Having a crush on someone can be both a fun and a scary experience. Sometimes it's hard to decide whether you really have a crush on someone or not.
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Method 1 of 3: Defining the "Crush" Condition
Step 1. Know, what exactly is a crush
According to the Urban Dictionary, "crush" or crush is, "a passionate desire to be with someone who is very attractive and very special impression" a crush makes you feel a variety of crazy emotions--feeling very, very embarrassed as well as unbearable pleasure. You can't choose who you have a crush on, but you can choose how you should react when you realize you have a crush on someone.
Step 2. Recognize that crushes come in many forms
The term "crush" is often used by people, and can simply be interpreted as liking someone, or being very liked.
- Just a Friend's Crush: It's important to remember that not all strong feelings for someone are romantic. Trusting someone and being really close to them, without having to be romantically involved, is really beautiful. Wanting to stay with someone like this might just be a sign that you're moving from being just a friend to being a close friend. So, it's completely normal to have a crush on just friends. You should really want to hang out with close friends as often as possible.
- Crush Out of Admiration: When you idolize someone (such as an artist, teacher, or classmate who is doing great) you may notice that you have strong feelings about that person and their accomplishments. These feelings are often mistaken for romantic feelings, because they are so strong. It's natural to feel a little amazed in front of someone who has done extraordinary things or is able to teach them. Often, it would be best to let some time pass before thinking too much about this. In general, once you spend a lot of time with that person, you can learn a lot and start to feel like you can stand on an equal footing. It will also be felt that the feeling of having a crush on him is decreasing, and in the end he still likes it but it's normal.
- Nassir Passing Through: It is human nature to feel attracted to other people. Even if you already have a boyfriend or are married, there will still be feelings of attraction to someone other than your partner. This feeling is called a hitchhiking crush. The person you like may seem new and exciting--and it may be literal, but that doesn't mean you should reconsider your current relationship status, or if you happen to be single, leave everything just for him. Oftentimes, this hitchhiking crush is triggered by a physical attraction to someone.
- Romance crush: Sometimes, having a crush on someone really means really liking, romantically. In the sense of falling in love or falling in love. This condition, makes you want to be with that person, more than just a friend. You want to be his girlfriend. If you often find yourself imagining kissing, holding hands or hugging him, then you are clearly in love.
Step 3. Determine how serious the crush is
This way, you will know how to proceed--whether to keep the longing for romance, or reveal it to the person concerned. Read the next section to help determine how strong your crush is on him
Method 2 of 3: Getting Close to the Appreciate
Step 1. Consider your behavior around your crush
Pay attention to physical behavior, in the sense of how to act instinctively every time he is near. Everyone's reaction is different, but in general what happens is two actions: you suddenly become very shy and speechless, or you suddenly become very friendly and talkative.
- Reaction to Being Shy: Do you suddenly feel like turning into a ball in the corner when he's around? Is it uncontrollably blushing and unable to lift one's eyes from the speck of dust on the floor that suddenly becomes very attractive? Is the tongue suddenly numb and unable to speak anything? All these reactions arise because you have a crush on someone.
- Reaction to being extra friendly and talkative: Is there a sudden urge to flirt with him? Whenever he was close, did the sudden urge to talk a lot to get his attention? All of these are also symptoms of having a crush on someone. Just make sure you don't make her feel uncomfortable because of this attitude. Try not to be too flirty until he ends up not wanting to be around you.
- Flirting Reaction: Do you feel like you want her to know what dress you're wearing or how your hair was today? Do you suddenly want to laugh and joke like crazy? Maybe suddenly you want to look as cool as possible so that he can see? Blinking your eyes, brushing your hair on your shoulders, twisting your hair, all of these are signs that you have a big crush.
Step 2. Consider how you feel around your crush
The most common sign of a crush on someone is a feeling like there are a million butterflies wrestling in the stomach, every time your crush appears. It can also feel as if your heart jumps every time you see it, followed by feelings of warmth and pleasure.
- Are you nervous and excited at the same time? Maybe want to hug and be with him until the apocalypse. These are all natural crush reactions.
- Do you feel willing to give up anything just to be close to him?
