For some people, taking other people on a trip is a very frightening specter. In fact, doing so is like opening the door to a new friendship, you know! If you're one of them, take a look at the tips listed in this article so that taking others on a trip no longer builds up unnecessary stress on your mind. One way you can do this is to take advantage of your free time to make the invitation sound more casual. However, you can also make your invitations straightforward and spontaneous if you have more courage!
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Method 1 of 3: Making Calls Casual
Step 1. Make a casual invitation
Been planning to take someone on a trip for a long time? To reduce the risk of being rejected, make sure you convey the invitation as casually as possible. Don't be so aggressive and pushy that you will look desperate in their eyes. Take deep breaths and use the tone of voice as natural as possible.
- You will sound too aggressive if you say, “You are so cool! I want to hang out with you."
- If you want to take your classmate on a trip, try saying, “What are you doing here, babbling every time we talk. Next time we'll just talk outside the classroom, let's go."
- If you meet someone who looks fun at an event, try saying, “It's been a great day, you know. Want to see you again sometime?"
Step 2. Take advantage of shared interests to take others on a trip
In fact, taking other people to travel without a specific reason is not as easy as turning the palm of the hand. That's why, if you and that person share a common interest, don't hesitate to take advantage of it! Tell them how much fun it would be if you and they could do interesting and fun activities together in the future.
- If you're always talking about The Walking Dead series with your coworkers, try inviting them over to your house to watch the sequel together. After all, both of you will definitely free up time when the show's schedule arrives, and he can go straight home after the series ends.
- If you always work out at the gym at the same time as someone else, try getting them to work out together at a later date. For example, try joking, "We can both have free personal trainers and motivate each other to work out harder, you know."
- You could also say, “It seems like we always take our painting classes at the same time, don't we? When do you want to meet and paint together?”
Step 3. Rest assured that they will accept your invitation
Trust me, there's no point in taking someone on a trip if your mind is already assuming their refusal. Cultivate the mindset that you are a fun person to travel with and therefore, whoever you invite is sure to say yes! If you're confident and don't hesitate to make your invitations straightforward, chances are that the people you're asking will be more open-minded and respond positively.
- Don't say, "Even though you seem like you're always busy and you already have a lot of friends, there's always something wrong with going out together if you want. If you don't want to, that's okay too, really."
- For example, think of one coworker you want to travel with. After that, meet him in the kitchen or lounge and say, "I think we need to hang out together outside the office once in a while, huh." The invitation is very straightforward, simple, shows your interest, and has as much room as possible to develop.
- If you always run into someone at a weekly meeting, try saying, “Well, we see each other every week but haven't talked much. Let's eat together sometime, after the club meeting!" The invitation is very direct and shows that you believe the person will say "yes".
Method 2 of 3: Recommend Specific Travel Time
Step 1. Share your free time with them
Before taking other people on a trip, make sure you have a few options regarding specific free time. For example, think of three dates in the next two weeks that aren't too busy for you to fill with other activities. After that, offer your friends the three date options, and ask if they're free on those dates too.
- Most likely, an invitation that is too specific will end up failing. Therefore, increase the probability by proposing three date options and then having them choose one of them.
- Chances are, you'll intentionally leave one day blank just in case you need an extra day to do something. If so, try conveying that you're usually free on Tuesday nights, then ask if he'd like to go out with you on the Tuesday night of the following week.
- For example, “I want to do something fun, next Saturday. You want to go shopping in the middle of the city and have lunch together, right?”
Step 2. Invite them to an upcoming event
If you already have plans in the near future (even if you aren't the organizer), try inviting your friends to the event. Since the event takes place at a specific time, if they refuse to come, it means they are refusing the event, not you. The invitation will also sound more casual, you know!
- If you will be attending a game of your favorite football club in the near future, invite them to attend. There is no need to hesitate because the event is general in nature, held at a specific time, and attended by many other people.
- Not planning to attend any events in the near future? Try putting together a fun plan with your closest friends! When the plan is in place, invite people you want to get to know more closely to come along.
- The event does not have to be private, you know. After all, other people are more likely to accept invitations to casual, general events, such as going to a city festival with you.
Step 3. Make plans for the weekend
Throughout the week, chances are that everyone already has a busy, inviolable schedule. However, generally their time will be more free and flexible on weekends. If you've only seen them on weekdays, why not take them out on weekends? That way, you and them will have more time to spend together.
- Generally, people won't mind traveling late on Fridays and Saturdays. In addition, they also tend to have more free time on Saturdays and Sundays.
- In addition, weekends will usually be filled with various interesting activities such as theater performances, night markets and various festivals, concerts, and parties.
- Try saying, “After a tiring week, I want to have some fun this weekend. Do you want to come to the shooting range on Friday after work?"
Method 3 of 3: Be Spontaneous
Step 1. Invite your friends to eat together
If it's time for lunch at work or school, try taking your friends to lunch together. If you and they have brought lunch from home, why not eat it together in a place? If not, try taking him out to a nearby restaurant or cafe. This invitation will sound casual because you both really need to eat lunch.
- If you don't want to make invitations that are too spontaneous, try taking your friends out to dinner together after work or meeting up again a few hours later after you and they have finished each other's responsibilities.
- If you and they just finished attending an event in the evening, try asking them to find a light snack at a nearby cafe.
Step 2. Take your friends on a trip after attending an academic class or meeting at the office
If the people you want to travel with are classmates, the office, or the club, try taking them out after a meeting, club activity, or class is over. You can make this invitation while still in class or office, or shortly after the activity ends.
- Some people may reject your invitation because they already have other schedules. However, there will always be people who have some free time afterwards. Take advantage of this free time!
- Try saying, “Oops, I have nothing to do after class. You want to go out together, don't you?" The invitation sounded light and undemanding, especially since it came out so spontaneously.
- As you exit the meeting room, you might say, “Hey, I'm going to have coffee at the cafe across the street. Anyone want to come along?" Don't worry, your invitation will sound normal because buying drinks after work is a common activity for everyone.
Step 3. Invite someone to join in every activity you do
Whenever you want to do something and coincidentally, the person you want to travel with is also there, don't hesitate to take them. After all, whatever the response, you will still do the activity, right? If you meet that person every day, the invitation options you have are actually limitless!
- For example, try taking your roommate to watch a movie at the cinema, taking your neighbors for a walk around the apartment complex, or inviting co-workers to exercise after work.
- Make it a habit to invite other people to travel with you. After a while, they'll get used to it and it's easier to say "yes" to your every invitation.
