Getting rid of negative thoughts and influences can be challenging, especially if you are surrounded by negative people or if you already have a basis for negative habits. However, through awareness and strong determination, you can begin to change your life to become more positive. Changing who you spend time with and how you spend that time can open the gates to happiness so that a sense of pleasure and contentment can overflow your life.
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Part 1 of 3: Get Rid of Negative People from Your Life
Step 1. Find out who the negative people in your career are
Try to take the time to find out the negative people you deal with at work. Try asking yourself if there is someone who uses your time on a regular basis or if that person is bluntly or privately asking you to take your focus off your job to help. The person is being selfish by saving time while wasting yours. Chances are he's late for work, meetings, group activities. In addition, he may only make a small contribution thereby shifting the burden on you and your other co-workers.
Negative people can also show you envy or jealousy and make you feel bad about your accomplishments at work. The person may say that you are less successful or that you don't deserve recognition for something you did. For example, when you receive a promotion or bonus, the negative person might say "you're just lucky" or "you don't deserve that raise."
Step 2. Think of the negative people you interacted with at school or college
These people could be part of your group of friends, classmates or even a professor or teacher. This negative person may interrupt you when speaking in class, belittle you in front of others, or say that your opinion is stupid and untrue when you bring it up at school. Maybe this person is also trying to embarrass you in front of a group of friends and make you feel worthless.
Negative people may think the worst is going to happen and always see things as good or bad, with a tendency towards the bad. Your friends may have this attitude and like to remind you that "we are all cursed and will end up alone" or colleagues who say that you are "not smart" or "not unique."
Step 3. Find out who the negative people in the house are
A negative person at home, such as a parent or sibling, may try to change you or convince you that you need to improve yourself. You begin to doubt who you are and your values as a result of this person's influence and begin to feel that your opinions and ideas are no longer valid or worth sharing with others.
Negative people may keep trying to remind you that your opinions are worthless or untrue and try to erode your confidence. This person may say that you are "stupid," "worthless," or "stupid." This person may also ignore your opinion when you speak by saying "shut up" or really not listening at all
Step 4. Try to focus on reducing the time and energy you give to negative people
In order to get rid of negative people from your life, you must keep your distance from them, whether at school, at work, or at home. This means not spending every weekend with a negative friend or answering the phone right away. Try to give yourself time and space to get away from this person, especially if they are close friends or relatives.
- You can also allocate the time you normally spend with negative people to do something more positive and productive. Try asking negative friends to go out with more positive friends so they can experience what it's like to be around people with positive conversation and attitude.
- You can also limit your interactions with negative people by going out with lots of friends instead of just the two of you, so that each of you has a chance to talk to the other person, instead of constantly talking about negative things with each other. other.
Step 5. Set boundaries with negative people
While it may be tempting to completely remove the negative person from your life, you may be forced to work with them or share a room with them. Instead of letting their negative attitude drive you crazy, you can try setting boundaries so you feel in control and safe around this negative person. Try to chat with other people more often than with this negative person while working together on a group project or try to have a different schedule with your negative roommate so you two aren't home at the same time.
Try to maintain this boundary even if the negative person tries to bump into it. Remind yourself that making these boundaries will help you both avoid potential conflict so you can still work or live your life around this person
Step 6. Try to be positive around negative people
Bring this positive back into your life by having a more positive and open attitude around negative people. If this negative person makes negative comments about the weather, for example, remind him that tomorrow will be sunny and better than today. Or, if he comments on someone in a negative or hurtful way, say that this person is actually very kind and generous.
Combating negative attitudes with positive ones can also help you reduce negative perspectives from your friends or relatives. This way of dealing with it also feels proactive and open
Part 2 of 3: Get Rid of Habits and Negative Thoughts from Your Life
Step 1. Identify your unhealthy habits
Everyone has unhealthy habits, from drinking excessive alcohol, smoking, bingeing to eating unhealthy foods or having unhealthy emotional habits such as self-loathing or low self-esteem. Try to take the time to write down any unhealthy habits you currently have. Think about what habits make you unhappy and drain all of your energy.
Unhealthy habits like partying and drinking are definitely a problem, but other habits like unhealthy eating patterns or unhealthy relationships with other people can also let you down and add negativity to your life
Step 2. Eliminate these unhealthy habits
Activities such as excessive drinking, smoking and partying may feel good to do, but you are more likely to wake up the next morning with a headache and negative feelings. Reducing unhealthy habits allows you to use time for other activities that can lead to advancement in your career, personal passion, and development as an individual.
- Instead of stopping this whole activity right away, you can try reducing the time to do it. Try to go only once or twice a week, instead of every night after work. Or try to pick one night a week to go out with friends or your partner.
- Coping with stress by socializing with friends doesn't always involve drinking at a bar. You could try spending more time at home and inviting your friends over for a relaxing evening or cooking for them.
Step 3. Avoid the habit of negative self-talk
This habit is as destructive as any other negative habit. You do this because you only focus on the negative aspects of a situation or event, instead of the positive ones. For example, maybe you just had a great, productive day at the office. However, instead of going home to celebrate, you are busy focusing on all the tasks you have to complete the next day.
- It's also possible that you blame yourself consciously or unconsciously when something bad happens so that you feel like all the bad moments are your responsibility. For example, a friend cancels an appointment to go out with you and a group of friends. Instead of you accepting it, you feel like he's canceling it because no one wants to spend time with you. You may think, "This is all my fault" or "No one likes me."
- When you speak negatively to yourself, you also convince yourself that the worst will happen and disaster will happen anywhere. You may also have an overly genuine view of the world. For you the situation is good or bad and there is no gray zone or possibility of anything positive. You can think, "Everything sucks" or "Nothing good is happening to me."
Step 4. Use positive affirmations
Turn negative self-talk into a positive one by focusing on healthy self-talk so that you feel better. This means never saying things that you wouldn't say to yourself. Try to evaluate the negative thoughts that enter your mind, then respond with positive thoughts.
Say positive affirmations out loud to yourself every day and focus on the phrase "you are what you think." Say positive thoughts in the morning to start the day and focus your energy on positive things throughout the day. This means sentences that begin with "I can" and "I will". For example: "Today I will acknowledge and celebrate my accomplishments," "I am strong", "I can overcome negative thoughts"
Part 3 of 3: Focus on a Positive Life
Step 1. Have a healthy and balanced diet
A big part of living a positive life is taking care of yourself through what you eat every day. Have a healthy diet by eating plenty of food prepared at home in healthy portions, at least three times a day. You should eat protein, whole grains, vegetables, fruit, and dairy products in a balanced way every day, three times a day and try to eat them at the same time every day.
You should drink plenty of water throughout the day to keep your body hydrated, especially if your life is quite physically active. Avoid sugary drinks like soda and carbonated drinks
Step 2. Get eight to nine hours of sleep a day
If you get enough rest at night, you won't be tired the next day and won't wake up with negative thoughts. Make sure you have a regular sleep schedule and a good bedroom so you can sleep well.
Step 3. Take care of your physical health
Try to exercise at least three times a week on a consistent basis to boost endorphins and give your body a chance to release stress in a healthy way. Discipline yourself by taking one or two exercise classes. Or make a schedule for running and exercising at the same time each day. Exercising can help you feel positive about yourself and those around you.
Step 4. Focus on building positive relationships with other people
Connect with people who make you smile or laugh, instead of people who make you feel depressed and lonely. You have to create social situations where you feel accepted and supported by everyone around you. Making new relationships with positive people or strengthening existing relationships with positive people can help you let go of the negative.
