Sometimes guys are confusing. You don't know if he likes you or if he already has a girlfriend. It's best to find out if the guy you have a crush on already has a girlfriend or not. However, it's also important to know if the guy you're dating actually has a girlfriend. Pay close attention so you can avoid drama and heartache.
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Part 1 of 3: Watch His Behavior When Around You
Step 1. Listen when he talks to you
Guys usually don't show it openly if he already has a girlfriend. However, if he uses the pronoun "we" when talking about his past weekend or his upcoming plans, it means there may be another girl. He can also tell a lot about certain girls without explaining that they have a special relationship.
- If a guy doesn't want to flirt with you back, it means either he's not interested in you or he already has a girlfriend, or both.
- Some guys are known to be flirty or overly friendly with anyone they meet, even if they already have a boyfriend. Don't get carried away enjoying the seduction until you know the guy is still alone.
- A guy can still be nice and polite to you even if he already has a girlfriend. Don't mistake her pleasant and friendly demeanor as a flirt.
Step 2. Pay attention to his body language when he is around you
Some guys like to hang out with whoever they like, but guys who already have a boyfriend often hold back from touching other girls. He may just hug his fellow boy or sister. If he's avoiding your attempts to hug or sit with him, he probably already has a girlfriend.
- Don't force her to hold your hand, hug you, or any other physical action if you see her turn away or turn away from you. Don't let you be like the third person if he already has a girlfriend.
- He can hug or high-five anyone even if he already has a girlfriend. So, don't use this as the only measure of whether he already has a girlfriend.
- If you don't see him deliberately avoiding being alone with you, it's probably because he's trying to maintain his reputation as a guy who already has a girlfriend.
Step 3. Find out if he really sees you as just a friend
A guy usually spends his time and effort being romantic with a girl. If your crush treats you like a normal friend and doesn't seem willing to spend time hanging out with you, he probably already has a girlfriend. For example, a guy will purposely introduce you as his friend to other people or call you “friend”, “buddy”, “friend,” or some other common name to show that you are just a friend.
- Girlfriends usually get special time from their boyfriends on weekend nights. If you can never make an appointment with a guy it's probably because he gives most of his free time to his girlfriend.
- He may make excuses for having a special event or family event but not inviting you. Chances are he went with his girlfriend which is his priority.
Step 4. Watch if he treats you secretly
If you're dealing with a guy who you suspect is cheating on his girlfriend and you're the “third person,” pay close attention. Changing your name on his phone, giving vague answers when asked where he is and where he's going, or limiting when you can call or text him means he's trying to hide you from his girlfriend.
- If he doesn't introduce you to his friends, family, or coworkers, he probably doesn't want anyone to know about your relationship with him.
- Maybe you shouldn't be the one warning his girlfriend that this guy is having an affair. It might even harm you. Step back from the situation so you don't become part of the problem.
Step 5. Find out what time is up for anything
Usually a guy will spend most of his free time with his girlfriend. However, if he spends a lot of time with you or with your fellow boys, he may not have other priorities. When you ask him what his plans are for the evening or the weekend and he has nothing to do, chances are he doesn't have a girlfriend.
Part 2 of 3: Observe How He Behaves When With Others
Step 1. Check their social media pages
One of the easiest ways to secretly find out if a guy already has a girlfriend is to check his Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram accounts. See if he mentions hanging out with a certain girl or uploading a photo of a girl. You can check his profile description to see if he says he's in a relationship.
- Check out their friends' pages too. Sometimes a guy doesn't upload a picture of his girlfriend, but you can check his friends and followers pages to see if they've posted pictures of him with other girls.
- Be careful, don't 'like' or suddenly comment on old photos or posts about him. He'll know you're stalking him.
- Even though it's not natural, it's possible that he doesn't have a social media account. If that's the case, you'd better check his friends' pages to see if they've posted any information about him.
