Sexual tension is a chemistry between you and someone that makes you nervous and excited at the same time. Whether you're flirting with someone you just met or looking to turn friendship into love, creating chemistry with the person you like is a crucial step. Through flirting touch, flirting, and high self-confidence, you can increase sexual tension. Thus, you and the he will feel more and more curious about what will happen.
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Method 1 of 2: Creating a Live Chemistry and Sexual Tension Match
Step 1. Touch him in a casual and “accidental” way
When talking to your crush for the first time, start to touch them by nudging them, or touching the backs of their hands and shoulders. At first, you can make this touch seem “accidental”, then start to touch it purposely once you feel comfortable with each other.
- If the person reciprocates your interest, either by continuing the conversation or touching back, increase the intensity of the touch. Try touching the top of her back, or gently grip her hand to increase sexual tension.
- If you're not sure he's interested, feel the side of his face. To avoid appearing aggressive, you can say something like “You have hair on your face, hold on a minute…. Well, it's gone."
Step 2. Look into his eyes as if you are stunned and happy with his presence
Maintaining eye contact is a great way to increase the tension between you and him. Don't just stare; Look deeply into his eyes, then give a half-hearted smile, as if trying to find out what's in his head. Avert your eyes, then look into his eyes again.
- Looking deep into his eyes shows that you are interested and fascinated. This will make him feel mysterious, attractive, and confident to continue to tease you.
- Remember, don't stare into his eyes for too long! Stay natural and look away from time to time, but make sure you make eye contact a little longer than usual.
Step 3. Make small talk to lighten the mood
Whether you're new to the person or want to turn a friend into a lover, your interaction should start where you feel comfortable at the time. Talk about something that you both enjoy, then encourage him to keep talking by being subtle flirtatious.
Talk about things around you
“You should tell me about this drink. What do you call that drink?”
Flirt or challenge him
“Explain this game to me. What are the rules, and how can I beat you?”
Let's make a bet. If I can push you into the pool first tonight, you'll have to give me the hat. If you manage to push me first….. you are free to want anything.”
Step 4. Tell a personal story or a seductive story
After breaking the ice, start to code that you want something more. Tell a story about someone who seduced you, but ended up being funny. You can also talk about other people flirting with each other. Don't be too aggressive; keeping the sexual context under wraps will make what you're doing even more seductive.
- Say something like “Look at Amanda and Robin right now. They teased each other all night. Bet, Robin will definitely invite Amanda to dance with him later."
- Share something personal by saying, “The last time I sat at this bar, something crazy happened. I was talking to my girlfriend, then…. uh, I'm not sure if I should tell you this."
Step 5. Create verbal and physical tug-of-war situations to add to the sexual tension
Creating a "push-pull" situation is one of the best ways to create sexual tension; You have to show interest – but not too much – then back off to get him to want more. You can do this verbally and physically to create a fun and engaging interaction.
How to do a tug-of-war
Verbally:
"I think you're cute… but I'm not sure I can trust you."
"You look cool, but you don't seem ready to meet my friends yet."
“You did your best… maybe your wish will come true one day…”
Physically:
Lean or whisper in his ear and walk away.
Gently push or hit the arm, then rub the area as if you wanted to heal it.
Step 6. Stimulate his curiosity by providing incomplete information
A mysterious aura is the key to creating sexual tension. Playing with her curiosity will make her interested and want to know more. When he asks, just answer it casually so that he is interested, then turn the question back to him. If you have something to say, don't get too excited; however, tell your story in stages so that he is interested in following it.
Creating a Mysterious Aura
If he asks you about your job, say, “I work in a marketing company. I currently take care of things related to social media. My job is funny sometimes. How about you? . This will make him more curious about your work and show that you are interested in his work.
If you tell me something, say something like, “This reminds me of yesterday. I saw a man walking his dog, then….. uh, I'm not sure I want to tell you this. This is my best story, and we're not close to each other yet."
Don't be afraid to be quiet. When seducing, silence for a few seconds can be a powerful weapon. This gives you the opportunity to show body language, and raises the tension level without using words.
