Tinder is a social dating app that pairs you with people who like your profile. Tinder includes a chat service that allows you to message the right person, and gives you the opportunity to find a match. Who knows, if your message is right, you may meet your heart's desire in person! Read step 1 below to get started.
Step
Method 1 of 3: Starting a Conversation
Step 1. Install Tinder and find some suitable people
Before you start looking for a match on Tinder, you need to install the app and find the perfect match. This match is important before starting a chat, so you need to make sure that your profile is quality before you start looking for a potential match.
- Read this guide for a detailed guide to installing apps and creating quality profiles.
- Tinder is available for free for iOS and Android, and requires a Facebook profile.
Step 2. Use a good profile photo
You must use all available photo slots for photos of yourself. Make sure you don't post photos with the opposite sex, with children, and make sure that not all photos you use are group photos.
Make sure you smile
Step 3. Start a conversation
You can chat with people you already like and like you back. Open the Matches menu and tap the name of one of the matching people to start a conversation.
- Wait for one day. Matches are determined before you chat.
- Take the initiative when chatting, because initiative shows confidence and a willingness to control.
- Don't give up if you don't get a reply. Not everyone will reply to your messages. Get up and try to message someone else.
Step 4. Get creative with your greeting
Avoid saying "Hi" or "Hello," as they can distract most of the people you're chatting with. Take a good look at the person's profile photo and bio to find out what they are interested in. For example, if you see a guy with a surfboard, ask him about his favorite surf spot.
Make sure your grammar and spelling are correct, especially at the beginning of your conversation. Remember that first impressions are precious
Step 5. Ask a few simple questions to get to know the person you're chatting with
What are his hobbies and interests? Avoid questions that are too personal.
Step 6. Make sure your approach is relaxed
Speak as you would your old friend. Stay calm while chatting.
Method 2 of 3: Continuing Approach
Step 1. Keep their interest
Once you've been noticed by your crush and know a few things about them, you need to figure out how to keep them interested in you.
- Don't be afraid to praise. Even if you don't know the person very well, give compliments based on your conversation. Saying "It's good to talk to you" is a good start.
- Be careful if you want to compliment her appearance. Focus on things other than the body of the idol of the heart.
- Joke with him. Joking is a way of approaching nice people. You can give him a sweet name or make fun of him for something stupid he does.
- Make sure you're not joking too much, and that the person you're talking to knows you're joking. The ";)" emoticon at the end of the sentence will help, but men shouldn't use it.
Step 2. Don't be a scary person
Tinder is supposed to be a relaxed and fun place. Conversing with force or talking about sexual things too often will make the other person lazy, and eliminate the possibility of you making further approaches. Approach it casually, and let talk of the tougher things await as your relationship grows closer.
Step 3. Don't talk about yourself too much
The other person may lose interest if you do this. Try to get the other person to talk about themselves. You can include facts about yourself in the conversation.
Find out if the topic you are talking about is also of interest to the person you are talking to. You will find out by looking at the way he replies. If he doesn't seem interested, change the topic slowly
Method 3 of 3: Taking Relationships To The Next
Step 1. Make him curious
If you approach him with a strong impression, make sure you end the conversation with a strong impression too. Know when to stop texting. You can't continue the conversation forever, because there will inevitably be times when there's nothing more to say.
- If both parties find it difficult to continue the conversation, stop the conversation immediately.
- Measure his response to find out if he is interested in you. If he doesn't respond much, they may not be interested in being close to you, and you should stop the conversation with him.
- Arrange for further interactions before you stop texting them. Write messages like "PM again sometime!", or "Want to chat again tomorrow?"
- Don't just say goodbye. Tell him why you are leaving and what you are going to do.
- If you're going to meet him, don't be afraid to say you can't wait to meet him.
- Avoid stiff goodbyes. Tell him that you enjoy casually chatting with him.
Step 2. Get the phone number of the person
Most Tinder users don't want to chat through the app all the time, because it doesn't feel like there's a personal touch to chat. If you are happy with your approach, ask for their number so you can continue the conversation on the phone. Your relationship can be much more advanced if you call him.
Step 3. Make an appointment to meet
Tinder is a matchmaking service, and many people look forward to meeting their soul mate on the other end. If you and your partner feel good, you need to meet at least once to see where the relationship is going next.
- Find a safe location that is convenient for both parties.
- Avoid the clichéd "dinner and movie" dates. Meet for lunch or drinks and see where your conversation is going. Check out this guide for more first date tips.
Tips
- Submit your original photo.
- Always pay attention to spelling and grammar.
- Be creative and honest.
- Don't talk outrageous. Speak short, but still sweet.
- Let Tinder use your location to find soul mates near you.
- Log on to Tinder every now and then to let others know you're still active.
