3 Ways to Be The Person You Want To Be

2024 Author: Jason Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-16 10:50

Everyone wants to be the best they want to be. Maybe you want to be a professional footballer, a famous painter, or the best parent you can be. Although it may seem very difficult, you can achieve your best by eliminating the things that are self-defeating. For that, start by getting to know every aspect of your personality.

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Method 1 of 3: Knowing Yourself

Step 1. Know that you are already the person you want to be

The secret to becoming the person you want to be is realizing that you have already achieved it! You are already the best. Right now, you just need to learn how to make it happen. Everything you want and the resources you need are at your disposal.

What you are looking for is not outside of you. If your capacity for self-respect, self-confidence, or a sense of abundance depends on your external environment, you will always live in fear of losing them all. Real inner strength comes from believing that the cause of your wish coming true is already within you

Step 2. Know the things that might be hindering your journey

There is a quote of wisdom that says "the only thing holding you back is yourself". Therefore, you need to find out the traits or habits that don't align with the person you want. It's a good idea to ask those closest to you if they've seen you exhibit self-defeating traits. In general, there are two inhibiting properties:

• Doubt yourself. This trait makes you do nothing, don't want to change, and never be your best. If you are afraid of failure or loss, overcome these feelings. The best way to beat self-doubt is to collect evidence of your past successes by remembering all your accomplishments. After that, ask friends or people closest to them to say what makes them admire about you.
• Likes to procrastinate. Bad traits usually arise from an inner voice telling you that you will do well under pressure or that you should procrastinate because it can be completed in no time. Procrastinating an hour will turn into a day and eventually you will have to stay up late to complete tasks. Get rid of the habit of procrastination by finding out the cause. After that, change the way you complete tasks. Instead of wanting to work on a task all at once, tell yourself that you can take a break if you work little by little. Find a quiet place so you are not distracted while working.
• If you have painful memories, fears, depression, or drug addiction, you may not be able to deal with these problems alone. Consult a mental health professional who can heal old wounds so you can achieve the bright and happy future you want.

Step 3. Find out who you really are

Everyone is born with a specific purpose. You are here with a unique purpose that you must discover for yourself. Pablo Picasso once said, “The meaning of life is to discover one's talents. The purpose of life is to share it.” Do an evaluation to get to know who you really are and become a person who is in harmony with your life goals. Ask yourself the following questions:

1. What goal do you want to achieve every time you wake up in the morning? What makes you really excited?
2. What subjects did you enjoy in school? What knowledge would you like to deepen?
3. What work have you done that made your life meaningful?
4. What activities do you enjoy the most so that time seems to pass quickly?
5. What are your strengths in the opinion of others?
6. What ideas excite your life?

7. What keeps you from living if it doesn't exist?

   

   Step 4. Ignore thoughts that contradict who you really are

   Every time you think negative, critical, scary, or hurtful things, you are actually separating yourself from yourself. Every time you tell yourself that you are incapable of doing or having something, this thought becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because it makes it impossible for you to reach your goal. Your real self has the ability to be whatever you want to be and this can only be achieved if you believe in it.

   • To stop self-defeating thoughts, start by recognizing them and then challenging these thoughts. If you think "I can't" type a new activity, ask for proof that you can't. Many people are used to criticizing themselves in a detrimental way. Try to be aware of these negative thoughts and replace them with positive statements, for example: "I'm afraid to start new things, but I won't know what I'm capable of unless I try."
   • People who like to criticize themselves usually lack confidence. While trying to break the habit of self-criticism, imagine that you've already accomplished your goal. Visualization is a powerful motivator and gives you confidence that you are capable of achieving your goals.
   • Find a quiet place and sit in a comfortable position to visualize. Close your eyes and take a deep breath and imagine that you have already achieved what you want. Start by thinking about an easy-to-reach goal, such as losing 5 kg or passing an exam with a 10. Imagine that you have reached your final goal, but also look back to imagine every step you have to take to get there (example: set diet and exercise or study every day and seek a mentor).

   Method 2 of 3: Act

   

   Step 1. Listen to your inner voice

   Many people ignore the gentle greeting from their hearts, namely intuition or the inner voice of self-love and admiration. A voice that reminds us to always be calm and feel confident. However, louder noises scream in our minds and give orders for us to act. Apart from depriving us of confidence, this voice drags us into the pursuit of material things and all aspects of life that are fictitious.

   Learn to recognize the difference between a loud criticizing voice that depresses you and a gentle, constructive voice that loves and supports you. After that, choose the one you want to listen to

   

   Step 2. Decide what you don't want

   You will not achieve success if you do not know what you want. Sometimes, our life goals change so that we seem lost and confused about what we want to achieve. Knowing what you don't want can point you in the right direction and help you set clear boundaries.

