Are there many butterflies around you when you see them? Do you want to show the guy that you are the right partner? Do not be afraid! There are lots of great ways to get him to notice you a little flirtatious, wear the right clothes, and hear what he has to say.
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Part 1 of 3: Getting Yourself Noticed
Step 1. Look Good
The first thing that is usually noticed is appearance. This doesn't mean you're beautiful or not, nor does it mean you have to dress “wow” all the time. But more to how you emphasize the interesting things about yourself.
- Surprisingly, healthy hair usually attracts attention. Thickness, shine, and fragrance usually play an important role. Make sure you wash your hair at least 2 times a week and you use a moisturizer.
- Use what suits you. Many people try to wear things that don't really fit them, or are uncomfortable. It's possible that a little cleavage will make him notice you, but it's much more important that you're comfortable with it.
- Exercise helps you stay healthy and fit. Find an exercise routine that you enjoy such as Zumba, yoga, running, or dancing. Do this for at least 15 minutes a day and your body will love you!
Step 2. Use red
Red is more attractive than other colors. This will give you more attention than other colors.
- You can use it frontally with a red shirt or indirectly through lipstick, scarves, or red shoes.
- Interestingly, red also makes men attractive too.
Step 3. Present yourself effectively
Dating can be like job hunting or marketing. This means you have to find out how to attract the guy's attention through your appearance. This doesn't mean you have to be someone else. This means you have to show the best and the simplest side of yourself.
Step 4. Make a list of your good qualities
If you can only find a few (usually due to a lack of confidence), ask a trusted friend or family member to help. You can write something like “good at dancing”, “friendly”, “helpful.”
Step 5. Describe that quality
Choose three from your list. This doesn't mean you have to sacrifice complex individuals, but rather how to present yourself initially. If he is interested, he will start to see another side of you. With the example above, you can present yourself as a “friendly and helpful dancer.”
This doesn't mean you need to hide other parts of yourself. If your favorite thing is to wear Renaissance clothes and attend the Ren Fairs, great! If he likes it, of course he will pay attention to you. If you are unsure of the reaction, wait for your joy until you get to know each other better
Step 6. Practice self-confidence
Confidence is interesting because it shows how you feel about yourself and gives clues as to how others should feel about you. The worse you feel about yourself, the less likely other people are to be attracted to you!
- If you're having trouble being confident, fake it until it feels natural. You can trick yourself into being confident by tricking your brain. Start with small steps (wearing high heels, or red lipstick) and work your way up to something more like telling the guy how you feel about him.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others. You will find that in life there will always be people who are more attractive, more confident, with better relationships than you. If you focus on the good in yourself and in your life, you won't care if other people are better than you.
Step 7. Ask him questions about himself
People like to talk about themselves. They also prefer to know that someone is interested in them. When you talk, make sure you keep the direction of the conversation about him. This means that instead of talking about what you want to say, it's better to ask him what he just said.
- A good thing to remember is that the more intimate you are in the conversation, the more interesting you become. Be willing to open up a little about yourself.
- Don't let yourself dominate the whole conversation. If you find that he only wants to talk about himself, walk away. Men like that will not be a romantic partner for you. Remember, your feelings and thoughts and your life are important too.
Step 8. Be nice to his friends
As with women, a man's friends are also important to him. If his friend doesn't like you, this will likely affect your chances of getting close to him. If they like you, they will certainly help you a lot!
- Make sure you know them. Ask them questions about themselves. When you're with them, make sure you ask questions about what they've already told you to show you're paying attention. For example, if a friend likes playing video games, ask them if they've got a new high score.
- Again, it's good to remember that if they don't do anything other than talk about themselves, or don't heed you when you have an opinion, you will have a very difficult time approaching the man you love.
Part 2 of 3: Flirt With Him
Step 1. Get the adrenaline going
Interestingly, getting his adrenaline up makes him more interested in you, especially if there is already an attraction to you.
- Fun stimulates attraction, so if it's arousing (not sexual) you can also make it more attractive to you.
- Some ideas to increase the adrenaline are, playing board games, watching scary movies, rock climbing, and many more.
Step 2. Maintain eye contact
If you only do one of these steps, do this. There's something about eye contact that sparks attraction and builds a relationship.
- While prolonged eye contact can be uncomfortable, don't stop. You can turn that discomfort into a relationship.
- For example, you talk to him before class. When the two of you maintain eye contact, this can not only show your complete attention, but can also give both of you a bit of a thrill.
Step 3. Use your body language
You may not realize how body language can say something. Using simple tricks will liven up his interest. Try adding a little bit when you're flirting or talking to him.
- Lean forward. Interested people will lean on each other. Lower your voice and lean on the table, or on him.
- Copy the moves. People respond more to someone who is similar to them. So do things like him. This little thing will indirectly make him more interested in you.
- Smile. Nothing but a smile can attract the attention of others. This works especially well when you maintain eye contact with him.
Step 4. Make him laugh
There's no such thing as humor that can bring two people closer together. Telling him funny things can show how fun it is to hang out with you.
