Who says expressing feelings through text messages is the act of a coward? If you're more likely to text-message with the woman of your dreams, or if you're too shy to express yourself in person, there's nothing wrong with acknowledging your feelings through text messages. Before doing so, try to get to know your ideal woman more deeply by inviting her to interact face-to-face and exchange messages more often. By doing so, it's more likely that he will more easily catch your intentions when you accept your declarations of love and date requests.
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Part 1 of 3: Building Relationships
Step 1. Get to know the woman you like more deeply
Even though she is the most beautiful woman on earth, dating her is still not a wise move if you don't really know her yet, right? For that, try to recognize the character in more depth; observe if he treats his friends with courtesy, treats young children and unpopular people well, and is passionate about pursuing his goals. Before dating him, make sure you really like everything in him.
- If he is a funny person, try to observe his joke style. A good character will not tell jokes that have the potential to hurt other people's hearts.
- If he is a smart person, see if he is also willing to help others. If she is willing to help her classmate solve mathematical problems, it means that she is indeed a good woman.
Step 2. Have a direct interaction with him
If you both go to the same school or college, or if you both have friends in common, try to find ways to chat with them in less stressful situations. For example, you and your lab partner could collaborate with him and his lab colleagues to complete a project. If you want to see him outside of school hours, bring your friends along and let him invite his friends too. Try saying, “After school I want to go with Ellen and Tyree. Do you want to come along? Just invite your friends if you want."
- If the two of you aren't in the same circle of friends, there's nothing wrong with having a chat with her right away. Don't start the interaction process with seduction or the like; just smile, say hello, and touch on a topic you both understand. For example, say, “Hi, Bethany! Have you got the concert scores, haven't you?"
- Traveling in a group is fun, but it doesn't mean the same thing as dating. Remember, the interaction between the two of you cannot be construed as a date if one of the parties is not aware of these intentions. In other words, don't pretend to take dozens of people to the movies when you're actually just asking them out.
Step 3. Assess his attraction to you
Remember, women are not a different species so you don't have to bother translating their actions. In fact, you really won't be able to find out how he feels if you don't ask him directly. However, at least you can observe his level of interest and comfort when he is around you. If he looks happy when he sees you, or if he looks comfortable exchanging jokes with you, chances are he is comfortable with you.
- If he often touches your arms and shoulders, it's a sign that he really feels comfortable around you.
- If he's asking you to do something (for example, if he's signaling he wants to be your groupmate in Spanish class), it means that he really enjoys your company.
- If the conversation sounds like a natural flow, chances are that the two of you share common interests and have a similar communication style. Congratulations!
Step 4. Ask for the phone number
Once you've established a close relationship with him (and if you're still interested in him), try asking for his number. Do not worry; if the relationship between the two of you is close enough, the request will not feel excessive.
- Say simple, nonsensical sentences. For example, try saying, “Would you like to exchange your phone number, wouldn't you? I want to be the first to hear what you think about the latest Marvel movie."
- If the two of you are working on a project together, it's natural to ask for his phone number. For example, you might say, “We'll see you next week, okay, to tidy up the layout of the newspaper. I'll send the time and location via SMS later. How?"
- You can also ask for his phone number by taking him on a group trip. For example, try saying, “I can't wait to see a concert with you, Brian, and Jessica. Can I have your phone number, so that the appointment will be better?"
Part 2 of 3: Communicating Well and Correctly
Step 1. Start with a short greeting
Begin the process of exchanging messages in an open and friendly manner. For example, you can say hello or ask a quick question to find out how busy he is at the time. For example, send a message that says, “Hello, what are you doing here?” or “Hello, how are you?”
- Don't just say "hi" which is prone to be interpreted as your reluctance to send text messages. In addition, it is likely that he will also be confused about what to reply.
- Ask follow-up questions. Everyone wants to be seen as attractive. For that, try asking him to tell a silly story about his dance teacher, a baseball semi-final match he participated in, or an experience he had with taking care of his youngest sibling.
Step 2. Send messages with correct grammar and spelling
Although it seems simple, the etiquette of sending messages is actually quite complicated. For example, you know that ending a message with a “period” will make you sound angry. No need to be a linguist; just make sure your every spelling, grammar and punctuation is correct. Doing so shows that you take the chat seriously.
"Hello! How was your math homework? It's just as bad as mine, isn't it?" looks a lot better than, “Hy! How's PR mat u?"
Step 3. Send a message in the evening
Most people tend to feel more relaxed at night. Therefore, both of you will have more time to respond to each other's chats. In addition, communicating with the woman of your dreams at night will also feel more romantic, you know!
