As a man living in the modern era, you are certainly aware that as the mass media grows, so does the demand for a lifestyle that consumers are consciously allowed to burden themselves with. One of them, women today are constantly exposed to information about how to dress and look that is considered correct. As a result, modern women's self-esteem has plummeted, and this lack of self-esteem can negatively affect their personal relationships. If your partner starts showing these symptoms, try to help him understand that he is really special and valuable. The trick, try to always compliment him, make him feel safe in the relationship, and help him to see his body in a more positive way.
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Method 1 of 3: Complimenting Your Partner
Step 1. Be aware of the weaknesses
Basically, everyone has a weak point in their life. However, people with low self-esteem usually have a higher level of vulnerability so they need extra support from those closest to them. As a partner, most of the support in the form of motivation, empathy, kindness, and love must of course come from you. Therefore, avoid the urge to judge your partner's thoughts and actions, and make your partner feel safe because chances are, you are the only person he can rely on.
- Pay more attention to your partner's weaknesses, but help your partner understand that the only person who can control their thoughts, actions, and insecurities is themselves. Even though you have received support, love, and stability from you, the true decision to change yourself in a more positive direction still lies in the hands of your partner.
- Recognize how much love and help you can provide. Also learn how to raise your partner when insecurity strikes again, as well as how to support your partner while working on getting to the root of the problem.
Step 2. Give a sincere and realistic compliment
Complimenting your partner can help him feel better, as well as make you feel more positive afterward. Most importantly, always give sincere, well-founded compliments. In other words, don't overdo the compliment so that your partner's problems don't end up getting worse.
- The key to giving genuine compliments is to look for the positive in your partner and share it without expecting anything in return. For example, you could say, "You have a beautiful smile" or "That dress looks great on you."
- Try not to be too focused on his appearance. In other words, praise him for being able to stay calm while calming a fussy toddler, or for being able to give timely answers in History class.
Step 3. State the positive aspects related to the character of the partner
Although your partner won't mind hearing compliments about his appearance, the best compliments are those that relate to his character. By doing so, your partner will realize that in your eyes, his existence far exceeds his physical appearance. Therefore, allude to positive things beyond her physical beauty, such as her character, intelligence, or kindness.
- You can say, "It's nice to see you don't hesitate to help him," or "You're a really kind person, aren't you. It's your character that makes me fall in love the most."
- Give compliments that can show the uniqueness of your partner. For example, "You're funny" is a very common compliment and can be easily forgotten by him. Instead, try to give a more specific compliment such as, “You satirized your science fiction story too, didn't you. I swear, my stomach hurts because I can't stop laughing when I read it. Very funny !"
Step 4. Remind your partner of their accomplishments
If your partner has low self-esteem, he or she is more likely to have a hard time realizing their strengths. That's where, you play a role to remind how rich in talents and achievements your partner forgets! The trick is to compliment your partner's talents and achievements that can make him feel more special and meaningful as a human being.
For example, you could say, "I think you're really cool, you want to spend your free time at night and on weekends volunteering at an animal shelter," or "Algebra is really hard for me, so I'm grateful to be able to date a hero. math like you
Step 5. Compliment your partner's beauty on an ordinary day
Couples naturally expect to receive compliments when they are dressing up or wearing special clothes. To exceed his expectations, compliment your partner on a weekday, when he or she is going about her normal activities. For example, if you visit her at night and she looks like she's in her pajamas, try complimenting her on her beauty.
Method 2 of 3: Affirm Your Love for Your Partner
Step 1. Make your partner feel loved
Give a simple gift to your partner. For example, you could buy him a flower, send him a text message or call him for no reason, make him a meal, send him a photo with the caption “This reminds me of you,” or plan a special date.
Consider the things that interest him. Some women think that the perfect surprise is an invitation to walk along the beach. However, there are also those who prefer to walk a path in the middle of the forest or just sit in front of the television with a box of popcorn and a warm blanket. Think of the things your partner likes and do it for him
Step 2. Be yourself in his presence
Although it seems easy, this method can actually have a very positive impact on your relationship! By doing so, you show how much you respect and trust him; that's why, you can feel comfortable around him. As a result, your partner will be compelled to do the same thing in front of you.
Don't pretend to be perfect in front of him. If you often snore when you laugh or have weird eating habits, show it to your partner! As a result, he does not feel the need to be the perfect woman in front of you
Step 3. Get involved in things that interest him
Doing so will make your partner realize that you really care about them and the things that are important to them. No need to bother diving into the things that have piqued his interest in the past. Instead, just get involved in one of his current hobbies to show your care and affection.
- For example, if he's in the robotics community, encourage him to show you his work.
- Also show an interest in the lives of those closest to him. For example, ask how his best friend is who is sick or is facing a divorce from his parents.
Step 4. Ask him what kind of help he needs
Some people like to infer their partner's needs and do whatever is in line with those assumptions. In fact, your partner may just need to be heard and accompanied, instead of being given a solution by you, right? Lower your ego and listen to your partner's needs, he will surely feel more loved by you and your relationship will be stronger afterwards.
- Your partner may need advice, help, or just an ear to listen. Therefore, don't hesitate to confirm their needs by asking "In what way can I help, I guess?" After that, listen to the answer carefully.
