Breakups, however brief they may be, are challenging challenges for any relationship. However, the existence of distance and separation can actually help both parties to realize the importance of the relationship for them. Are you and your partner currently in a long distance relationship? Or, is your marriage relationship on the brink? If you answered "yes" to one or both of these questions, try reading this article to find out various ways to make your partner miss you again and the fire of love rekindles. Remember, one of the most effective ways to make your partner miss you is to improve the quality of the relationship!
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Method 1 of 3: Making Husband Miss When Distance Separates
Step 1. Discuss the existence of the distance openly
Do you and your partner live under the same roof but rarely see each other? Or, are you both in a long-distance marriage relationship? Whatever the situation, make sure you and your partner take the time to discuss it. Remember, good communication patterns are the key to keeping the fire of romance burning, even though the two of you are physically far apart.
- Such discussions should take place periodically. In other words, contact your partner regularly to make sure the situation remains favorable to both of you. Don't be afraid to speak up if you feel something needs to be changed!
- Try compiling a list of the benefits of distance and the trade-offs that come with it. Whenever your relationship has been troubled, or when the breakup has sparked an argument, try reading the list again to remind both of you of the reasons behind the distance and the compromises you've made beforehand.
Step 2. Give a pleasant surprise
Make your partner miss you by giving simple gifts that make them remember you when distance is separating. Before parting ways with your partner again, try hiding a simple "treasure" somewhere and have your partner look for it. The treasure can be a letter, a photo of the two of you, or another object that represents your love for him.
- If your partner is going to a faraway place, try leaving a few letters expressing your love in his suitcase or shirt pocket. Try placing the letters in different locations or slightly apart so your partner doesn't find them all at the same time.
- If you're going to be traveling, try hiding things in a few corners of the house and having your partner look for them. For example, you can leave a letter or other item that represents your affection, such as her favorite chocolate.
Step 3. Turn telephone interactions into a more personal communication process
Most likely, the topics you both talk about on the phone are not far from your daily activities, right? Even though it's not wrong, that kind of communication pattern will not make your partner miss you! So try to think of a topic that you two usually talk about face-to-face, and bring it up on the phone.
- Share things that are personal about you in every conversation. For example, tell us something interesting you observed that day, or an interesting activity you would like to try.
- Remind your partner about the things you love about them. For example, say that you really like hugs or your partner's laughter.
- Feel the need to talk about household issues, like bills or home repairs? Do that, but make sure the topic doesn't dominate the conversation! In other words, keep the conversation balanced by sharing more lighthearted and fun topics, such as the movie you've just seen or even planning your vacation together for the next few months.
Step 4. Get active together
Instead of just telling each other daily stories over the phone, try to find ways to do different activities together. Do it to remind your partner of how much fun the two of you spent together despite the distance between them.
- For example, you can invite your partner to play online games together, watch the same movie while chatting on the phone, or even invite your partner to attend the same event through a video calling app.
- Also apply this method when the two of you meet again. Whatever activity you choose, make sure you both enjoy each other's company while doing it.
Step 5. Combine several methods above
Couples who are involved in long-distance relationships will very easily get stuck in a routine. For example, if you're used to sending your partner a letter every week or calling them every night, these activities can easily turn into a routine that can no longer make your heart flutter. Therefore, make your partner look forward to the communication process between the two of you by doing different things on a regular basis.
For example, you could send a silly video or greeting card to your partner this week, then send a letter or poem the following week. This unpredictable behavior is effective in making your partner miss you even more, you know
Step 6. Don't complain about the distance between the two of you
When communicating with your partner, try not to say anything that makes him or her regret or feel guilty about being away from you. If you want to make your partner miss, don't keep complaining about the emotional burden left by your partner since he left.
- Instead, give your partner a sweet compliment. For example, tell him that something he fixed before he left has been put to good use by you. This way, your partner will realize that you value their existence. As a result, the intensity of his feelings for you will deepen!
- If you're the one who left your partner, tell them that one of your partner's jokes has managed to keep you smiling all day.
Step 7. Have a fun reunion with your partner
If you want to make your partner miss you when the two of you are separated by distance, do your best to make all the moments you spend together enjoyable. Show that you enjoy the time you spend with your partner, and they will have the same perspective.
- If your partner has just returned from a very long trip, don't burden them with new responsibilities right away. Instead, take a few days to spend quality moments with your partner and do things you both enjoy.
- If your partner has just returned from military service or a similar situation, try throwing a welcoming party at your home or picking them up at the airport with a small welcome banner.
Method 2 of 3: Missing Your Emotionally Distant Husband
Step 1. Give your partner some distance
Remember, your partner will not have the time and opportunity to miss you if the two of you are always seeing or communicating! Therefore, give your partner the opportunity to live his life without you for a while.
- To increase the percentage of success, one of the two of you will have to stay somewhere else for a while. For example, you can stay a few days at a friend's or relative's house to get away from your partner for a while. However, make it clear to your partner that you hope this separation is only temporary.
