Surprising the man you love is a fun way to strengthen your relationship as a couple. Surprises leave a strong and emotional impression, they even seem to be able to stop time, raise expectations and make you both happy. Surprises from time to time are an effective way to show how much you love them, whether you're in a new or old relationship. You can learn how to prepare special gifts, plan parties, give "adult" surprises to add variety and other ways to show your feelings.
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Method 1 of 5: Looking for Ideas
Step 1. Generate some ideas
Your relationship is unique, and so is your partner. Think about what he likes and what makes him feel good. Keep a list of activities, events, places, hobbies, and things she likes. Pay attention to what excites him, excites him, or makes him laugh.
- If you're in a new relationship, maybe you can look for clues by asking questions during a casual conversation. Try not to divulge your plans.
- Consider asking friends or family for ideas.
- Pick something he's more likely to like even if you're not really sure.
Step 2. Pay attention to what he likes
You can get a lot of ideas by paying attention to what he says, what he does, and what he talks about often-not only with you but with other people as well. Observe what he orders when he eats at a restaurant, what activities he enjoys having fun and what TV shows he watches. Listen when he mentions something he really likes while the two of you are on a date or while lazing on the couch. Find out what makes him smile.
Step 3. Make a list
Write down all the ideas you know or think he will like. Try to write as much as possible so that you have lots of ideas to choose from in case you want to surprise yourself again the next time. Writing down ideas may give birth to new ideas that you should also write about.
Step 4. Consider stepping out of your comfort zone
Doing something different than what you normally do out of love for someone is surprising. For example, buy two football tickets for the two of you just because you know he likes it and wants to spend time with you, even if you don't like football or crowds. Every now and then you can sacrifice something reasonable so that you and your partner can share the same experience, even if he or she actually prefers that experience. Hopefully, he will repay the “sacrifice” and surprise you in the same way.
Step 5. Think of something unique
Keep in mind that minimal effort isn't going to make a strong impression. For example, buying a gift for Valentine's Day because it's natural will not have the same meaning as an unexpected gift. If you can create a unique gift or experience that belongs only to the two of you, that would be ideal. This is your chance to really show (not just say) how much he means in your life.
- In fact, the action you take to surprise is not as important as the intention to deliver something new or unexpected. This is where the passion builds that makes surprises so impressive.
- Know that surprises don't have to be big or expensive. The little things also mean a lot. However, make sure your partner doesn't suspect that you're up to something.
Step 6. Pay attention to what he doesn't like
You should try to find out what foods he doesn't like, things he never does, or places he doesn't like going. You certainly don't want to cook an appetizing dish of asparagus and salmon if he doesn't like the taste of asparagus. Maybe he's still eating it because he doesn't want to disappoint you, but he won't be as happy as you'd like him to be. So, also pay attention to his negative reactions to certain things like food, experiences, events, and activities.
Method 2 of 5: Preparing Special Gifts
Step 1. Give him a gift even if there is nothing to celebrate
Giving gifts for no reason? It will always be appreciated by him. If there's something you know he's been wanting, like a game or exercise equipment, buy it for him.
- If you don't know exactly what he wants, or if you can't afford it, surprise him with a gift he likes but you can buy, such as a book, DVD, or something related to his interests.
- If you're still in school and too young to give a big gift or one of the items suggested here, tuck a small note in her locker at school, or decorate her locker when she's not around. Big surprise!
- The more you think the gift is not something to be exaggerated, the more memorable the gift will be for him. If you give him a gift and say "It's nothing, I just remember you," he will be very impressed. Guaranteed.
Step 2. Buy him a ticket to an event he likes
Sports events, concerts, arts festivals, and other events in the city might be a surprise. Buy a ticket and make plans to spend a day with him. Find another activity near the first event and make the day special for both of you.
- If you don't really like what he really likes, you can still go with it. Accompanying him like this will show that you are interested in him, even if you are not interested in watching wrestling. Accompany him and resolve to have fun!
- Another option, prepare an event with his male friends. Buy him and his friends tickets to a concert or sporting event, then let them spend the night together. Meanwhile, you can stay home and enjoy some alone time.