- If he just needs validation, not help, just give an empathetic response, like "I'm sorry, okay?" "You're really worried, aren't you, your sister?" or “Ugh, that must be really annoying, huh.”
Step 5. Don't watch other women
The worst thing you can do is make your partner feel like they need to compete with other women for your attention. That's why, you have to make sure that your partner is the only gem in your heart. The trick, always respect him and don't constantly look at, let alone seduce, other women in front of him.
This behavior will only make women with low self-esteem feel more insecure. Therefore, if you are around other women, make sure you always include your partner in the conversation and make it clear to everyone that he or she is your lover. Never leave her and leave the impression that she needs to compete with other women for your attention
Step 6. Be patient
No matter how much love and security you give, your partner may still find it difficult to increase his self-esteem. Remember, couples' problems can't be solved overnight. Also, understand that the only person responsible for increasing your partner's self-esteem is yourself! In other words, the only thing you can do is love him and support him in the process.
Method 3 of 3: Helping Your Partner Improve Their Body Image
Step 1. Listen to your partner empathetically
Empathy means being able to listen to other people and understand their feelings, while at the same time realizing that their feelings are a separate element from yours. Trust me, an empathetic approach will make your partner feel "accompanied" on their journey, and make them realize that you are someone they can rely on when times get tough. To practice your empathy skills, try doing the following:
- Show your appreciation and acceptance, regardless of your partner's feelings and experiences. Remember, all of your partner's thoughts, feelings, and emotions are real to him.
- Be non-judgmental, supportive, and highly empathetic when guiding your partner to improve their self-esteem.
- Use positive words to motivate your partner while trying to lead him to increase his self-esteem.
- Make an effort to listen more and talk less.
- Even if you try to lead your partner to have higher self-esteem, make sure he knows that the decision to change lies entirely in his hands.
- Always try to be a reliable source of support and stability for your partner.
Step 2. Respect other women and don't comment on them negatively
When you see that you are used to judging other women, your partner will indirectly think that judgmental comments are natural things to make, even for him to hear, both from other people and from himself. Therefore, be careful about describing other women, and never compare your partner to anyone else!
Making judgmental comments about other women (such as, “That girl who dresses up looks so fake, isn't it”) will only increase insecurity in your partner
Step 3. Get rid of negative comments about your body
If you've been accustomed to commenting on yourself badly, don't expect your partner to be helped to form a positive body image. Therefore, start with yourself by stopping giving bad comments, both about your body and the bodies of others.
For example, don't say, "Ugh, I'm really ugly. I guess I should start going to the gym again, okay?” By saying that, you are indirectly focusing the conversation on things that are less satisfying about your body. As a result, couples can be encouraged to do the same thing in the future
Step 4. Recommend self-care methods that are beneficial for both body and mind health
In fact, insecurity and the habit of self-criticism are the fruit of a person's low ability to take care of himself. Therefore, if your partner starts to feel inferior, encourage him to devote more attention and affection to himself. The trick, try to recommend various activities that can make him feel happier and more confident.
Encourage her to relax at massages and spas, take yoga classes, or document her feelings in a special diary. If you want, you can even invite him to cook a healthy dinner together, you know
Step 5. Challenge her insecurities
Most likely, your partner doesn't realize how harsh the criticism he has been on himself has been all this time. By bringing up the topic, you are actually challenging his perspective and making him realize that all this time, he has been treating himself unfairly. In this way, couples can learn the right way to frame negative thoughts that arise later in life. Stand on the front line to protect your partner from self-hatred!
- Reprimand your partner if he starts saying negative things about himself. For example, if she says, "No one wants to see a body like this in a bikini," immediately give a positive response such as, "Ah, really? I want, why?"
- Does your partner feel they have a weakness? Try to challenge this negative perspective by pointing out that you like the brown freckles on his face, the cavities between his teeth, the assertiveness of his opinion, and the snoring sound that always accompanies his laughter. Explain that all of the characters are a part of him and, therefore, seem adorable to you.
- Recognize questions that are classified as "dangerous". For example, if your partner asks, "I'm fat, aren't I?" emphasize that whatever her body shape, she is very beautiful in your eyes. After that, ask the reason behind the question.
Step 6. Share information that can keep your partner motivated
Remember, women who are constantly exposed to negative information in the media have a higher risk of degrading their appearance and body shape. To prevent her from being exposed to unrealistic body imagery in magazines and television, try criticizing that fabric of reality by sharing information that motivates women, regardless of their body shape.
For example, you could share a positive image from Pinterest, an Instagram page, or a blog that encourages women to build a more positive body image
Step 7. Be a good example
Treat yourself well so that your partner is also encouraged to treat him well. Basically, a healthy lifestyle can make your body and mind feel better, while also giving you the strength to be a good partner to your loved one. Therefore, from now on try to get used to having a balanced lifestyle. In particular, get enough rest, exercise regularly, eat nutritious foods, and make time to do activities you enjoy.
Trust me, if you are used to spending your free time doing positive activities, your partner will follow suit
Step 8. Encourage your partner to consult a mental health counselor
Remember, poor self-esteem and self-image can affect a partner's long-term well-being. In fact, the relationship between the two of you can be affected by it, you know! Therefore, if his insecurities don't go away despite all the methods he's tried, it's likely that he does need expert help to deal with it.
