The ability to make other people happy is a great thing. In addition to appearing more charismatic, people will be happy to be friends with you. Keep everyone around you happy by showing them that you care. Start a pleasant conversation by listening to the other person and asking questions. Praise him for his accomplishments and remember all the details about him to make him feel important. In general, maintain a positive attitude and a good sense of humor. These feelings will rub off on those around you.
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Method 1 of 3: Have a Friendly Conversation
Step 1. Get in the habit of listening more than talking
Don't dominate the conversation. If you keep talking, someone will feel like you're the one talking to them. However, let the other person do the talking and provide input when he's done talking. This will make you seem like a polite and considerate person who cares about what other people have to say.
- Don't interrupt when someone is talking. People don't like to be interrupted. Let him finish his sentence.
- You certainly have to answer when asked. However, don't go back to talking about yourself. Let other people talk too.
Step 2. Ask something about the person you are talking to
Keep the conversation alive by asking something about yourself. Give him a chance to open up and talk about himself. He will appreciate someone who will listen. Simple questions like “How are you today?” can make people feel like you care about them.
- Don't just make small talk. Show that you are listening by asking what the person is talking about.
- For example, if someone tells you about their vacation and mentions that their car tire is punctured on the road, say "Wow, how did you fix it?" This shows that you are not only interested, but also pay attention to what he has to say.
Step 3. Take your eyes off your phone or computer while talking to other people
Don't appear distracted while chatting. Checking your phone or computer repeatedly will make you look rude and uninterested. Put down the phone and look away from the computer. Make eye contact with the person you're talking to so they know you're paying attention.
- If you do have to check your phone, ask permission and say "Sorry, I have to check mine for a minute."
- If you're really busy and don't have time to chat, say so politely. Say “Nice to chat with you, but I have to go to work. See you again."
Step 4. Show enthusiasm for what is being said
Show that you are happy when someone says something. If he conveys good news or achievements, congratulate him. Simple words like “Great!” will make him feel like he's accomplished something and believe that you really care.
People sometimes feel embarrassed if you compliment them. If he says something like "Oh, that's fine," you can reply with "Yeah, but I'm still happy to hear that." This will keep you in a personal relationship with someone without making them feel uncomfortable
Step 5. Praise back when someone compliments you
Someone may congratulate or compliment you in a conversation. Thank him sincerely for the compliment, then compliment the person back. This will make you seem humble and big-hearted at the same time.
A co-worker may say that your idea of holding today's meeting is apt. You might respond with: “Thank you. I'm glad you agreed. With your abilities we can definitely finish this job.”
Step 6. Don't criticize his opinion
From time to time, you may disagree with some people's opinions or beliefs. Keep your conversations warm and don't criticize them. Let him voice his opinion. That way, he will still feel safe and enjoy talking to you.
- You can still voice your disapproval without appearing angry. Just by saying "That doesn't match my understanding, but I understand why you think so", you are showing your disapproval while still giving credit to the other person.
- If you want to avoid confrontation, simply ignore his opinion and try to divert the conversation to something else.
Method 2 of 3: Making Someone Feel Important
Step 1. Remember the details in someone's life
This is a powerful way to connect with someone and show that you really care about what they have to say. If you always forget what other people have to say, you will be considered not listening. Try to remember all the details he tells to strengthen your relationship.
- Also ask for these details. A person may say on Friday that he is going to a concert on the weekend. If you see them on a Monday, ask them about the concert they went to. This way shows that you listen and care about him.
- If you're having trouble remembering something, try some exercises to improve your memory.
Step 2. Show your interest through nonverbal language
Some behaviors and body language show that you are paying attention. Nodding, making eye contact, and changing facial expressions to match what the other person is saying show that you are interested in the conversation. Don't look stiff or unresponsive. It shows that you don't care about your conversation.
- If someone tells you something surprising, widen your eyes and put on a surprised expression. He will feel you are really listening to the story.
- You can also do this when you're not chatting face-to-face with someone. If a coworker is giving a presentation in a conference room, watch him as he speaks. Nod your head when he says something, then take notes. All of these things will make him feel important and he will appreciate you.
Step 3. Give adequate compliments
Praise is a powerful way to make someone feel important. Give compliments to others, but don't overdo it. If you keep praising everyone, your compliments will come across as insincere. Give a sincere compliment, then move on to something else.
Don't continue to compliment someone after they have acknowledged your compliment. If he's already thanked you, don't say "I'm serious, you're really cool!" This actually looks like it was made up
Step 4. Show the achievements to others
Praise is not just a private thing. If someone you know achieves an achievement, share this with others. The person will be happy because other people really admire his achievements.
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Step 5. Send a thank you note if someone did you a favor
Making people feel appreciated is a powerful way to show that they matter. If someone helps you, take the time to express your gratitude by letter or email. Explain how the person helped you and let them know that you appreciate it.
- You can also say thank you in person. Find the person, then thank him or her. Saying "I just wanted to stop by and thank you for your help" shows that you're really grateful to him.
- If you can't find the person, express your gratitude via a phone call.
Method 3 of 3: Spreading Positive Energy
Make People Feel Good Step 15 Step 1. Don't gossip and talk about other people negatively
Spreading gossip about other people creates a bad and unfriendly environment. If you have a reputation for gossiping, fewer people will want to interact with you. Stay away from gossip and be someone fun to talk to. People will feel happier around you.
This is a good opportunity for introspection. Do you want someone to spread rumors about you? Definitely not. So, don't spread rumors
Make People Feel Good Step 12 Step 2. Treat others the way you would like to be treated
This is often referred to as the “golden rule”. If you want to make someone happy, think about what makes you happy, then treat people the way you think. Follow these rules and you will become a much friendlier person.
Imagine if you were talking to someone and you made fun of them for liking a certain band. Would you like someone to do the same to you? Definitely not. Correct your attitude and offer an apology
Make People Feel Good Step 13 Step 3. Smile as often as possible
Smiling can help you feel positive as well as spread positive feelings to everyone around you. Make an effort to smile as often as you can. You'll appear much friendlier so people will want to come over and talk to you.
- Whenever you greet someone else, smile. This is an easy way to spread positive feelings to people.
- Don't try to smile too broadly. This will look like it's made up. A small smile makes you radiate a more natural charm.
Make People Feel Good Step 14 Step 4. Make sure you have a good sense of humor
Having a good sense of humor can help reduce stress and keep your attitude positive. Plus, it's easy for people to get along if you have a good sense of humor. Laugh more often and people will appreciate it.
- Remember that a good sense of humor is not just about telling jokes. It has more to do with a relaxed attitude towards things. If something bad happens, look for lessons from the incident. Be a person who remains optimistic when others are feeling down.
- Understand the limits of your humor. Don't tell inappropriate jokes. If people seem bothered by your jokes, don't push yourself.