- Where everyone's humor is different, usually stories can actually make people laugh. Tell him when you got on the wrong bus, or when your dad forgot your name when he introduced you to his friends. Make sure you don't lower yourself when you tell this, like saying you're “stupid” or something similar.
- Have a debate match can attract each other. This means doing funny things to each other. For example, when playing cards you can laugh at his card choices and make a funny statement that you are the best player so that he can mock you when you lose.
Step 5. Read her body language
Just as your body language helps you to attract him, his body language can also tell you a lot of things. This isn't exact science, but it will help to read his mood and feelings.
- A good sign that he's interested in talking to you is if his voice is gentle. This means he wants his words to form intimacy between the two of you and doesn't want anyone else to hear.
- A man who touches you is someone who is attracted to you. This can be by touching on the shoulder, or offering his hand when you climb something, putting his hand on your back in a crowd, and much more.
- If he checks your reaction to his actions, this is a sign of interest. This is especially true if he's doing something cool. He wants to see how you feel about what he just did.
- Good hearing is another sign of interest. If he listens to you when you talk, remembers what you said, then there's a good chance he's interested in you.
Step 6. Flirt through social media
Internet, skype, this is a great medium for flirting with men. Flirting in the real world is more important than on social media. But it can still be a great way to keep him interested and remind him of you.
- Send him a message about what you saw and remind you of him. This is great especially if it's a picture, let alone a funny picture. For example, if you see a fat squirrel, you could take a picture of it and send it to him saying that it reminds you of the story of the squirrel stealing his lunch.
- Above all, keep interactions on social media short. Don't send too many messages on facebook in a day. Send just a few shows that you think about it and move on to your daily activities. It will be more attractive in the long run.
Part 3 of 3: Taking This Relationship Further
Step 1. Tell him how you feel
If the two of you have been flirting and flirting with each other and then you feel there is a thrill, the next best thing is to tell him these feelings. The worst thing that can happen is that he doesn't feel the same way, but at least you know it. You will also know that you are brave enough to try!
- Say it directly and make sure you're alone. You don't want the audience, especially if they don't feel the same way, but you also don't want a place where they put pressure on them.
- Say things like, “I've really enjoyed being with you these past few months and feel like there's something between us. I want to date you and want to see if this feeling is true. What do you think?"
Step 2. Do it slowly
If he doesn't respond well, then you need to make sure you stay calm. Rushing can ruin everything.
- Although there is nothing wrong with having sex on a first date, it is better if you hold it in. Sex makes things complicated. You have to make sure that this relationship is what you want before making it more complicated.
- It also gives you the opportunity to consider whether you really want to be with him. Relationships very rarely end the way you imagine and you need to change accordingly. You also need to consider whether you really like him or just want to have a girlfriend.
Step 3. Do your own thing
The most important thing in getting him interested is doing your own thing. Go out with friends without him, have fun alone. You'll show that you know how to have a good time and not get too attached to it.
- Avoid procrastinating on anything else and go with him when he asks all the time. You want to be available to go with it, but you also want to have life. Show that while you love going out with him, you have other things in your life too.
- Remember to have fun with yourself. Do what you love, try new experiences. Happy people will attract other people to them, because they want that little bit of happiness. This doesn't mean you need to fake that happiness, it just means you have to cultivate joy within yourself.
Step 4. Limit your expectations
Having too many expectations of the guy and his relationship with him can be frustrating. Getting into a relationship with too many future plans will place too much hope on it. He will feel depressed.
- For example, if the two of you are just starting out in a relationship, you probably don't need to immediately think about getting married, living together, or even saying "I love you." Wait a moment, at least until the honeymoon phase is over (roughly 3 months) before trying to get really serious.
- There's nothing wrong with dreaming about where this relationship is headed, but forcing it to happen like that could even kill your relationship with him.
Step 5. Show him you appreciate him
People love to be noticed, and they love it when others show that their efforts are not in vain. When you show that you appreciate him, it will make you bond with him.
- Thank him when he does something for you. Like if he always drives you to school, bakes a cake, or because he's always on time.
- Tell him how he means to you. You don't have to confess your love, but you can say something like "It means a lot because you've helped me so far."
Tips
- Don't be afraid to be yourself. If you act like everyone else, he won't like it. Even if it's your best friend, he still won't like it.
- If something doesn't work, don't be afraid to try new things.
- Wearing fragrances can be very attractive. Put a little behind your ear. Remember that the closer someone smells your perfume, the more attractive you are.
Warning
- Be careful with technology. If it takes him hours to reply to your messages, maybe he's busy or doesn't want to talk, and he may prefer face-to-face conversations over text messages. Don't be too obsessive, this can make you look desperate or annoying.
- Don't be flirty with his friends, he could think that you are not interested or worse he will get jealous
- He may not like you, if that's the case, don't go after him or you'll just annoy him.
- Don't change yourself just to impress him. He must like the real you.
- If you manage to be his girlfriend, don't just say "I love you" because this can be a little scary.
