not alone
- Give yourself a chance to be an imperfect person
Step 2. Get rid of feelings of inferiority
People who feel inferior are less likely to believe that other people care about them. Remember that you deserve respect, no matter what you or others think of you. Learn to challenge negative thoughts even if you feel they have a point.
Try to remember how you responded to someone who offered to help. Do you reject it because you want to prove how high your self-esteem is? This makes you feel guilty and the other person is reluctant to lend a helping hand. Pay attention to your response when faced with situations like this. It's best to keep your attitude and say "thank you"
Step 3. Maintain good relations with friends and acquaintances
In addition to close friends and family members, think of people who have helped you. Find out how to contact old friends. If you want to share your feelings, find someone who is willing to be a good listener, such as a sibling friend, teacher, or counselor.
- Talking in person or over the phone is usually more effective than communicating using a cell phone app or social media.
- Remember that you will be treated as you would treat anyone else. If you never contact or invite other people, don't expect them to do that to you.
Step 4. Work on understanding the "no empathy" response
People who are severely depressed tend to think of everyone as evil, arrogant, and selfish. Often times, other people are focused only on themselves, but that doesn't mean they don't care about you. Comments like "Be patient, things will get better" or "Just ignore it" may sound dismissive, but the person making them is doing this out of a desire to help. Maybe he can strengthen you in other ways, but be careful talking to him when you're down.
Step 5. Find new hobbies and new communities
Maybe you feel left out because you have few friends or are less close with family members. To overcome these feelings, do new activities while making new friends so that you can contribute positively so that you feel worthy of respect.
- Be a volunteer. Life is good when you can help other people.
- Alternatively, join a sports team, religious organization, or association on campus.
- Learn tips for opening conversations with people you've just met to get to know them better.
Step 6. Look for a support group online
Use the internet to find someone who is willing to listen to you anonymously, for example via the Blah Therapy website or 7 Cups.
If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, contact Halo Kemkes by calling (local code) 500567. If you live abroad, use the local websites Befrienders.org, Suicide.org, or IASP.info to seek help
Step 7. Keep things that bring good memories
Maybe you have trouble remembering pleasant experiences when you were depressed. Suggestions and attention from friends seemed useless, even forgotten a few hours later. When you feel calm, jot down as many good memories as you can in a diary or write them down on small pieces of paper and put them in a box. Do this every time someone sends you a positive message or does something nice for you. Read this note again if you feel neglected.
Step 8. Watch an entertaining show
Watching sad movies or TV shows is bad for you. Therefore, avoid shows that show negative or sad things, such as bad news, tragedy films, and TV shows that trigger depression. Instead, entertain yourself by watching witty movies, comedy solos, and other shows that make you laugh out loud.
Step 9. Set aside time to pet the animals
When you're having a hard time, animals can be supportive friends, especially dogs. If you don't have pets, visit a friend or neighbor who has pets and offer to help walk their dog in the park.
Part 2 of 2: Coping With Depression
Step 1. Know the symptoms of depression
If you often feel hopeless or insecure, you may be experiencing depression. This problem must be addressed immediately because it is bad for health. If this is detected as early as possible, you can immediately seek help to restore mental health.
Recognize the symptoms of depression by reading this wikiHow article on emotional health
Step 2. Join a supportive group
Members of this group will share experiences, encourage each other, and provide advice on how to deal with depression. Once you join, you will see for yourself how many people understand your feelings.
- If you live in the United States, click here to locate a support group.
- In addition to joining a community where members support each other, read articles online at the websites dbsalliance.org, depression-understood.org and psychcentral.com or watch YouTube videos explaining how to maintain mental health.
Step 3. Write a journal
Take a few minutes a day to express your thoughts and feelings by writing them down on paper. For many people, this moment provides a sense of comfort because they have the opportunity to "tell" personal experiences. Over time, the journal can be used to determine factors that affect mood and how to effectively deal with depression.
End each journal by writing something you are grateful for. Your mood will improve when you remember small things, such as a hot cup of coffee or a smile from someone you pass
Step 4. Apply a healthy lifestyle
You can improve your mood by sticking to a consistent daily schedule. Keep in mind that this will need to be done for a few weeks until a new routine is established. Get in the habit of getting a good night's sleep, getting up early, and dressing according to a schedule every day. Take the time to walk from home to a public transportation stop or use the stairs when doing activities in the office. Eating a nutritious diet every day and exercising regularly improves mental health significantly.
Do not consume alcohol, nicotine, and drugs. This step may make you feel calm for a while, but on the other hand, depression is increasingly difficult to overcome. If you are addicted to alcohol or drugs, try to overcome it with the help of a health professional
Step 5. Go to therapy
As recommended by many experts and health organizations, therapy is an effective way of dealing with depression. Regular consultations with a licensed psychologist can help you adopt a lifestyle that can help you manage and prevent depression.
- You may consult with several therapists to find the most suitable therapist.
- Get regular therapy. Many people recover from depression after seeing a therapist once a week for 6-12 months.
Step 6. Consider the possibility of taking medication
Sometimes, psychiatrists help patients by prescribing depression medication, but this is only a temporary solution. Depression cannot be cured with medication alone. You still need the help of a therapist to address specific problems. There are many different types of depression medications. You may need to take several medications to find out which is the most appropriate. When consulting, tell your psychiatrist the benefits of the medication you are taking and the side effects you are experiencing.
When combined, medication and therapy can be the most effective solution, especially for teenagers. The results of therapy do not last long if you only take the drug
Step 7. Set aside time to meditate or pray.
When you feel sad or upset, calm your mind by being alone in a quiet place. To be more useful, look for a location with a natural environment. Sit down while breathing deeply and focusing on the breath. Many people practice controlling their thoughts and emotions by meditating or praying.
Tips
- A person's self-worth is not determined by the judgment or acceptance of others. Learn to accept yourself as you are and live a quality life.
- Don't let other people make you depressed and feel helpless. Prove that you are capable of respecting yourself by being unyielding and not willing to give in to circumstances.
- Get busy with work or join a team to play a game you enjoy.
- If you feel neglected by your parents, share this with your teacher or counselor. They can help you solve this problem.
- Volunteer in the community! Give love and support to others by making positive contributions, such as sharing your time, skills and experience with people who appreciate your efforts and kindness. At the same time, you are doing something positive for yourself! One paddle, two islands crossed!
Warning
- Sometimes, you forget the pleasant moments that made you feel happy, proud, or relieved. Do not worry. This happens because you are still stuck in negative thoughts. Someday, you'll remember when you've calmed down.
- If these feelings continue to bother you that you are suicidal, immediately contact someone in a support group or call Halo Kemkes (local code) 500567.
- Sympathy can be very comforting, but once the conversation is over, this step should change your life for the better. After sharing their thoughts, people who continue to regret bad experiences are more likely to experience prolonged depression.
