Everyone wants to find a soul mate that really suits them. Millions of works of literature, music, and art also carry the same goal. Love does take struggle, but it is also very inspiring. If you are willing to put in the effort and believe that there is someone special for you out there, you can find love.
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Method 1 of 4: Getting Started
Step 1. Open up and start dating
The sooner you start, the sooner you'll find that special someone. This quest is a bit daunting, but you have to start somewhere.
- Start small, like changing body language. Don't slouch, cross your legs and arms, and avoid stiff postures. If your shoulders are pulled back in a relaxed manner, you will appear more approachable.
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As a first step to finding love, start dating people who have liked you for a long time.
While you may not be attracted to all of those dates, you will gain experience
Step 2. Pay attention to your daily activities
For example, instead of busy playing with your phone, try paying attention to the places you usually go. Your soul mate may actually be closer than you think. So, try chatting with people you find interesting.
- Start a chat with people you see often at your favorite coffee shop.
- Take a colleague out for a drink after work.
Step 3. Do something you've been wanting to do for a long time
You may meet special people while doing fun activities. Maybe he's not your type, but these activities can bring new experiences in life and love.
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By trying new things with someone, sometimes unexpected and happy love will blossom by itself. That's the reason behind the phrase "magnets with different poles attract each other".
For example, you love skydiving and he likes to read poetry in the park. The combination of a thrill of adventure and an appreciation for simple pleasures can create an amazing balance of yin and yang
Step 4. Create a dating profile on the internet
If you're too busy or nervous to physically circulate, try the digital way. Dating websites and apps make it easy for you to find people who share your interests. With just the click of a button, you can meet that special person.
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In this era of technology, many people have managed to find a partner through dating sites and apps. If you are interested, browse the internet using the keywords that best match your identity. There are many sites and apps that accommodate specific hobbies, careers and philosophies, for example:
- Hinge
- Tinder
- How About We
- OkCupid
- FarmersOnly.com
- JSwipe
- Match.com
- Eventsandadventures.com
Step 5. Ask a friend to match
Most people meet their soul mate through friends. So, there's no reason not to try. Ask friends you trust if they have any acquaintances you might get along with. Friends can judge whether someone will be a good match for you.
- If you're trying to chat with someone you like, friends can be the best support system. They can help keep the conversation going, boost your ego, and leave the rest to you.
- Try a double date. Maybe a date will feel more comfortable and interesting with the presence of your own friends.
- Ask your friends to create an online profile. As a third party, it can provide objective advice on the best photos of you and help choose who is worth approaching.
Method 2 of 4: Be Yourself
Step 1. Be honest
You are free to express your true opinion and personality. If the potential partner persists, it means that your presence is very pleasant for him. If no one approaches, you may feel rejected, but it proves that your soul mate isn't there yet. By being honest and being yourself, you can avoid wasting time and effort just on dating.
In addition, acting according to what you think your partner wants instead of being yourself can actually lead to feelings of hatred, stress, and discomfort. Those feelings are not a solid foundation for a relationship
Step 2. Attend more interesting events
Maybe you'll meet someone who shares your interests and more. These events and other similarities are easy chatter and can lead to first dates.
- If you love literature and the arts, join a book club or be active in the arts community.
- If you love to cook, take a cooking class and start chatting with fellow chefs.
- Even if you're not connected to anyone, at least you're still doing what you love.
Step 3. Follow your instincts
He may not be the ideal image you envisioned, but if it feels right, keep an eye on him. On the other hand, if something is bothering you, don't ignore the signs.
Your subconscious mind responds to situations that reflect your goal (in this case love) so you should always trust your instincts
Method 3 of 4: Knowing What You're Entitled to
Step 1. Make a list
List the negative and positive sides that you see in a potential partner. If you want to have a healthy relationship, the list of positives should be longer than the negatives.
- If you find other positives or negatives, keep adding them to the list.
- After the fight, look at the list. Lists can help you appreciate what you have, or realize what you are missing.
- This list is one way of looking at relationships from a logical point of view. This will help when you are stressed. You may find it's not your partner that's making you suffer, but it might actually be work or diet.
Step 2. Think about what you will get
The perfect match should complement your current status and help you grow. Relationships are not stagnant, but always rolling and fluctuating up and down. However, the goal is a relationship that goes in a positive direction and is able to rise from every problem.
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Think of positive aspects like:
- Does your partner support your goals?
- Will your partner encourage you to reach new goals?
- Can your partner inspire you?
Step 3. Look for qualities you value
Remember the Golden Rule, “Treat others as you would like to be treated”. If the person you want doesn't have a major component that's important to you, don't ignore these signs.
- Pay attention to how your partner treats others. If he treats you well, but treats others without respect, consider that.
- Think about what the potential partner's relationship with his friends and family will be like. Depending on the circumstances, this is an indication of how your relationship will continue.
Method 4 of 4: Be patient
Step 1. Have confidence
The search for love will be worth the time and you deserve it. Confidence is very attractive physically and mentally. So, increase your confidence and love yourself for who you are.
- Confident people are good marketers. You need to market yourself with confidence and prove to people that you are worthy.
- In addition, by trusting your partner, he is also likely to like you. We tend to like people who like us.
Step 2. Don't give up
Don't stop dating just because you haven't found the right person. The statistic is that the more you date, the more likely you are to find love. Everything worth having is always worth fighting for.
You may not fall in love on the first date, but who knows, a spark of love may appear on the second, fifteenth, or even hundredth date
Step 3. Learn from mistakes
There are many faults that can arise from frequent dates, if not from you means from your partner. There is a lesson from every mistake, you just have to find it.
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With each failed date or rejection, you will learn how to date better.
- You will be more sensitive to warning signs and red lights.
- You will also know your strengths in anything. What types of dates can you enjoy (activity or just coffee)
- You will start to see patterns. If you've been on a lot of dates and often have relationships that don't work out, think again and look for similarities. So the next time you want to try again, find something new.
- You will discover a lot about yourself and what you really want out of life and relationships.
Step 4. Don't let the search for love take up all your attention
Please try to find the perfect match, but don't let your life be filled with that quest. This can get you stuck with the wrong people.
People will feel your joy in independence, and individuality is an attractive attribute
Tips
- Give it a second chance. If the first date doesn't go as planned, a second date probably does.
- Don't be too fussy. Small differences like dogs vs cats or Harry Potter vs Lord of the Rings are no big deal. If you can understand each other and enjoy being together, that's the most important thing.
- Accept nervousness. If you're nervous, then you really want it. He may also feel nervous.