Step 3. Pay attention to how you behave around your friend and the person
Having a crush on your heart can make you suddenly want to be the star of the conversation, or keep your mouth shut every time he shows up. If you're hanging out and chatting with friends and your crush comes close, what do you do? If you really have a crush, you might do one of the following:
- Do you: suddenly feel like you have to be the center of attention? Maybe subconsciously they will try to steer the conversation so they can raise cool topics that impress him. You may even raise your voice to be heard. Plus make as much eye contact as possible, to keep his attention on you.
- Did you: suddenly feel numb? Having a crush on someone sometimes makes one feel embarrassed, as if they have nothing to say. If you usually talk a lot but suddenly shut up when you see it, then you have a big crush.
- Do you: feel all the friends around you suddenly disappear as soon as he appears? You may be surrounded by many people, but all of a sudden everything disappears and all you see is him. You even start to smile a lot, even when your friend's chat isn't funny at all. If your friend asks, do you have trouble paying attention to the question because you are more focused on glancing at him? These are all signs that you have a crush on someone.
Step 4. Decide if you want to go the extra mile to improve your appearance
One of the biggest signs of a crush is wanting to appear handsome or beautiful around the crush. Do you spend more time getting dressed and dressed in the morning? Buy new clothes? Spending more time doing hair or makeup, maybe he showed up today? If so, then there's no mistaking it: you have a big crush.
Method 3 of 3: When You Are Away From Your Heart
Step 1. Notice if your mind is just overcrowded by the figure?
Thinking of that special being more than any other human in this world, you definitely have a crush.
- Maybe you're having dinner with your family but can't focus on the conversation because you're wondering what he's doing right now.
- Maybe you're hanging out with a friend but deep down hope you can hang out with him.
- When you want to sleep at night, do you imagine what it would be like to kiss him goodnight?
Step 2. Notice if you chatter a lot about him
Do you always bring up his name when you're with friends? One of the main signs that you have a crush on someone is when you tell your friends to bring up their name all the time. If you feel uncomfortable like this, it might be a good idea to talk to your closest friend. They can help and may even have ideas on how to get to know the person better.
Be careful discussing this crush condition with other people. Do not carelessly chatter to all your friends, because maybe someone will complain to your estimate and embarrass you. Tell only the closest friends you can trust
Step 3. See if you change things in your life for the sake of him
Are there certain habits or lifestyles that are discarded or changed in the hope of getting her attention?
- Did you purposely pass in front of his locker a million times in hopes of meeting him?
- Have you ever changed the way you used to walk to class just knowing that he likes to go there?
- You suddenly really like new things that he also likes, such as photography or rock climbing.
Step 4. Pay attention to your internal reactions when someone brings up their name in a conversation
Often, when you have a big crush, you feel so good hearing his name brought up in conversation. If someone mentions their name briefly, do you:
Feeling happy? Suddenly feel like a million butterflies wrestling in your stomach? Heart about to jump out? Blushing and giggling like crazy? Mute and blush? If even one of these reactions appears, it means you have a big crush on someone
Step 5. Pay attention to your daydreams
There is a clear difference between thinking and daydreaming about someone. Thinking means asking yourself what your crush is doing out there, or how he or she is feeling. Daydreaming is when you fantasize about the things you want to happen. People who have a crush tend to fantasize a lot about their idol.
If you daydream about someone and imagine going on adventures together, holding hands, kissing, or anything else romantically, then you have a big crush on that person
Step 6. Notice if everything reminds you of him
Remembering him while listening to a song, watching a movie, or reading a book, is definitely a sign that you have a crush on someone.
- If you hear a love song and then think, 'Hey, this is exactly how I feel!' it means you have a crush on someone.
- If you watch a movie like Titanic and then imagine being with him as Jack and Rose, it means you have a crush on someone.
- If you read Romeo and Juliet and immediately identify the main character's burning love as you feel yourself, it means you have a crush on someone.
Step 7. Pay attention to your thoughts as you read this article
Did someone pop into your head while reading? If your answer is yes, then you have a crush on that person.
Tips
- When you realize how much you have a crush on someone, don't be afraid. Allow yourself to get used to the feeling before going any further.
- Don't confuse a romantic crush with a mere friend crush! This kind of crush can also happen to the opposite sex, but it's different.
- Get to know your crush. Sometimes, how you look at it (or where you put it on the altar) doesn't always match the person's true self.
- Try to help him if he needs help. Thus, there will be an opportunity to get closer. Don't overdo your feelings, or he'll just walk away because of it.
