People who do not have maturity tend to think, feel, and behave childishly. Unfortunately, there are no surefire tips or quick ways to get rid of an immature reputation because this reflects the character that caused it. A person's character is revealed through his thoughts, feelings, and behavior when interacting with other people. The best way to get rid of a reputation for immaturity is to find out what aspects of your personality are making you think you're immature and then work on fixing them. Usually, reputation changes if you want to change, but sometimes, behavior change is less useful, for example if you are perceived as immature because someone else spreads misinformation about you. However, you can change your reputation by applying the following instructions.
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Method 1 of 3: Acting Stupid
Step 1. Remind yourself that reputation doesn't matter
One way to free yourself from a reputation for immaturity is to ignore it. Reputation matters because you think it matters, unless people's perceptions of you make it difficult for you to make new friends, work, and other things you think are important.
- Besides, thinking too much about reputation is a trait of immature people. If you're feeling really anxious about your reputation, just ignore it.
- Ask yourself why does reputation bother you? What are the consequences if others think you are immature? If the impact is small and doesn't hinder the achievement of an important goal, don't dwell on it. Instead, focus your thoughts on the aspects of life that benefit you.
Step 2. Understand that reputation doesn't necessarily tell the truth about you
Remember that reputation gives a picture of you according to the perception of others based on understanding or information that is not necessarily true. It could be that other people are secretly spreading inaccurate or incomplete information about you.
- Be honest with yourself. Ask yourself whether you are being childish or not. If so, consider whether or not you need to change.
- Don't be bothered by false information about you, unless the information seriously harms you (such as hindering you from achieving your life goals or you have difficulty socializing).
Step 3. Remember that reputation can change
Since the behavior that makes you considered immature can be changed, so can your reputation.
Method 2 of 3: Being Mature
Step 1. Determine the attitude that makes you seem immature and then try to show maturity
If your indifference tips aren't working, it's time to find out what character traits make you considered immature and then change them to change your reputation as well. In other words, figure out what needs to change and then make changes.
- Pay attention to how you think, feel, and behave and then observe others who are your age or older. Are you more dependent on other people than your peers? This step can help you determine which aspects of your life are causing you to be considered immature. Try to improve yourself by becoming an independent person, for example doing tasks that are usually completed with the help of others!
- Do not use other people's behavior as a reference because everyone has a different life experience, cultural background, and environment because these conditions shape different patterns of thinking and behavior.
- For example, increasing interdependence so that children remain with their parents into adulthood is more common in East Asians than Caucasians. If you don't consider certain information about yourself, such as your cultural background, you may subconsciously think your behavior is immature, when in fact this reflects cultural differences.
Step 2. Prioritize the interests of others
One of the hallmarks of maturity is being self-absorbed, for example being lighter at cleaning the house or helping a friend who needs help. Caring for others shows that you don't think only of yourself.
Step 3. Respect parents
Show respect for your parents by being open and honest with them. Listen carefully to their advice. One of the characteristics of maturity is respect and care for family members.
Step 4. Consider the other person's feelings
When communicating with other people, remind yourself to always think before you speak by asking yourself, "How does he feel when he hears what I have to say?"
- Make sure you always consider how you would feel if other people treated you the way you treat them.
- Also, remember that everyone has different feelings and perceptions about certain things. Consider relevant information about the people you are interacting with. For example, if you're talking to an introvert who doesn't like to joke around, don't invite him to joke around.
Step 5. Be yourself
Self-acceptance has more to do with the level of maturity that builds your reputation than your behavior.
If you value yourself highly, ask yourself how often you think negatively about other people. Chances are that you rarely do it and that other people rarely think negatively of you
Step 6. Obey social norms that apply in everyday life
Manners consist of very diverse rules. Obedience to etiquette is a hallmark of maturity because it shows that you understand social etiquette and want to apply it to the best of your ability.
- For example, if someone helps you, give appreciation and help in return. If you haven't had time to return the favor, make a note as a reminder so you don't forget to help if you can.
- Don't do anything rude, such as burp or defecate in public or behave in a manner that is contrary to etiquette.
- Make sure you understand eating etiquette. Say thanks to the person who prepared the meal. Offer to wash the dishes after eating at a friend's house to appreciate the hard work. If you eat at a formal event, don't forget to open the napkin and place it on your lap under the table. Don't talk when your mouth is full of food.
Step 7. Get in the habit of thinking before you speak
Instead of stating what you're thinking right away, carefully consider every word you want to say and don't speak in a very emotional tone.
For example, if you don't want to tidy up the house, instead of saying, "No, I don't want to!", you could say, "How about I finish my homework first? It's only an hour at most."
Step 8. Work on controlling your emotions
Another characteristic of immature people is the inability to control emotions or express feelings in their proper place.
So that you can control your emotions, consider various possibilities by answering the following questions. What is the worst impact of this problem? Did he mean it when he spoke or did he mean it? Is he tired so easily irritated? Have I ever done the same thing to someone else that I need to learn to forgive?
Step 9. Compensate by showing other aspects of maturity
If you're seen as immature because of something you don't want or can change, show maturity in another way.
For example, if you can't understand the other person's perspective, but you're having a hard time working on it to improve your reputation, compensate by cleaning the house more often, having an established life, demonstrating financial independence, or developing emotional maturity
Method 3 of 3: Improving Reputation
Step 1. Be patient
Since your reputation is caused by the opinion of a group of people about you, changing your reputation usually takes a long time. If you lose your temper while changing your reputation, remember that a mature or immature reputation isn't like a flickering light, it's diminishing like a light that goes on very brightly and then dims little by little until it finally goes out.
Step 2. Apologize and work on improving yourself
If you're seen as immature for doing something that upset someone else, apologize wholeheartedly and then try to fix it.
Don't pretend when you're apologizing. Show through concrete actions that you really want to address the problem you regret and prevent it from happening again. In other words, apologize by showing remorse, instead of just talking
Step 3. Find out the cause
It could be that someone has leaked information about you that you want to keep private. Find out the whistleblower and ask him to stop. If it is true that he badmouthed you in front of other people, ask why, and explain to him that you feel wronged. If he keeps acting up, ask for advice on how to deal with it, such as from a parent or teacher. Let people know that he is spreading misinformation about you.
Find out why you are considered immature by asking people who have been misinformed about you
Step 4. Get involved in the new community
Apart from changing the behavior that triggers problems, one of the surefire tips to drastically change your reputation is to start life in a new place so you can socialize with people who don't know you.
When starting a new life, you have a clean reputation so that you can carry yourself as a mature person by adopting new ways of behaving, thinking, and controlling emotions
Tips
- One quick way to rid yourself of a reputation for immaturity is to ignore it so you can feel good about yourself!
- Applying social norms is a way of showing that you understand etiquette and are willing to follow the rules.
- Being unselfish shows that you understand other people's feelings and don't just think about yourself.
- Learn to understand other people's perspectives. Consider other people's feelings, desires, points of view, and opinions. This ability is one of the hallmarks of maturity that can destroy a reputation for immaturity.
- Find out who is spreading misinformation about you so that you are seen as immature. Ask him to stop and let people know that he is saying untruthful things about you.
- Joining a new community is a surefire way to get rid of a bad reputation. Make new friends and become the adult person you want to be!
- Be patient! Becoming an adult and being considered an adult takes a lot of time.
Warning
- Don't let other people's perception of you affect your self-esteem!
- Consider carefully whether or not you need to improve certain aspects of your personality that make you considered immature.
