Sexual meditation is a way to increase awareness of the body in order to increase pleasure during sex. Regular sexual meditation can help increase sexual pleasure for you and your partner as well as strengthen your relationship. You can learn how to do sexual meditation even if you've never meditated before.
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Part 1 of 2: Doing Basic Sexual Meditation
Step 1. Choose a quiet and distraction-free place
Dim the bedroom or living room lights and get rid of all electronics, such as telephones, televisions, and laptops. Adjust the room temperature to stay comfortable. Temperatures that are too cold or too hot may be annoying.
Arrange some pillows on the floor to sit on while meditating. Arrange the pillows so that they are close to each other, but there is still some distance between you and your partner
Step 2. Make it as comfortable as possible
Do a position that is comfortable for you and your partner. You can lie down or sit with your feet in the lotus position. You and your partner can meditate in loose, comfortable clothes or wear nothing at all as you please.
- Straighten your spine, whether you're sitting or lying down, with your arms at your sides. Rest your hands relaxed on your lap if you are meditating in a sitting position.
- Lift your chin and head so that they are in line with your spine if you are sitting.
Step 3. Close your eyes
Once ready, you and your partner can close your eyes and start meditation. At first, try to stay aware of your surroundings. Pay attention to your body, your breath, and any sounds you hear.
Try to ignore distracting thoughts and stay focused on the present moment. If a thought pops into your head, acknowledge it and let it go. For example, if you're thinking about something that happened at work, then it's best to think, “yes, it did happen,” then imagine that thought disappearing
Step 4. Focus on your breathing
When meditating, focus on your breathing. Take deep, calming breaths and watch the air move in and out of your body. As you inhale, draw the air down into your stomach and imagine the stress leaving your body as you exhale.
Try to be aware of yourself and how you feel. Feel how the air around the body, how all parts of the body feel from hands to feet
Step 5. Visualize your body
As meditation begins, visualize your own body. Think about how your body looks inside and out and what the energy in your body looks like. Think about the shape, color, and sound you're feeling right now. For example, imagine the desire you feel for your partner is like a red ball.
Focus on your physical sensations. Try as much as possible to be aware of your own body and the sensations you are experiencing. The goal of sexual meditation is to increase awareness, which can lead to increased sexual arousal
Step 6. Focus on your partner
Once you've visualized yourself, shift your focus to your partner. Try to think about your partner's current body and emotions.
- Look at your partner. Open your eyes and look into your partner's eyes. Make sure you also see the movement of the partner's breath. Look at your partner's body movements. For example, observe your partner's stomach and chest rising and falling as you inhale and exhale.
- Communicate with your partner without speaking. Try using your face, hands, and eyes to show your partner how you feel. Observe also the expression of the couple. Also try to find out how he feels.
Step 7. Continue with intercourse
After doing sexual meditation for about 20 minutes, continue with intercourse. If intercourse is more enjoyable after sexual meditation, talk to your partner about doing it regularly.
Part 2 of 2: Enhancing Experience
Step 1. Play nature sounds or soothing music
Noise will make it difficult to concentrate. So playing certain nature sounds or music to enhance your meditation will help you and your partner relax. Try playing the sound of rain, the sound of ocean waves, or New Age music.
Make sure you choose music that is long enough for you to meditate and have sex
Step 2. Try taoist sexual meditation
Once you've tried basic sexual meditation, try moving on to more complex forms. Taoist sexual meditation is a form of meditation that focuses on uniting your desires and those of your partner.
- Harmonize breathing. You can start practicing taoist meditation by holding your partner's hand and trying to unify the breath. Align the inhaling and exhaling phases so that you and your partner inhale and exhale at the same time. Keep trying until your breaths come together.
- Squeeze hands. Hand wringing is another form of taoist sexual meditation. Gently open and close your partner's hand or squeeze your partner's hand in a slow, gentle rhythm. Your partner may also squeeze your hand.
Step 3. Include tantric practice
Tantric sex is a way of using sex for meditation. So incorporating tantric practice might be fun for you and your partner. Some easy tantric sex exercises you can try are:
- Staring eyes. Try to make eye contact with your partner during intercourse and when you reach climax.
- Breathing back and forth. Try alternating breaths with your partner. For example, you inhale when your partner exhales and vice versa.
Tips
- Before you decide to try sexual meditation, talk to your partner about why you want to try it.
- You and your partner can also practice meditation separately to get used to emptying your mind so that it is a little easier to meditate together.