   

   Step 3. Get used to thinking optimistically

   Scientific research proves that optimistic people tend to live longer in good physical and mental health than pessimists. Seeing the glass half full means smiling more often, not comparing yourself to others because you want to compete, and always looking at the positive in any situation.

   A study managed to find a way to become a more optimistic person, namely by doing exercises to imagine yourself being the best in the future. As you practice, you should write expressively for 20 minutes about who you will be in the future according to these instructions: “Think about the life you want. Imagine everything going well. You've worked hard to achieve everything you dreamed of. Think of this state as the realization of all the things you desire. Now, write down everything you imagined earlier." Do this exercise three days in a row

   

   Step 4. Take risks

   Are you still so worried about failure that you don't want to show your abilities? Learn to be a brave person and take advantage of every opportunity that opens up. Successful people achieve success not by playing it safe. Read the situation and get to know the people around you to determine which opportunities you should take. After that, focus on determining strategies to achieve success.

   • People who like to take risks are always testing their methods for improvement and developing the most efficient way to get the best results. Don't stop experimenting.
   • Expect success, but be prepared for failure. You should always envision success, but failure is sometimes impossible to avoid. Admit mistakes and use them as learning opportunities to improve your skills and become stronger.
   • Living in a comfort zone can lead to boredom and feelings of isolation. Leave your comfort zone by taking the initiative and doing new work in addition to routine tasks. Volunteer by serving communities you've been neglecting (eg drug addicts, homeless people, etc.) Another way to change your work routine is to move into a new position. Try to occupy a leadership position so that your responsibilities are greater and more people rely on you.

   

   Step 5. Learn to say “no” when necessary

   People who are willing to take risks are more likely to say “yes” than “no” because they are trying to overcome fear or doubt in order to seize a valuable opportunity to continue to develop themselves. But when you want to be the best, you have to learn to speak your mind and say "no" when you have to. Respect yourself and your beliefs by refusing to participate in activities that are inconsistent with your goals.

   • Sometimes, you have to say "yes" to maintain a good relationship. In this case, the approval you give will support the achievement of goals if this person has a positive impact on your life.
   • If you believe that "no" is the best option, do so without giving excuses or apologizing.

   Method 3 of 3: Increase Positive Energy

   

   Step 1. Connect with positive people

   Who you spend most of your time with reflects who you are as the old saying goes, “birds of the same feather flock together”. Observe your social life on a daily or weekly basis to see if the people around you accurately reflect who you really are. Make friends with people whose traits and personalities are worthy of your admiration, but who can also hone you. Don't look for friends just to feel the momentary pleasure, but prevent you from being the best.

   • Hans F. Hansen said, “Other people will inspire you or drain you of your energy.” Test this statement by observing the people closest to you in your life. Pay attention to how you feel when you are with them. Are you feeling happy and motivated? Do they encourage you to behave positively in a healthy way?
   • If the people around you are making you tired or gloomy, you may have sacrificed your desire for self-improvement by choosing to live with them. Decide if you need to cut ties with them because you can't live the life you want if you stay with them.

   

   Step 2. Develop your strengths

   Find your abilities and talents and then use them in your daily life to get better and better. By developing your strengths, you give the best of yourself to the world. In addition, you will feel more confident, more valuable, and more successful.

   Recognizing weaknesses is equally important so that you know what can still be improved. However, knowing and harnessing your own strengths enables you to realize your desires and achieve self-actualization. Remember that you were born with special talents for some reason. Make the most of it

   

   Step 3. Give yourself a gift

   When you are self-actualizing, don't forget to take time to be kind to yourself. It's good to push yourself to improve, but we all need to rest and take care of ourselves so that we can recover. If you're feeling stressed or overwhelmed, do some self-healing exercises to calm your mind and get rid of negative energy so it doesn't affect what you're doing.

   • You can practice recuperating by doing some activities that will improve your mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Everyone is free to determine how to recover, for example: practicing yoga, journaling, exercising, meditating, praying, or doing other relaxing activities.
   • Decide on some of the activities you enjoy the most and do them when you feel stressed. Make this activity a daily or weekly ritual to relieve stress.

   

   Step 4. Believe in yourself and live life in peace

   Keep a good relationship with yourself. Sometimes, the busyness of everyday life makes us neglect ourselves. Get in the habit of having inner conversations and self-reflection. What do you need? Do you want to rest? Give yourself time to give yourself a chance to evaluate your life goals and determine if these goals are what you want to achieve. We're all in the process, so feel free to change your plans or reorganize your life if needed. Be the best for yourself!

   Tips

   • Be your real self.
   • Remember that you are an amazing person.