You have a crush on a man? Sometimes men can be an enigma to women. Men look, smell, talk, and act differently than women. However, men are still human, and because of that you can talk to men like you would talk to anyone. Here are some tips you can use to get to know a guy.
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Part 1 of 3: Finding Out about the Man You Have a crush on
Step 1. Monitor him at school
Usually, you can guess a lot about a guy by the actions of the people around him, his friends, his grades, and so on.
- Listen to the conversation. If you see him talking to someone before or after class, sit around him and listen or walk past him to hear some of the words he says.
- Try to get into the same group as him and make sure that you start a comfortable conversation with him.
- Find out about his hobbies, such as sports or music, then come to his games or shows. The way he tries in the competition can show how he handles things in life, for example if he is aggressive and leads the other members, or if he is easygoing.
- Look at the way he treats other people. If someone asks a silly question and he laughs it off, it shows that he is disrespectful. Or, a person may need help and he or she offers to help that person. People will show their true nature by the way they treat others, especially when they feel that no one else is paying attention.
Step 2. Ask your friends
If you trust your friends, you should be able to ask them and they will give you an honest opinion about your crush.
- Beware of false information. Your friend probably likes the guy you have a crush on too, and as everyone knows, when it comes to love and war, there's no such thing as fair play. Your friends may give you misleading and false information about the guy you have a crush on.
- Even if they aren't lying or misleading you, it's possible that they're afraid they'll hurt your feelings, so they don't tell you everything.
Step 3. Hear about it from people you know
If there is a group of women gossiping about men, and you sit close to them in class, they may be able to tell you a lot of information, without even having to ask.
Your friends may say things you want to hear, but people you don't know very well or don't even know at all may be more open about providing information
Part 2 of 3: Starting the First Conversation
Step 1. Say hello
Saying hello is the easiest and most direct way to recognize someone, be it a boy, girl, man or woman. Saying hello is also the most honest and clear indication that you are attracted to someone.
- Usually, men have to muster up the courage to talk to women. If you talk to him first, be prepared to deal with his flustered self.
- If he doesn't really respond to you, it's not the end of the world. Maybe he feels very shy and doesn't know how to talk to women.
Step 2. Have a short conversation
You don't have to jump into a long conversation to get to know him. If you see him in the hallway, think of something small and casual to say to him.
- Ask about her class, her friends, what fun things to do around her, the weather, the hours, and more.
- Try not to talk about serious things, such as his hopes or dreams, the things he fears, or anything personal. This may make him feel uncomfortable, and you'll need to get his attention first before you can get to know him and what he wants.
Step 3. Make strong eye contact and smile at him
Maybe you don't want to approach him in person, so make eye contact with him, then smile, and look the other way.
- Repeat if necessary because he may not understand what you mean the first time. One glance and a smile may just be a coincidence, but two or three glances with a smile are certainly intentional.
- If you don't smile when you make eye contact, you may look scary, so smile!
Step 4. Try to borrow something from him
Maybe one day you need a pen or pencil, and you can borrow it from the person in front of you. However, why should you do it if you are in the same class as the guy you have a crush on? Go to him, then try to borrow what you need from him.
- Most people won't say no when you want to borrow something small like a pen or pencil, so chances are they won't refuse your request.
- It also provides a reason for you to come back and talk to him again, which is when you need to return what you borrowed. Take the opportunity to tease her a bit, and say something like "You're my hero! I can't pass Mrs. Pepper's exam without the pen you borrowed". Think creatively, and don't waste your chances.
Step 5. Ask for his help
Maybe you're at the library and "need" help finding a book. Maybe you "lost" the bag. Whatever the reason, find a great guy you have a crush on, and ask him to help you out.
- Make sure that your request is at least reasonable enough. If you put your bag under the library desk and you ask him for help finding yours, he may think you're stupid.
- Ask your friends for help. If you "lose" your phone, simply give it to your friend while you spend the precious ten or twenty minutes looking for it with the guy you have a crush on. Try to chat with him while looking for his phone, and when you can't find it, say thank you and then walk away. When your phone has been "found," go back to the guy and thank him for the help. You can use this perfect opportunity to start a second conversation.
Step 6. Sit next to him
Once you're around him, start introducing yourself, and start a nice conversation with him.
If he's in a place with a small table, in an empty classroom, or the only person in a restaurant or cafe, it will be awkward for you to sit next to him. Try to do it casually
Part 3 of 3: Getting to Know Herself Better
Step 1. Make an effort to continue the conversation with him
The word "hello" is just the beginning, and you won't get very far if that's all you say to him. You've now passed the initial stage and started chatting with him, but don't know how to go to the next level. Think of some good questions to ask him, such as:
- What makes you smile?
- What is your favorite movie/video game/book?
- If you could visit any place in the world right now, where would you want to go, then why?
- What's your favorite sport?
- When do you feel very proud of yourself?
- What qualities do you look for in a woman?
- What's the craziest thing you've ever done?
- What is your favorite food?
- Remember, this is not an audition. If your conversation with him is casual, that's okay because you can start a conversation with him next time. The more you talk to him, the more comfortable you and him will be with each other.
Step 2. Get the phone number
If you've had a good enough chat with him, ask for his number. You might see him around a lot, but asking for a phone number is a good thing because you can call them and text each other.
If he notices that you're interested in him, he may ask for your number first
Step 3. Try to befriend him
Making friends is a way to really find out about a guy.
- Starting with the first conversation, dig deep and try to find out what interests him. Short conversations are great when you're meeting someone for the first time, but they're called short for a reason: they're so short, in no time you'll be very curious to dig deeper. You don't need to prepare for what you're going to say, but think about how to move from the phase of talking about interests and groups of friends to things that are more important to you.
- If you don't really know how to proceed, start by asking your boyfriend or brother if you have one. They're also men, so it's possible that they can give you ideas about what you can say or do. However, keep in mind that everyone is unique, and the advice given by some may not be the best for your crush.
Step 4. Don't let friendship be the final stage of your relationship with him
Eventually you become friends with him to get to know him better, but you want to be more connected than just friends. If you get to know him well enough, and feel like going a step further, try to make it clear to the guy you have a crush on.
- Give signs about your desire. Try to seduce him, compliment him, or ask him to do things with you. If he doesn't understand your cues, trust that his friends will make him aware of your desires when he talks about things you did with him.
- Remember, he may like you too, but people can be shy. Don't be afraid to act first if this is the person you want.