Step 2. Check her phone for evidence of her boyfriend
Just like girls, guys also like to secretly keep photos and messages from girls that he considers special. Borrow her phone and you secretly open her photo album and message box to see if she has a boyfriend.
- If you don't want to look suspicious, say your phone is out of battery and you need to make a call.
- Don't violate her privacy too much. If you peek at their phone or log in to their social media accounts without their permission, you could be caught. It's not good to enter and stalk other people's lives.
Step 3. Notice if he notices other girls
Guys who already have boyfriends rarely pay too much attention to other girls. Loyal boyfriends don't pay attention to other girls as they pass by or make comments about other girls' looks to their friends.
- On the other hand, if you have evidence that he may already have a girlfriend but still cares about other girls, he may be cheating on you. So, beware.
- If he gave his number to another girl, he might still be alone. Your only challenge is how to get his attention.
Step 4. Pay attention to the seduction
If the guy you have a crush on seems to be flirting with any girl, including you, he's probably still single. Some guys are really fun and like to joke around with whoever they talk to. A pleasant demeanor is easy to mistake for seduction. He may have a girlfriend but still treat everyone with care.
Don't confuse the difference between fun and joking with seduction. The main difference is that flirting usually involves physical touch and cues to want more than just friends
Step 5. Ask his friends
Sometimes a guy is very unpredictable or his life is very secretive. Find one of his friends and ask if the guy you have a crush on already has a girlfriend. Subtly sneak the question into the conversation, or ask one of his friends directly if you want to be upfront.
- Try to ask quietly. You can say something like, "What is your friend busy with?" or make jokes like, “Oh, where did he go? Dating huh?"
- Be aware that your question may be asked to a guy you like. Boys love to chat just as much as girls.
- However, if the guy you have a crush on is still single, giving a subtle message that you like him and chatting with his friends is a way to get his attention.
Part 3 of 3: Ask Directly
Step 1. Ask him if he already has a girlfriend
If you still don't know if he has a girlfriend, ask him directly. Do not send SMS or any electronic messages as it is important to hear the reaction live.
Step 2. Wait for a good moment to ask
If you're going in a group, it's best not to investigate someone's personal relationship status. Be patient and wait until it's just the two of you when you ask if he already has a girlfriend. Don't make him uncomfortable by asking about his private life in public.
Step 3. Jump right in when asking about the possibility of whether he already has a girlfriend
Don't go round and round when you ask so it doesn't feel too awkward. You can say, "I wanted to ask, do you have a boyfriend?" As long as you can keep your tone normal, he won't feel pressured by your questions.
- If he doesn't have a girlfriend yet and he's not aware that you have a crush on him, he may catch your interest when you ask him about his relationship status.
- Don't worry too much if he says yes. There's always another guy, not all good guys have girlfriends.
Step 4. Notice if he avoids your question
It's not a good sign if he doesn't answer your question with a short "yes" or "no" answer. If there's a hint that he's unwilling to give information or is nervous, that's not a good sign. If he stutters or tries to make excuses, he may be in a complicated situation. Better stay away from dishonest guys.
If he answers frankly and honestly, you get a clear answer. If he's in doubt, take it as a red flag to show that he's hiding his relationship
Step 5. Show a respectful and mature reaction to whatever answer he gives
Knowing that the guy you have a crush on already has a boyfriend can be a real slap in the face. However, take it easy when he gives an answer, whether the answer is positive or negative.
- If he already has a girlfriend, don't be discouraged in front of him. Or at least wait until you're alone to express your emotions because you don't have a chance so you don't feel embarrassed.
- The best news is that he is still single. Respond with something like, "Oh, that's great," to maintain your mysterious demeanor and not overtly show that you're interested in him.
- No matter how much you like him, you should not make him break up just so you can date him.
Tips
- Don't appear overprotective, jealous, or possessive.
- Try not to get too close to him until you're sure he doesn't have a girlfriend.
- If it turns out that he already has a girlfriend, don't be too sad.
