Problems in life are sometimes too overwhelming and you really don't want to face them. Fortunately, research into dealing with someone's problems is often done and there are many cognitive, emotional, and behavioral steps you can take to effectively solve your problem.
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Part 1 of 3: Accepting and Admitting Problems
Step 1. Admit your problem
People are often tempted to stay away from the problem at hand. However, this does not help solve the problem. Better admit your problem and ask yourself some questions. What are the consequences of your problem? Who is involved?
- If you don't think you have a problem but people around you say otherwise, try to find out the truth.
- If you're having a hard time admitting you've had a problem, you may be in denial. For example, you don't want to accept the fact that a family member is addicted to drugs. You may be looking for other reasons for your family's changing behavior.
- Denial is sometimes useful for maintaining mental health, but it will prevent you from facing the problem head-on.
- In fact, the problem will only get worse if you continue to avoid it. Avoiding the problem will only continue to add to the burden of the mind because the problem will always reappear in your memory.
- However, sometimes a little escape is necessary. If you feel overburdened, take a break. Watch television, read a book, or do a hobby that you enjoy. In fact, you can just daydream and let your thoughts wander.
Step 2. Don't think too much
Avoid irrational thoughts and exaggerate the problem than it really is. For example, you may think your future is falling apart just because you don't pass one course. Also avoid thinking as if your life ends if a problem is not resolved.
- You can avoid this by being aware of when you're overthinking. You need to keep an eye on your own thoughts and check for accuracy.
- You can keep an eye on your own thoughts by remembering to dwell on your superfluous thoughts and ask yourself, do other people have the same thoughts? Do you think these thoughts are accurate?
Step 3. Find the source of the problem
When did you first notice this problem? Sometimes, humans don't realize something until it's too late. Especially if the problem involves other people (for example, a family member was addicted to drugs long before you knew it).
If you think you know when a problem might start, think about what happened at that time. Maybe the root of the problem has something to do with the incident. For example, if your grades started dropping in school after your parents divorced, you may still be shaken by the incident
Step 4. Look at it from a different point of view
You can be sure, your problem is not the end of everything. You can take on the problems and still move on with your life. Every problem has a solution or can be seen from another point of view which shows the problem is not as serious as you think.
- For example, your problem may be that it is difficult to get to school on time. This can be overcome by changing some habits or adjusting your transportation options.
- Some things can't be changed, such as permanent disability or the death of a loved one, but you can learn to move on and be happy again. Also, keep in mind that people tend to think that bad events will make them feel bad longer than they should.
- Acknowledging that the presence of problems is not the end of things does not mean problems can be ignored. It only helps you that the problem can still be solved.
Step 5. Accept the challenge
Problems can be seen as negative, or as opportunities to rise. For example, if you don't pass a course, this may be a big problem and can make you depressed, or you can think positively and accept the challenge. Failure indicates that you still have to study harder or need to strategize new methods and study groups that are more effective. You can use problems as opportunities to learn certain skills.
Addressing problems and solving them will make you more competent and empathetic towards others who have the same problem
Part 2 of 3: Expressing Problems to Yourself
Step 1. Write down your problem
Take a pen and paper and write down your problem. This will help you see the problem more clearly and feel capable of solving it.
- For example, if your problem is not having enough money, just write down the problem. You can also write down the implications of the problem to clarify the point and motivate you to solve the problem. An implication of the problem of lack of money may be stress or you can't enjoy the things you want.
- If the problem isn't personal, you can stick the list in an easy-to-see place, such as on the refrigerator door, so you can always remember it.
Step 2. Talk about your problem
Share the relevant details of your problem with trusted people, such as friends, relatives, teachers or parents. At least, your stress can be reduced.. In addition, you may be able to get advice that was previously unthinkable.
If you are going to talk to someone who has the same problem, do so with tact. Say that you want to learn from the person so that you too can work on your problem
Step 3. Embrace your feelings
Your feelings can be a guide to how things are progressing. Feelings, even negative ones, are very important. If you feel frustrated or angry, for example, instead of ignoring everything, acknowledge and assess the cause. If the source of the problem is found, you will be able to find a solution.
- You can feel disappointed, angry, or worried as long as you know these feelings won't solve the problem. You need to take action to solve the problem. However, these feelings will help you identify your problem and find its source.
- Some ways to relieve feelings of disappointment include: focusing on your breathing, counting to 10 (or more if needed), talking to yourself gently (say "it's okay," or "don't think too much about it."). Go for a walk or run or listen to relaxing music.
Step 4. See a counselor
If the problem is affecting your mental health and well-being, it is advisable to see a mental health professional. these professionals will help you to tackle and solve your problem
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Part 3 of 3: Finding Solutions
Step 1. Research your problem
Many problems are common enough that the details are plentiful on the internet. You can research from various journals, or discussion forums. Problems related to behavior, finance, academics, etc., usually have been written about on the internet.
- Try talking to someone who has had a similar problem or a professional whose field is relevant to your problem.
- For example, if your problem is academic, talk to other teachers or students who have taken the course or course you're having trouble with.
- Knowing where the problem is coming from will help you deal with it better. Turn your attention to problem solving to reduce tendencies toward unproductive emotions such as guilt and anxiety, which can hinder your problem-solving abilities and capabilities.
Step 2. Seek expert help
See an expert if your problem involves something they can help with. For example, if your problem is being overweight, see a dietitian or physical trainer to help solve your problem.
- Make sure the professional you visit is licensed in the field, to make sure he or she is competent enough to help solve your problem.
- There were people who claimed to be experts, but if the qualifications were insufficient it was likely that he was a fake expert.
Step 3. Look for people who have successfully solved a similar problem
Try to find other people who have experienced the same problem and managed to solve it. Will the same method work for you? For example, if you have an addiction to alcohol, you can attend an Alcoholics meeting and get good strategies for dealing with your problem.
Try asking how to resolve and resolve the problem you shared. Others may be able to see the solution more clearly than you
Step 4. Brainstorm for solutions
Make a list of potential solutions to your problem. Think about where you should start, who to turn to for help and what things are needed to solve the problem. Make sure you look for as many solutions as you can without going overboard. Just write down everything you can think of and evaluate the pros and cons later.
- Consider the anatomy of your problem. Usually, the problem is not just one. Problems have consequences and have repercussions in other areas of your life. Which part of the problem needs to be studied first?
- For example, if your problem is that you never take vacations, it could be because it's hard to find time off or you don't have enough money for vacations.
- You can study these derivative problems separately. You can save money on meals while trying to persuade your boss to take some time off (say you're really tired and would be more productive if you took a few days off).
Step 5. Evaluate your solution
Ask yourself questions that might determine the approach you will take to solve the problem. Ask the following questions:
- Will the solution really solve your problem?
- Is the solution efficient in terms of time and resources to solve the problem?
- How would you feel if one choice was made and the other was not?
- What are the advantages and disadvantages of this solution?
- Has this solution worked before?
Step 6. Execute your plan
If you already know the necessary actions and things, implement your plan and face the problem head-on. If the first solution doesn't work, move on to the next plan or start over from the solution list log. The important thing is to keep trying until the problem is successfully resolved.
- When executing the plan, reward yourself for every small success to increase your motivation to solve problems.
- Avoid the temptation to ignore the problem if the plan doesn't work. Remember, don't think too much. Just because one plan doesn't work, doesn't mean there aren't other ways to solve your problem.
