Who comes to your mind when you read the title of this article? The woman who is currently making you infatuated? The girl you never stop sending flowers or greetings to? Before continuing to read this article, forget about the fact that you desperately love it. It might be difficult at first because you've never tried it. Change your mindset. Stop being so obsessive about showing your feelings. Instead, show that you are not only capable of pursuing, but also worth pursuing.
Step
Step 1. Recall what it feels like to fall in love
The biggest addiction when falling in love is longing that always comes without permission when he's not near you, right? Therefore, do not invite him to meet too often. Make sure you distance yourself without actually leaving it. Whether you realize it or not, this will make him think about and miss you more often.
Step 2. Show your mysterious side
This way, he won't quickly get bored with you. For example, when he asks you about your job, explain a few things but don't go into all the details. Give him space to ask follow-up questions to make him feel more involved in your conversation.
Step 3. Feel free to talk to other women when she is around you
Show him that the woman in your life is not just him. But remember, at the same time, give him a little more special treatment so he doesn't misunderstand.
Step 4. Show the signal 'I want you but don't need you'
Men who are able to communicate these signals will usually look more attractive in the eyes of women. Say this sentence over and over in your mind when his face starts to flash. Why do you need to do it?
- So that you do not look hungry for attention. In the eyes of women, a man who is spoiled and thirsty for attention looks disgusting. The same view also applies in Indonesian society which adheres to a patriarchal culture. Men are positioned as leaders who should be tougher and able to protect women. Men who behave otherwise: spoiled, weak, and insecure, will not look attractive in the eyes of most women.
- So that you don't look 'easy'. It's human nature to be attracted to things that they can't or can't have. By signaling 'I want you but don't need you', women will perceive you as 'unusual' and 'rare'. Guaranteed, you will look more attractive in his eyes!
Step 5. Get to know him better
Find out what he likes and doesn't like, then build a conversation based on your knowledge of him.
Step 6. Be careful what you do and say
When feeling too excited, humans tend to talk without pause and ignore the other person. Be careful, that kind of attitude can make a girl incredibly bored and resentful of you.
Step 7. Try to make her smile all the time
It is common knowledge that women prefer men who are sensitive and fun. Marilyn Monroe once said, "If you can make a woman laugh, then you can make her do anything in the future".
Step 8. Be sensitive to his mood
If she looks sad, find a way to make her happy. If he already looks happy, keep it that way. Guaranteed days both of you will always be fun!
Step 9. Keep the conversation flowing
If you're stuck in a boring conversation or have too many pauses (a sign you're both out of topic), women are likely to feel uncomfortable and will look for excuses to run away from you as soon as possible.
Step 10. Be reasonable
Whatever your approach is, do it reasonably and elegantly.
Step 11. Show your confidence without appearing arrogant
Show him that you are good at communicating and blending in in the community. Men who are confident and not anti-social will usually look more attractive in the eyes of women.
Step 12. Avoid flattery like, “Your dad is a thief, right?
He stole the stars in the sky and kept them in your eyes.”
Step 13. Show your interest by saying simple things like, “I like the clothes you're wearing”
If you don't feel like you're clapping your hands, start complimenting her physical appearance in an elegant way; say things like, “You are beautiful” or “You have beautiful eyes.” Simple, not over the top, and still polite.
Step 14. Don't feel obligated to have a long chat every time you see him
When you cross paths by accident, just say a quick hello and continue whatever you were doing at the time.
Step 15. While you guys are chatting, say that you are going to do something fun this weekend
For example, go to the opening of your friend's restaurant.
Step 16. Continue the chat for 10 minutes, then say, “Nice to chat with you, but I have to go now”
From time to time, you can give him a quick kiss on the cheek, back of hand, or forehead to show your interest in him.
Step 17. Some girls hate parties and crowds
For women like this, invitations to parties just don't work. Instead, take them to a bookstore, museum, park, or take their dog for an afternoon walk.
Step 18. Most women like to feel beautiful
Make sure you compliment him from time to time, whether it's his clothes, his eyes, or his new hair. Make him feel good about himself in your presence.
Tips
- Pay attention to his body language. If he's talking while looking you in the eye, it could be that he really likes you. On the other hand, if he rarely looks at you or even plays on his phone when he's talking to you, he's likely feeling nervous or bored.
- Leave women when your conversation is at its best, not when the topic of conversation is over. This way, he will remember you as a fun person to talk to, not as a boring, uninteresting one.
- There is no shame in praising him in front of his friends.
- Keep your distance when talking to women. Speak in a lower voice than usual, and allow him to reduce the distance by getting closer to you. If he does that, chances are he's attracted to you too.
- Highlight your uniqueness through appearance. If your playmates often wear chinos over ankles and fitted shirts, try dressing up more simply by wearing only jeans and a t-shirt. Your modesty will catch his attention and make you stand out from the rest of the boys.
- Keep your communication with him even though it turns out he already has a girlfriend. Try to always be by his side whenever he needs you.
- Say that you like it. Women prefer men who are open and willing to take risks.
- Avoid questions like, “Want to go out with me this weekend?”. Change your sentence to, "Next week I want to go to place X, do you want to come?". Show him that with or without him, you're still going.
- If he says he has a girlfriend, ignore him and continue the conversation as if you didn't hear him.
- Be yourself. No girl likes fakes (except KW branded bags and clothes!). Give praise but don't overdo it.
- Don't be stiff around him. Nothing is stopping you from being goofy and silly. Tell small jokes all the time, even when you're flirting. Make him laugh as often as possible.
- If you get rejected, don't keep going to him and forcing him to change his mind. If he changes his mind, he will send you the signal. Make sure you are always sensitive to the signals it sends.
- Don't pretend to be someone else just to get their attention.
- Greet him in a friendly manner when you pass each other. Women do not like men who are too cool and rigid.
- Make sure you don't get too obsessive. If he needs to be alone and lazy to meet you, don't be banned. Understand the fact that all humans need time to themselves and can easily get bored if you keep meeting the same people.
- There is nothing wrong with using interesting dictions in your chat. When visiting his house, replace the compliment "Your house is great" with a more intimate sentence such as "Your house really makes me feel comfortable".
- Get to know her friends (remember, don't be flirty!). The majority of women make decisions based on the words of their best friends. Therefore, leave a good and attractive impression in the eyes of his friends.
- Make eye contact as often as possible; all girls love it!
- Offer modest compliments such as “Your hair is beautiful” or “You are a smart and attractive woman.”
Warning
- Don't force him to do something he doesn't like.
- Don't always agree with what he says. If he claims to like jazz music, respond with something like, “Jazz is okay too. But I don't like it, really." Most likely he will ask you what kind of music you like and the conversation continues.
- Don't be around him all the time. Give him room to breathe.
- If you get rejected, don't respond with an attitude or harsh words. Deal with the rejection politely and show that you still appreciate it. He will most likely be impressed and may reconsider his decision.
