For some women, older men will look much more attractive than men their age. are you one of them? If you want to get closer to an older man but don't know how, then read this article! Through this article, you'll find ways to boost your confidence so that despite the different eras and interests that haunt the two of you, that compatibility can still be found.
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Part 1 of 2: Making Her Feel Good
Step 1. Treat him as an equal, not an older person
When talking to older men, young women tend to go into detail about the reasons behind her attraction to him. If you do, he may think that what you're after is a "type," not a "figure."
- Instead of explaining the reasons behind your attraction to an older man in general, try to focus on the specific reasons that make you want to be closer to him.
- Do you like her hair color? Does the way she dress looks very attractive to you? Has he ever been heard mentioning a topic that interests you?
Step 2. Allude to the age difference between the two of you if necessary
Remember, you need to make him feel relaxed and comfortable. Therefore, let him determine the right time to bring up the topic. If he never mentions it, don't worry. After all, the two of you can discuss other topics because the real attraction isn't rooted in the age difference, right? However, if he mentions how young you are, don't run away from the topic.
- Once you're sure that you're genuinely attracted to his character and personality, there's nothing wrong with mentioning the reasons behind your attraction to an older man.
- Don't bemoan your past relationship. However, share your general view that older men can offer more than men your age.
- The conversation between the two of you should not focus on the issue of financial stability. Instead, think about the other things it can offer, such as emotional stability, a more mature perspective, and a more controlled lifestyle.
Step 3. Let him choose a good time to share his work
Remember, every man has a different approach to dealing with issues related to financial stability. Therefore, let him choose the time he deems appropriate to offend his work.
- If you constantly direct the conversation to the topic of his work, he may assume that you only approached him because you wanted his money.
- On the other hand, he may want to show you his special work. If that's the case, let him use his stability as an asset to seduce you, just as you would use his youth as an asset to seduce him!
Step 4. Demonstrate your financial independence
Whatever his current job situation, chances are he won't mention it in front of a woman who seems to need his financial support. Even if he doesn't tell you about his work, take the initiative to share yours.
- Don't mention your specific salary. However, tell your profession to explain implicitly that you are an independent working woman and can provide for her own needs.
- If the two of you meet at the bar and he wants to pay for your drink, say thank you but refuse immediately. Say, "You're so cute, but I can pay for it myself, really!"
Step 5. Value his opinion
Trust me, nothing is more annoying to an adult than a pretentious youth. While you don't have to agree with all of his views, don't constantly contradict his views. Some people don't want to look old-fashioned to younger people. Therefore, make him feel “experienced”, not “old”.
- One positive way to deal with disagreements is to view them as opportunities for learning. Instead of emphasizing how different your views are, try asking him to explain the reasons behind his views.
- Listen to his words with a sincere and open mind. In other words, it's not necessary to change your view, but show that you appreciate him so much that you want to understand his point of view more deeply.
- If his views sound offensive to you, feel free to voice your objections and/or walk away from him. Remember, don't sacrifice your principles just to date someone!
Part 2 of 2: Showing the Best Version of Yourself
Step 1. Involve him in the conversation
Even though you have to respect his opinion, still show that you also have your own views and thoughts. Differences of opinion will generally only be transformed into a discussion instead of an argument. Who is the man who isn't infatuated with a woman who can turn a mismatch into a productive conversation?
- Relax your facial expression to show that the difference of opinion doesn't upset you.
- Show that you are able to laugh at how different your views are on an issue.
- If you're lucky, you'll find someone you feel compatible with in many ways. Be grateful if the situation is so!
Step 2. Wear age-appropriate clothing
Remember, your youth is the greatest asset to seducing an older man. Take advantage of it! When the two of you are going out on a night out, wear clothes that differentiate your appearance from that of older women. Not that you have to wear childish clothes, does it! Remember, he wants to date, not go to a One Direction concert, with you. Instead, wear clothes that look good on women in their mid-20s or 30s, but would look weird on women over 40.
For older men, the most attractive thing in young women is their ideal age. In other words, you don't have to try to look older or younger. After all, your age is already ideal
Step 3. Don't focus too much on your teenage years
Without the need to do so, he already knows that you are younger than him. That's why you don't have to constantly bring up the issue of youth to get her attention in the conversation. Acknowledge your age, but don't make it the focus of the conversation. Don't keep making comments like, "That's my dad's favorite song, you know!" will only make the conversation between the two of you sound boring to him. In addition, he can also assume that your true beauty is not matched by a smart and full brain. Instead of spending time mentioning how young you are, try to focus on showing how mature you are at that age.
Step 4. Don't hide your youth either
Most likely, you feel you don't have too much in common with him. For example, he may often mention kids, mortgages, '70s music, or something else that isn't familiar to you. Don't pretend to understand the story! Trust me, he will definitely notice.
- However, make sure you don't look childish. Remember, a young age does not necessarily give you permission to act rashly and arbitrarily. Instead of commenting, "I don't know what a mortgage is," try directing the conversation to the things he wants to talk about. For example, try bringing up home ownership.
- If he talks about his difficulties in a very serious tone, respond to his complaints with a smile and comments like, "I haven't experienced it yet, but I can't wait to feel what you feel."
- If he wants to share his experience with you, keep your mind open: “I don't really like 80s music that much. But I'll listen to it later, if you think I'll like it."
Step 5. Be yourself in his presence
Since older men have had more time to discover who they are, they are more likely to know about his characteristics, what he likes, and what he doesn't like. That's why, they want to find a partner who, despite their younger age, is able to have similar beliefs. Therefore, listen to the story, but don't hesitate to tell the story of your life after. If you want to have a more calm and controlled lifestyle, say so. If you still enjoy traveling with your closest friends on the weekends, admit it. Don't apologize for the things you love, because they are a part of who you really are.
Step 6. Make eye contact with him
Don't stare into her eyes all the time, but try to establish a deeper connection with her through your gaze. Making eye contact is a signal that indicates confidence and interest in both parties.
Step 7. Touch your hair and neck
Both are very personal areas of the body! Even your closest friends may very rarely touch your hair and/or neck, right? This happens because these two areas are actually only allowed to be touched freely by your sexual partner. Therefore, try to get his attention to your hair and neck to signal your interest.
Step 8. Pay attention to your body language
This method actually applies to all forms of seduction, not just those aimed at adult men. Remember, most of the body language listed below will probably hint at your sexual attraction. therefore, consider his feelings and your safety before doing so. Don't make him misunderstand your signal! However, if you are really interested in having a more intimate relationship with him, the body languages below can speak louder than your words.
- Focus on your lips: bite your lower lip, purse your lips when you're thinking, or apply a light-colored lip balm. Make him want to kiss you!
- Don't be shy about touching him: touch his arm while laughing at his words, or put your hand on his shoulder if you want to share private information.
- Don't cross your arms: that kind of body language makes you appear closed off to him.
- Lean towards him to close the distance between the two of you.