Step 3. Pamper him throughout the day
Being treated like a king for a day would be a pleasant surprise for any man. If you want to surprise your partner, wait for him or her to take a day off, and let them know that they can do anything in one day. Let him control everything
Free him from homework, or do everything yourself. Try to make him feel relaxed. Let him make the plans. If he wants out, get out. If he wants to stay home, stay home
Step 4. Prepare delicious food
Many people say that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. This may be true for many people, both men and women. Preparing his favorite dinner is a nice gift, no matter how long your relationship has been going on.
- If the relationship is new and you've never cooked for her, you can surprise her by inviting her to have your own dinner, whatever you're cooking. Then, you can make him breakfast.
- Prepare a picnic lunch, or make reservations at his favorite restaurant. Eating at home is fun, but, once in a while, visiting a restaurant he likes shows just as much concern.
- Hunt for his favorite snack or food in the city. Visit every specialty snack vendor in your town so he can taste them all (you drive), or head to your favorite orchard and have your fill. Find out what foods he likes, and visit all the places that sell them. Plan travel routes.
- Surprise by bringing lunch to the office. While he may be too busy to eat together, bringing him lunch will be a sweet surprise and an effective way of showing that you're always thinking about him even when you're not together.
Step 5. Don't forget the little things
Many men are attracted to things you might take for granted. Making a very complicated event, such as hunting for special items that mark the journey of love between the two of you may be considered a hassle. However, things that may sound a little stupid or trivial to you can make him very happy. Try giving something small like below:
- Borrow the car and fill it with gas until it's full.
- Invite him to watch his favorite action movie.
- Make a big sandwich while he's watching TV.
- Clean the room.
Method 3 of 5: Planning a Surprise Event
Step 1. Have a party outside the house
Surprise parties are fun, but having a party in a public place that doesn't have to be cleaned up after? Much better for a man. You can plan a party at a friend's house, at a bar or restaurant she likes.
Step 2. Prepare food and drinks
Again, this cannot be underestimated: men love to eat and drink. If you're having a surprise party, prepare food and drinks that men like. Find out what he likes, and prepare.
- If your partner likes bacon and grilled corn, plan a backyard barbecue. Enlist the help of a friend who is good at grilling to make beef ribs or skewers, and make sure you provide enough food for everyone.
- If your partner prefers healthy food, make arrangements to visit a healthy food restaurant that they haven't tried before. Make reservations for all his friends, invite them, prepare delicious menus and gather everyone.
Step 3. Forget about decorations
You don't need to spend time and energy to decorate a man's party. If you really enjoy doing it, just do it. However, if the decoration business only burdens time and effort, forget it. He probably won't realize how much effort and time you put into preparing the decorations.
Step 4. Don't give any hints
Pretend like you forgot his birthday, or plan a surprise party on a weekday. You can wish him a happy birthday so he doesn't feel left out, but don't give any hints that you've prepared a room in your house with food, gifts, and friends.
Alternatively, prepare a surprise party for an event you don't usually celebrate. For example, a promotion is a happy occasion that isn't always officially celebrated, but you can surprise him by setting up a party to celebrate the achievement
Step 5. Get the friends involved
Do you want to show that you like his friends? That's good. Surprise your partner's friends to a ball game or play cards with him
Alternatively, ask his friends to meet you and your partner at a restaurant or a sports game, then surprise him by making him wait until you come with his friends
Step 6. Do something with the family
If your partner is close to their parents, approach them and include them in your plans. This will really impress him and show that you are ready for a long-term relationship.
You don't need to prepare a festive party. Invite her parents to have dinner together, or ask her if she wants to have dinner at her parents' house. He may be relieved to see that you accept his family and are interested in a relationship with them
Method 4 of 5: Surprise "Adults"
Step 1. Greet her at the door wearing a sexy outfit
Put on your most seductive outfit and open the door for her when she comes. That would be a sweet welcome, especially if you know he's had a long, tiring day.
- There's no need to wear something so sensual that you look cheesy. Anything that makes you look sexy will show that you're trying to surprise yourself.
- Make sure he comes alone when you open the door. Otherwise, the situation will be very awkward.
- Or better yet, no need to greet him at the door, just wait for him in the bedroom.
Step 2. Try a new trick in making love
Is your relationship in bed boring? Look for information and try new techniques or movements that will make him forget himself when making love to you. A surprise like this is guaranteed to make him happy.
