In fact, some people have quite a strange hobby, namely arguing or arguing. Are there people around you who are also like that? In many cases, debaters just want to be seen as right or appear superior, regardless of the topic. In other words, they can react negatively if their opinion is challenged or criticized. The best way to deal with such people is to have a completely different attitude! Believe me, for them, nothing is more upsetting than having an interlocutor not taking their argument, not taking their argument seriously, and/or pointing out faults in their argument.
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Method 1 of 3: Avoiding Arguments
Step 1. Don't argue with him
Avoiding an argument is not as easy as turning the palm of the hand. However, whenever you come face to face with someone who likes to argue, always remember that that person won't want to listen to your opinion. In other words, nothing you say will end the argument, and chances are, the person won't want to admit their fault! For the sake of maintaining sanity, simply state that you refuse to debate related topics.
Step 2. Avoid hot topics
When communicating with someone who likes to argue, it's best to stick to light, less important topics. If a potentially heated topic comes up, such as possession of a gun or abortion, make it clear that you don't want to talk about it or that it doesn't sound very interesting.
Change the topic of the conversation. If you feel the debate is starting to heat up, try taking the topic in another direction instead of expressing your disagreement
Step 3. Stay calm
Don't let your emotions run high! Remember, the other person should not realize that the debate that is happening has managed to provoke your emotions, so that he doesn't feel victorious or superior and continues to argue. If you don't seem provoked by his argument, he's likely to be dissatisfied with the outcome. As a result, sooner or later he will stop arguing and look for a new, more interesting target to argue with.
Make sure your volume is kept low. If a person turns the volume up, it is more likely that the other person will be compelled to speak louder. Resist the temptation! Remember, speaking in a low voice will make you sound wiser. As a result, the interlocutor will feel annoyed when he sees it
Step 4. Show your boredom
For example, you can constantly look at the clock or a message on your phone. Then, tell him that you have something important to do and step back from his presence. Arguing can make someone who likes to argue feel superior. To transfer that superiority to your side, try to point out that the topic he or she is bringing up feels less interesting to you.
Step 5. Express your agreement without actually agreeing with the argument
For example, you could say, "Maybe you're right, but I prefer it my way." By doing so, there's nothing more to argue about, right? Plus, you can also nod your head without actually agreeing. his opinion, then move on to another topic as if there was an agreement between the two of you.
Voice approval without actually agreeing. Doing so can help slow the tempo of the conversation and doesn't risk heating up the conversation
Method 2 of 3: Giving Upset Arguments
Step 1. Tell the other person that their argument is wrong
Don't add any facts that the other person can argue again! Instead, simply say that the argument is wrong, and don't supplement the claim with another explanation. Trust me, someone who likes to argue will definitely feel very angry when he is blamed, especially if he is actually right.
Step 2. Ask for proof
Even if the argument sounds valid, keep asking for evidence against every claim he makes. Show your refusal to continue the debate until the claim is proven! Make the other person work as hard as you can until he or she feels exhausted or sick of continuing the argument.
Step 3. Point out the wrong grammar
If the other person uses inappropriate words when arguing, stop immediately and point out the mistake. Doing so would not only interrupt his momentum, it would also make him feel intellectually inferior. The more detailed and irrelevant the "fixes" you present, the better the results. Anyone will feel annoyed if they have given three paragraphs of argument but only responded with, "Just, not just".
Step 4. Make the other person feel intimidated
Show a condescending attitude to the other person so that your position feels more superior in his eyes. For example, you can use simpler words so he can understand them better.
Roll your eyes. Move your eyeballs to one side, then rotate them in the opposite direction. If you want to maximize the effect, you can also combine it with a light shake of the head. This expression shows that the person you are talking to actually sounds silly and stupid
Step 5. Cite ridiculous and irrelevant sources
For example, try inserting quotes from movies, television series, or other irrelevant figures in your argument. Also, try quoting songs that could provide similar benefits! Trust me, this method is very difficult for the other person to break, especially since he or she must first identify the seriousness of your sentence before responding.
For example, if the other person started a debate about American foreign policy, a possible response would be, "Well, as Billy Joel said, 'We didn't start the fire.'"
Step 6. Focus on the things you take for granted
If the topic being debated is less important, point out the characteristics of the other person who likes to exaggerate things that are actually trivial. Remember, people who like to argue often act as if the whole argument is important, especially since their main focus is being on the right side. Therefore, show that the debate that occurs is the result of a character defect, so that he is increasingly reluctant to continue the debate process.
Step 7. Take things personally
Forget the topic of debate and focus on showing your emotions and feelings of offence. For example, if you feel like you're about to lose in a debate about poverty, try saying, "Ugh, think about your new hairstyle instead of poverty." This kind of attack won't help win an argument, but it can often silence the other person and embarrass him. However, be aware that doing so can turn a verbal argument into a physical fight!
Method 3 of 3: Controlling Emotions
Step 1. Keep yourself calm
Generally, someone who likes to argue will constantly provoke anger or an emotional response to the other person. That's why, don't show that the interaction has succeeded in making you angry or upset.
Smile. Show that his argument can't bring you down! Sometimes, dropping the other person is the only thing someone who likes to argue wants, you know
Step 2. Ask questions
Instead of trying to convince him to understand your perspective, try asking questions that relate to his perspective. Often times, it can help both of you to get to the root of the argument. For example, you could ask, "What is the reasoning behind your argument?" Remember, you don't need to justify your position in the eyes of the other person. In addition, you also need to give him the opportunity to voice his complaints. Generally, this method is powerful enough to calm someone who likes to argue, even though they are unable to solve the problem that occurs.
Step 3. Know when it's time to leave the conversation
If you feel the situation isn't going to end well, don't hesitate to move away. After all, you can bring up the topic again when you feel the situation is stable enough.
Tips
- Don't respond to someone who is bigger and stronger than you. Remember, you still need to be on guard in case the situation ends up getting worse or doesn't go as expected.
- Don't say anything that you will later regret. Choose your diction very carefully when arguing.
- Don't let your frustration show through. In other words, smile throughout the conversation. This action will actually make him feel annoyed because he didn't succeed in provoking your anger, you know!
- Don't break eye contact with him. Ending eye contact will make him feel victorious and successfully implant his argument in your head! That's why, you still have to be assertive and show confidence in the arguments presented without taking your eyes off her.