- Try to apply this method for a whole month. During this time, both of you will have time to reflect on your relationship situation. In addition, your partner will have the opportunity to miss you.
- Want to completely cut off contact with your partner? Do that if you can't stop yourself from looking for the latest news about your partner. For example, you can unfollow their social media accounts so you won't be tempted to comment on their latest posts. At the same time, don't ask your friends how your partner is doing!
Step 2. Take good care of yourself
Take advantage of the distance formed to improve your qualities as an individual. For example, take the time to exercise more often, improve emotional stability, or broaden your horizons of knowledge. When you meet your partner again, he will definitely notice the difference and therefore, your attractiveness in his eyes will increase greatly!
Plus, you'll feel better afterwards. At least, you already have the foundation to live a better life if in the end your marriage relationship with your partner still fails
Step 3. Be happy
Believe me, a man will more easily miss a woman who is fun and always happy. Therefore, spend more time hanging out with your closest friends and doing activities that you enjoy. As a result, the happiness that arises will be reflected when you and your partner have the opportunity to communicate again.
However, don't overdo it and make your partner think that you no longer need them to be happy. Remember, you want to share happiness with your partner, not make him hate your happiness
Step 4. Remind your partner of the good times the two of you had together
When you are able to reconnect with your partner, give your partner a reason to miss the good times the two of you had together. In other words, focus on the happy memory instead of the negative.
- In fact, there are various ways you can practice this method. For example, send a photo of the two of you on your honeymoon or recount a vacation you both had.
- Then, share your desire to create more positive memories with him. If the time feels right, invite your partner to discuss various changes that can be made to make this wish come true.
Method 3 of 3: Repairing Marriage Relationships
Step 1. Think about your partner's needs
One very effective way to make your partner always miss you is to improve the quality of your relationship. From now on, try to always consider your partner's perspective instead of just focusing on yours. Naturally, humans will always put their personal interests first. However, when you are married, try to spend more time identifying your partner's needs and working to meet them.
- For example, your partner may need more time to do their hobbies, or want to spend more time with you in their free time.
- If you're having trouble recognizing your partner's needs, ask what you can do to make them happier.
Step 2. Show him your appreciation
Chances are, your partner has done a lot of things that actually benefited you, but you often skip them and/or never thank them. In the future, change this behavior and start getting into the habit of thanking your partner to show how much you appreciate them. For example, say thank you immediately if your partner managed to fix something at home or make breakfast for you. Show that his actions mean a lot to you!
Every now and then, show off the kindness of your partner. For example, when the two of you are hanging out with your friends, try saying, "Hey, my beloved husband cooked a super delicious menu yesterday, you know, dinner time." Trust me, your partner will love it
Step 3. Discuss the conflicts that occurred
If you want to be viewed positively by your partner, try to always communicate the conflict well. In fact, conflict is an unavoidable “relationship spice”, and the way a partner handles conflict will greatly determine the level of success of the relationship in the future. If you want to have a healthy and happy marriage relationship, open the widest possible lines of communication and don't procrastinate in resolving conflicts that occur.
- Feel the need to escape for a while from a problematic topic? Go ahead and do that, but never bury a conflict unresolved for a long time. Remember, the goal for both of you is to find a solution that benefits both parties.
- Listen to your partner and try to understand their perspective, even if you don't agree with their understanding.
- State your point honestly, even if that honesty may not be acceptable to your partner. Remember, the problem will not be solved if you keep spinning without getting to the heart of the problem.
Step 4. Control yourself when you are arguing with your partner
Giving personal attacks will only make your partner hate, instead of respect, you. Sometimes, having difficulty controlling emotions can also turn a simple argument into a serious one! To work around this, try taking a step back and taking deep breaths whenever you feel like yelling at your partner. Trust me, it will help you both to communicate more rationally if you take the time to distance yourself and clear your mind.
The "distance" can last a few minutes or even a whole day, depending on your needs and your partner's. However, make sure you both return to discussing the topic when the situation is calmer and under control. In other words, never bury a conflict before it's resolved
Step 5. Don't get defensive
If you disagree with your partner's opinion, try not to get defensive and/or criticize your partner's point of view. Instead, try to expand your open-mindedness.
The lower your defenses, the less likely your partner will be on the defensive. As a result, the communication that occurs between the two of you will take place more productively
Step 6. Forget the mistakes that have happened in the past
Both you and your partner, must have made mistakes and hurt each other's feelings in the past, right? When this situation occurs, both of you actually have the choice to allow the mistake to damage the longevity of the relationship, or forget it and move on with life for a better marriage future.
- Ideally, you should take the second option, which is to forgive your partner's mistakes and not constantly bemoan it so that the tension in the relationship does not escalate.
- You must have made mistakes, right? If the situation occurs, feel free to admit it and express your sincere apologies.