If you're not interested in trying new tricks, wake him up with old ones. This too will be a sweet surprise
Step 3. Give him a sensual massage
When your partner is relaxing, surprise him with a sensual massage. Massage will make him more relaxed and also make him excited. What is wrong with it?
Massage doesn't always end in sex. Even if you haven't gotten to that stage of the relationship yet, a shoulder massage is still a sweet way to please your partner
Step 4. Try talking naughty
If you normally speak politely, he'll be surprised if you start talking as if you've watched a lot of adult movies when he's not home. Needless to say he would be excited to hear that too. However, don't overdo it if you know that bad words make her feel embarrassed or uncomfortable.
If talking naughty makes you feel weird, try asking him to talk bad to you. Give him a chance to try new things, if he's interested
Step 5. Send flirty texts during the day
If your partner is busy, reading statements that you think of him as "that" will make him curious. Sending a naughty SMS is one of the best surprises for a guy. Let him know what you're going to do when he gets home.
Be careful when submitting photos. If you are loyal to each other and trust your boyfriend, that's okay. But if you're sending a photo to a date you don't know well or a guy who might betray you and use your photo for a bad purpose, think again
Step 6. Do some forgotten things
If you've been in a relationship for a long time, you may both have gone through the surprise and naughty flirting phase. Think back to what you did or said in the early days of the relationship, and do it again now. Maybe you've “forgot” to put on your underwear under that flowing black dress you wore to dinner or to a jazz concert, make sure she remembers that by doing it again.
Step 7. Ask her what her fantasy is
If you don't know how to surprise him in bed, talk to him. Knowing your partner's fantasy is the right way to make the relationship closer and intimate. You wouldn't want to try something weird and wild, which would make him frown, would you? So talk about what he wants to do, and try to be open-minded.
Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable. You don't always have to fulfill his wish just for the sake of making a surprise. Be honest with him. Plus, talking about fantasy is sometimes enough to get you both excited
Method 5 of 5: Surprise with Other Ideas
Step 1. Drive the car somewhere
You don't need a purpose-just the existence of each. Go on an adventure, not knowing the destination will make the trip more enjoyable. If you both like views on the mountains, the sea, or the forest, pack your things and go.
Always carry a first aid kit, flashlight, food, water, spare tires, blankets, and other safety equipment, especially if you are going out for a few days
Step 2. Surprise a babysitter
Children are adorable, but sometimes they get in the way of the alone time needed to nurture a relationship. Find a babysitter and arrange a place for the kids to stay one night, so you can both enjoy quality time and share all the passions held back by being busy with a crying baby or fighting kids. Coming home to a quiet house and spending a whole night just with you to rekindle the passion of love is a big surprise.
Step 3. Try a prank prank
If your partner loves to joke around and loves pranks, why not surprise them with it? You can hide in the fridge and surprise him when he comes to get a drink, scare him out of bed in a costume, make a pie and then slap it on his face or put a fake head on the pillow where you usually sleep to scare him. can make you both laugh so hard you can't breathe.
Step 4. Write a message on the bathroom mirror
After you take a hot shower, write your declaration of love to your partner on the steamy mirror. You can write messages, quotes, or short poems. The message would disappear with the steam, but would reappear when he stepped out of the shower.
Step 5. Send a love letter
Forget e-mail or SMS. Write an old-fashioned love letter with pen and paper, then send it in the mail. Love letters can be held, saved and read again to remind him that you love him very much.
Step 6. Leave a note
Give him a small note to remind him that you love him, or leave a note that will make him laugh when he finds it. Keep one in your purse, another in your pocket, car, desk, office or around the house. This little sign of love can cheer him up on a tough day and make him smile because he knows you're thinking of him.
Step 7. Change the wallpaper of the phone, tablet or computer
Replace her wallpaper with a funny image like a photo of your silly expression, or an image she likes like a sexy photo of you. Such an image will surprise him when he turns on the phone, and he will think of you. Remember, even small things will have a big impact in strengthening relationships, as long as they are not unexpected.
Step 8. Surprise him with something valuable
Give a special frame for the diploma or award he received. Reprint old family photos. Sew a hole in the favorite T-shirt he's had since high school. Use a program to remove background noise from recordings of him singing as a child.
