Your parents have sacrificed a lot for you over the years, and you need to show how grateful you are for their sacrifice. However, proving your words in the form of actions is sometimes difficult. On the one hand, you need to show how much you love them. On the other hand, you may not know how. Luckily, you can express your love easily. Take your time, lend a helping hand, and chat with them to show that they are a lovable parent figure.
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Method 1 of 3: Spending Quality Time Together
Step 1. Ask about their life experiences
The most valuable thing you can give your parents is your time, and they will certainly appreciate it. Sit down with your parents and ask about their lives to show you care and are interested in them. In fact, you might even be able to learn something about them that you didn't know before.
- Start the conversation by saying, "What was your childhood like when you were a father/mother?" You can also say, “Cool, huh! My father/mother used to have an adventure around Java. What does it taste like?”
- Sometimes, a child forgets that even his parents have a life of their own. Also, you may find it hard to believe that their lives are not always fixated on you and your sibling.
Step 2. Follow their hobbies
One great way to bond with your parents and show affection is to do something they are interested in. If they have a particular interest or hobby, try to follow it. These activities are more fun when they can do it with other people, especially their children. They will appreciate your efforts to show interest in what they are passionate about, as well as the time you devote to joining them.
- For example, if your parents like sports, have a game with them. If they regularly attend book clubs, ask if you can join.
- Spending time with them while giving them the opportunity to do something they enjoy can build fond memories for everyone involved.
Step 3. Make dishes for them
It's possible that your parents will cook for your family all your life. Now is your chance to return the favor. Give them time to rest and make delicious dishes from the heart, even if it's just fried rice!
Don't be afraid if your cooking isn't perfect. Your parents won't mind if your cooking isn't a delicious five-star restaurant. They will appreciate the time and effort you put in
Step 4. Worship with them (if your parents are religious)
If your parents worship diligently, one wise way to show your love is to go to worship with them. You can feel something special when you believe in and worship with other people, especially for parents and children. A sincere act like this will surely be something your parents will remember for a long time.
- If possible, schedule worship or other spiritual gatherings with your parents every week. You can even learn to meditate with them.
- Alternatively, ask about your parents' beliefs. It also shows them that you care and are interested in their life.
Step 5. Tell me about your life
Parents, especially after their children become teenagers or adults, often feel excluded from their children's lives. Try to keep your parents involved in your life. As an example:
- Introduce them to your friends.
- Tell us about an essay or project you worked on on campus.
- Invite them to your child's birthday party (if you are married and have children).
- Ask them for advice on dating.
Method 2 of 3: Help Them
Step 1. Tidy up the house
This reflects respect and helps reduce their workload. If you live at home with your parents, make sure you take an important role in keeping the house clean, especially your room. If you don't stay home, come home once or twice a week to help them out.
- Wash and fold clothes.
- Clean and tidy cutlery.
- Tidy up a messy room after you/other people use it.
- Clean the house using a vacuum cleaner.
- Trim or trim the grass in the yard.
Step 2. Offer transportation
During this time, maybe you are often picked up by your parents. Now, you can repay their kindness. Offer to drive them to their destination when necessary, especially if they're old and they're having more trouble driving. Even though they can still drive, having someone to take them away can be a kindness to remember.
Continue to show respect, especially if your parents are getting old. Maybe your parents aren't "happy" when they realize they need someone else's help to get somewhere. Ask permission to help them instead of telling them you're going to take them on as a step towards making significant changes
Step 3. Repair the damage in the house
As your parents get older, they won't be able to take care of their own home like they used to. Instead of letting them call a repairman to fix the damage at home, try to fix the problem yourself. If you can't do this, try contacting the appropriate staff or service so your parents don't have to spend money.
- Your parents may not openly ask for help because they don't want to burden you. However, try asking directly for the help they need.
- If they still won't tell you, check the house for any damage or problems yourself, or ask another family member about something that needs fixing.
Step 4. Spend money on what you can pay for yourself
Your parents must have paid a lot for you. If you have the funds, occasionally treat them when possible. Invite them to dinner together or treat them to a vacation to show your gratitude for what they have given while reflecting your affection. If their salary is limited, you can do the following:
- Pay some of their bills.
- Buy household necessities for them.
- Cover their expenses for pet care.
- Make plans with them to help manage your parents' finances.
Method 3 of 3: Showing Affection
Step 1. Tell your parents regularly that you love them
You may suspect that your parents already know that you love them. Even though it's true, they will feel happier when they hear your affectionate words in person. Tell your parents that you love them whenever you can. You will be surprised to know the happiness they feel or show afterwards.
Take the time to say it and make sure it conveys the right meaning. Remember that there is a difference between “I love you” and “I love you so much!”
Step 2. Record your expressions of affection
Telling how much someone means in your life in person is impressive. However, expressions of affection written in letters also have their own uniqueness. Write your thank-you letter to your parents for all they have done. By writing it in a letter, they can read it whenever they want to remember your thanks. Also, it may be easier for you to express your affection in a letter than when you have to say it in person.
- You can also write a poem or a short story to express your gratitude and love. Your parents will appreciate the time and effort you put into making the gift.
- As another option, send an e-card with a private message if you're not very creative.
Step 3. Give your parents a hug
Touch is the most basic form of communication between humans. When you were a baby, your parents comforted you when you cried. As you grew, your mother nursed you and comforted you when you had nightmares. Unfortunately, as a form of affection, touch often disappears as children grow older. Therefore, give your parents a hug to show your affection.
Hugs help release the social bonding hormone that can relieve stress and fight physical ailments. If you hug your parents often, they can actually get health benefits
Step 4. Make a gift for your parents
Regardless of their age or the kids, your parents usually love homemade gifts. They understand that more time and consideration is put into making a gift for the child than buying it from the store. Even if the gift isn't perfect, your parents will still appreciate your kindness.
You can paint pictures, make cards, take photos of them and frame them, or even make sculptures. You can also spend a whole day with them
Step 5. Call them once or twice a week
You don't have to call for a long time. A phone call of just a few minutes will suffice. However, make sure you have an in-depth conversation. Give them your full attention. That way, your parents will appreciate your efforts to prioritize them.
- Talk to your parents to determine the appropriate duration or frequency of calls. Sometimes, parents are not very happy to talk over the phone. Meanwhile, there are also parents who like to chat over the phone every week.
- Make sure you ask the right time for them.
- Don't call them when you're spending time with other people, driving, or busy because it makes them feel "unimportant."
Tips
- When the house looks messy and the cutlery hasn't been washed, don't wait until your parents tell you to clean the house and wash the cutlery. Do the task before being asked by your parents. They will love you and respect you for your initiative.
- Remember that you will not live forever with them. Take advantage of the moment when you meet your parents.
- Try to be open about how you feel and share the pressure you are feeling if they will listen. By sharing your story, you show that you care about their opinion.
- Offer small favors or favors, such as an occasional cup of tea for your parents, or even making a small snack they love.
- Tell your parents that they are loved by every member of the family. Tell them that they are not alone, and that you exist and love them.
- Don't discuss topics that will make them angry or hurt, even if those topics include your own feelings. Prioritize their feelings and find other ways to handle yours.