Step 7. Show confidence and believe that he's interested, even if you're not really sure
Confidence is one of your greatest charms. Showing it off will create sexual tension quickly. If you feel insecure, you can still fake it for profit.
Stand in a relaxed position
Lean against the table with your shoulders open, then cross your arms confidently like a snob. Smile and make eye contact, even if you feel a little embarrassed.
Pretend that you are someone else who is more confident. Choose a celebrity, friend, or stranger who has high self-confidence. Act like them until it feels natural to you.
Repeat these words to yourself, “He is attracted to me. He wants me. Even if you don't believe it, getting the idea into your head will give you a confidence boost in no time.
Step 8. Do not rush to make physical contact until he feels safe and comfortable
Rushing into physical contact is a bad idea. If he's not ready, you'll either scare him or make him feel uncomfortable. Even if he wants to do something “more”, rushing it will make you seem desperate, which will mess up the sexual tension between you two. Make sure that you and your partner share the same desire, and that you both feel safe and comfortable.
- Say something like "Are you okay with this?" or “I want what you want. What do you want now?”
- Being relaxed can also make you look sexy. Finding out more about the other person's desires will make you and him want each other even more. Knowing that someone wants you as much as you want them is the sexiest thing ever.
Method 2 of 2: Building Sexual Tension through Text Messages
Step 1. Flirt or challenge him to feel the need to impress you
Showing that you're fun, funny, and interesting through texting is a powerful way to create sexual tension. Send flirty and challenging messages to create a “push and hold” situation – show that you haven't impressed him yet and he'll want to prove himself even more. Send messages like:
- “Wow, your profile picture… just wow…”
- "Let's play. Tell me one fact about yourself and one lie, then let me guess which one is true…. let's determine the reward too."
- "You have bad taste. You can't watch a movie that I don't recommend."
Step 2. Use emoticons to add sexual tension through text messages
You can exchange messages normally, but use more seductive and bold emoticons. Make sure you don't overdo it! Using more than 2 emoticons in a message, or using too many exclamation points and question marks will make you seem desperate and the sexual tension will go away.
How to Use Emoticons Correctly
Pair seductive emoticons with subtle messages…
“You better be careful. I play to win” + grinning emoticon
"See you tonight then" + wink emoticon
…vice versa
"Who am I? Girlish??" + angel emoticons
“You are naughty, omg” + evil face emoticon
Tips:
Just use 1 or 2 emoticons per message so you don't overdo it.
Step 3. Mix a flirty message with something more serious or give it a compliment
Sending a casual, flirty message is a great way to slowly create sexual tension, but once it's set in, mixing it up with something else can give better results. When you and your partner are comfortable with each other, send something more serious, like a compliment or a covert declaration of love. Try to say:
- "But seriously, I couldn't take my eyes off you last night."
- "At first I thought this was a joke, but when you opened the car door for me last night, you looked so sexy."
- "I can't stop thinking about you."
Step 4. Talk about the things you have done together in a new context
If you've talked about a lot of things, or have been friends in the past, you can create sexual tension and deepen the relationship by going over things you've been doing while adding a little bit of flirting. Remind him of something you two did together, then admit that you felt something different at the time, but were too shy to say it. Signaling that you have deep feelings without expressing them clearly will increase the sexual tension in your conversation.
- “I was thinking about your first text message to me. The words you use…. really bad. However, look where our relationship is now. I can't laugh because we're getting closer now…”
- "Remember the first time we met? You just sit next to me, then say 'is this chair already occupied yet?' What an impressive introduction."
Step 5. Use subtle sarcasm when you and your partner are comfortable with each other
Giving satire or subtle code is an effective way if done carefully. You have to be sexy and passionate without looking desperate or scary. This means you have to rely on seduction and temptation to make it work. When done right, you will make him have the same mindset as you! Try doing something like:
- “I just had a super delicious burger. The delicious taste almost excites me, hahaha.”
- “I dreamed of you last night…. but I don't want to talk about it."
