Among those who brought a box of chocolates and a bouquet of roses on Valentine's Day, there were people who commented that Valentine's Day was cheap and commercial. While most people won't complain about getting chocolates and roses, there are many more ways you can do more than that to show your partner that you love them. Anyone can buy a teddy bear and a box of heart-shaped candies, but only you understand him best. On February 14, show him that your relationship means a lot.
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Part 1 of 3: Showing that you really understand your partner
Step 1. Remember the little things they said
This may sound commonplace, but it's easy to forget the petty feelings your partner has spoken in passing. Don't start looking for Valentine's Day ideas on February 13th-just pay attention to the comments leading up to Valentine's Day. This is important regarding the details that you plan later, related to food and gifts.
Step 2. Get to know your partner's Valentine's style
Some people take pride in walking down the street carrying dozens of roses and balloons in the shape of a cupid (Cupid), while others feel embarrassed at the thought. Both are acceptable! To be sure, do not make your partner feel uncomfortable with your attitude. Find out if he likes the style that is excited or mediocre.
- Some people proudly state that they are anti-Valentin's Day. If your partner belongs to this group, don't think it's anti-love! Nobody refuses a little effort to show affection and encouragement on Valentine's Day, even if they insist they don't want to celebrate.
- Make sure you take their daily routine into account when you start planning a meaningful Valentine's Day. No one wants to be late for work just because of a surprise breakfast in bed, or forced to carry a large teddy bear on the city bus.
Step 3. Ask yourself what makes your partner different
What can make your lover smile? Focus on the unique character of the him. Granted, the grocery store, specifically the section that provides Valentine's Day preparations, is an easy place to start your plans, but it won't make Valentine's Day meaningful.
- Don't feel obligated to plan a celebration according to tradition or buy a special Valentine's Day gift. Whether your boyfriend loves jerky, reads tabloid junk, or takes a kickboxing class, try to incorporate the things he or she enjoys that day. This shows that you pay attention to the things that make him happy.
- With a careful planning process, make sure you create an experience that is purposely reserved for your partner only.
Part 2 of 3: Planning a Special Day
Step 1. Take a lot of time
This is important. If you are busy and painstakingly planning Valentine's Day, it will stand out. Set aside plenty of time to make sure everything goes perfectly.
- If you are planning to take your loved one out for a meal, make sure you reserve your place in advance. Book a place at the restaurant right away and take the time to make sure you can eat where you want. Do the same if you want to do the activity or recreation you want with your loved one.
- If you order a gift online, consider the delivery time. Don't just promise your boyfriend that you'll give him a present.
- If you're taking an unconventional approach to this special day, give yourself plenty of time to think quietly.
Step 2. Find out what makes your lover very happy
Does he like to eat at certain restaurants, or does he prefer to eat at home? Does she like having the chance to dress up, or does she prefer casual makeup? Remember, a meaningful Valentine's Day is not the same for every couple. Five-star restaurants and dancing at night may be perfect for some couples, but others prefer to watch Netflix and enjoy food purchased outside.
Step 3. Confirm with your lover
Even if you want to surprise him, make sure he is there and can carry out whatever you plan. You can keep specific plans to yourself, but at least your partner knows the big plans. Showing up at a nice restaurant wearing jeans or being forced to skip a special trip because of work can ruin your Valentine's Day. Make sure he includes you in his schedule!
Part 3 of 3: Finding the Right Gift
Step 1. Talk to your lover about gift-giving rules
Decide whether you will be exchanging gifts or no gift exchange at all. This won't spoil the surprise, but it will prevent awkwardness if only one party shows up with the gift.
Remember, sharing experiences together can be a gift. Don't feel like you have to spend a lot of money to buy a great gift
Step 2. Decide whether to buy or make your own gift
Little mementos (and notes if anything!) can help. Did he ever mention something he really wanted at the mall? Has he ever told you about his favorite gift he's ever received? All of these details can help you determine what to give.
Think about the favorite things your boyfriend likes to do. If he is a runner, give him running equipment. If he likes music, how about giving him an iTunes voucher or concert ticket? The gift will show your boyfriend that you pay attention to the specific things he likes
Step 3. Write a card with an immersive message
Whether you make, buy, or don't exchange gifts at all, your words are something special to give your loved one. This is your chance to go crazy, say something funny, or be as creative as possible. A handwritten note will show your sweetheart that you spent time searching for the perfect words for him or her, and they will become an unforgettable memory of that special day.
- Your Valentine's Card is the perfect medium to show your partner how committed you are to him or her. Show your true feelings. A card that contains a promise of loyalty and commitment will make your partner feel loved.
- Valentine's card is also a good medium to explain why you chose him. Show your partner why you think he or she is special, and the gift completes that.
- Even if the two of you don't exchange gifts, a sweet card won't be taken for granted. This is an inexpensive and very meaningful way to show great affection.
Step 4. Tell your partner what he or she means to you
This is best done all year round, but especially on this special day. Don't let him forget how special he is and how much he means to you. You have the opportunity to tell your partner that you admire and thank him so much that he cannot be underestimated. Often people are too late to convey it.
- Your words are important, but they need to be balanced by your nonverbal actions. Look at your partner to show that your attention to them is undivided.
- Make sure your body language conveys the same message as you say. Try leaning on your partner, open your arms, and show that there is no other place you want to be than with him.
Tips
- Start making lists on your smartphone of ideas and add to them throughout the year. You can look at the list to remember hints or small comments that the other person gave. This will show him that you love and care for him.
- Don't worry about spending a lot of money. The purpose of celebrating Valentine's Day is to shower your partner with love, not money. A gift from the heart means more than a gift from the store.