Make sure you don't text after his bedtime if you don't want him to bother him. In general, reduce or stop texting after 10 p.m
Step 4. Send a message if you know he's not busy
Make sure you both can give your full attention to the conversation that will take place. In other words, don't text him when he says he has to do homework or do other things. If he admits he's going out with friends, give him time to have fun without being busy replying to your messages. After all, the next day, you can send him a message and ask about his activities while traveling with his friends. On the other hand, don't send messages when you're busy doing other activities like watching a movie.
Step 5. Steer the conversation in a positive direction
The more positive and productive the conversation between the two of you, the more likely it is to accept your declaration of love. For that, try to avoid negative topics that have the potential to spoil his mood, such as problems at school or work. Also avoid controversial topics that can irritate him and risk ruining the atmosphere of the conversation.
- Invite him to discuss popular culture that you both have an interest in. If you both love Harry Potter, try asking his opinion about the trailer or promotion of the latest Harry Potter series.
- Joke jokes about everyday situations that the two of you are in. For example, if the lunch menu in the school cafeteria isn't very good, ask him if he also had nightmares about the food.
Step 6. Discuss the topics that have been discussed before
Doing so shows that you listen well and pay attention to everything he has to say. For example, if he's ever told you about his favorite bowling game, try asking him for his highest score or his favorite playing location.
Step 7. Give him a sincere compliment
Generally, this method is more effective than expressing your feelings directly; by doing so, he will see that you understand and recognize his qualities. If his knowledge of comics fascinates you, try saying that talking to him has helped increase your knowledge of the X-Men story.
- It's best not to compliment physical appearances such as body shape or eyes at this stage if you don't want to scare him off.
- If he's just finished a gig or other big event, make sure you congratulate and compliment his performance.
Step 8. Don't overwhelm him with text messages
Texting is fun; however, overdoing it will also bore him. If you're used to spending hours exchanging messages with her, try taking a step back and reducing the frequency. This step is especially necessary if you have been the more active party in sending messages.
- If you send two messages but no one replies, stop doing it for a while. After all, if he also likes you, sooner or later your message will definitely be replied to.
- Don't go too far back and completely stop texting (or stop replying to them). Even if you want to be high-priced, don't make him feel neglected or he'll run away from you.
Part 3 of 3: Asking Her On a Date
Step 1. Plan your date
There is no need to compose a script that is too detailed; just take a moment to think about why you like it. If you plan ahead, you're more likely to stutter or make overly intense statements like "I've liked you for seven years!" will decrease.
- Emphasize that you are asking her out. By doing so, he will know that you like him; in addition, he will also have the opportunity to consider appropriate responses and follow-up steps.
- Know how to deal with rejection. Everyone must have received rejection; in other words, the rejection you receive is not the end of human civilization. If he rejects you, try saying, “Thanks for being honest! After all, I also enjoy our friendship, really." After that, try to distance yourself from him and reconnect with him a few weeks later or when you feel ready.
Step 2. Tell him how much you enjoy spending time with him
By saying it, you are indirectly confirming your love for him. Send the message after a trip or a date with him. Say a sentence that means, “It was a great night! I can't wait to go with you again."
Step 3. Express your feelings
Use clear and simple language when you do this! In every word that is spoken, express your belief; tell him what you like about him, and make sure your statement sounds personal. For example, try saying, “I like you because you are very social,” or “Your hospitality really makes the day of those around you! That's what made me like you."
As when complimenting a woman, also mention her character or personality that catches your attention. For example, explain that he looks cool when he's involved in environmental activities or always manages to make you laugh
Step 4. Ask her out on a date
After expressing your feelings, of course you want to deepen the intensity of the relationship by officially dating him. Before formalizing a relationship with him, of course you need to first ask him out alone. Make it clear that you are not taking her out with someone else; also make it clear that you are asking her out on a date, not just traveling to fill your spare time.
- When asking someone out, make sure you always mention a specific time. For example, you might say, "Would you like to see a theater extracurricular together on Friday night?" If he likes you too but can't come on Friday, he's more likely to reschedule the date. But if he doesn't like you, at least You'll find it easier to move on when you hear him say, "I'm sorry, I can't" than "I'm sorry, I don't like you."
- Plan a date that can accommodate both of your interests. If you both enjoy playing golf and drinking milkshakes, try asking, "Would you like to play golf together on Thursday? After that, we can have milkshakes at the cafe next door."
